(Closed) Anyone tear pretty badly with their delivery?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
7349 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had an episiotomy with my daughter.  I wasn’t THAT bad.  The worst part was, that the “dissolving” stiches did NOT dissolve!  I had to go back at my 6 week check up to have them taken out.  That was not cool.  But the actual episiotomy was fine- no ill effects or visibale scar.  I know it is just because I am familiar with my own experience, but I would be afraid to tear- I would prefer to have the doctor do it.

Post # 4
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was cut, but within 6 weeks I was all healed. It was only really painful for about one week.

Post # 5
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My mom was cut when she had me and she said the Dr. that did it went WAY overboard.  She said she couldn’t sit down for almost two weeks.  

With my brother and sister she said the dr. was much more conservative and the recovery wasn’t bad at all.  

Post # 6
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My understanding is that most doctors don’t “cut” as a regular practice anymore. Mrs DG talked about “laboring down” in her labor story post. This is what my doctor did also and it worked very well. 

Basically once the baby gets to a certain point you wait and let your body have time to stretch naturally versus continuing to push and forcing a tear. I believe that I had a small tear but I couldn’t really even tell you. I was uncomfortable for a week or so but nothing unbearable. I didn’t even take any painkillers after the first 2 days.  


Post # 7
7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Derbybride is right… Laboring down saved me and prevented tearing.  It was a beautiful thing and I can’t recommend it highly enough!

Post # 8
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I did perineal massage with all of my 4 kids and had no tearing and no episiotomies at all!  It was great!!

Post # 11
971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I started around 28 weeks.  My OB said I didn’t have to start until around 34 weeks, but I wanted to start sooner hoping for better results.  I don’t know if starting at that point was more beneficial  or not.  I started it at that time with all my kiddos. 

Post # 12
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know you were asking about tearing badly but I would like to throw in that I didn’t tear at all =) The midwife put a warm rag down there and massaged it and told me not to rush it, when she started to crown she told me to stop pushing for a few seconds to allow proper stretching so I was just fine.

Post # 13
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

My tear was long but not deep.  When baby crowned, I tried to slow down, but what can I say…he has a big head, lol.   90% I think!

One of my relatives had a very bad episiotomy experience, and I had in my birth plan that was a no-go.  I know it’s not standard anymore, anyway, but luckily I had a relatively fast labor, anyway.

Post # 14
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had a pretty bad tear, but it wasn’t the worst. I think I remember the Dr saying something about a 2nd degree tear…? I don’t know, it’s all a big blur lol.

It took him almost 45 minutes to stitch me up, it was actually MORE painful than the actual delivery. Probably b’cuz all of my adrenaline was gone.

I had a really difficult time moving for about a week (like bedridden), but the tear healed really well within a month.

Post # 15
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hate to say, but I tore badly with my son, the doctor actually said “wow you tore from front to back!” It was beyond unpleasant, I had to be stitched up and tried to be very careful caring for myslef afterwards.

Post # 16
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I tore just a little bit (getting stiched up hurt worse than labor for me). My daughter just came out a little quickly. I was sore for about a week but not bad after that.

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