Post # 1
Since the ladies you would like to have standing up with you don’t get along at all or due to some other stressful situation that would put a damper on the atmosphere of the day? How did that work out for you if you went that route?
Post # 3
I didn’t have bridesmaids, and it was a fabulous decision. The people who wanted to hang out with me while I got ready did, and besides that, there was ZERO drama and ZERO extra stress at having to corral people. I highly recommend it.
Post # 4
I had a matron of honor, informally, and it was awesome. Not dealing with the stress of bridesmaids ROCKED, man.
Post # 5
I didn’t have bridesmaids or a MOH.. It was just me and DH standing up in front of each other and it was perfect this way. I would never change that. We asked our closest friends to be witnesses as we couldn’t have family do it according to the laws where we were married. And involved our family in other ways, readings during the ceremony and my father walking me down the aisle.
Post # 6
I’m only having my oldest sister be my MOH, between FI and me we have to many sisters to include them all. I did have one “friend” who, as soon as I told her we got engaged, said “Well, I’m going to be AT LEAST a bridesmaid right?” That just turned me off to the whole idea.
Post # 7
I’m not having any. I have a sister and one friend who were pretty disapointed at first but they are over it now. It’s one less thing to think about, or worry about.
Post # 8
I also didn’t have bridesmaids. My sister had just recently passed away and I figured if she wasn’t going to be in it why should anyone else? I also didn’t want to deal with girls getting upset if I didn’t pick them, or having to deal with buying dresses and such. I wanted everything simple and it definitely was. I loved it and I wasn’t stressed at all!
Post # 9
i ended with SIX BMs for a small destination wedding and my FI has two GMs. and he would have been fine not having any. so ya, i think if i could go back in time, i would have just had my sister as MOH. i always wanted BMs my whole life though and as soon as i called my 3 best after i was engaged, i asked them immediately. then i wanted to include FIs family, so i asked his niece who was beyond excited. then my other friend let it be known that she was upset i didnt ask her….so i asked her. totally got out of control. and there is more stress to come.
Post # 10
I am thinking about going without — I mean there are a women in my life who are special to me, but it just seems like too much extra flak.
At one point I was worrying about individual budgets, body sizes, etc etc etc, and then I thought “gee wouldn’t it just be easier to skip it, and not worry about the possible drama fest that would ensue?”
And you know what, it will be easier. I don’t have to worry about coordinating arrivals, whose budget is more flexible than whose, who is going to feel uncomfortable in a particular dress (oh the dress woes!), who is going to have an issue with public speaking or standing in front of stranger who will stare into their soul.
Nope I just have to worry about little old me.
If we do anything along the lines of bridesmaids or groomsmen, it will be similar to what Mrs. Grape said, informally.
Post # 11
I was trying to go without any for the same reason – NO DRAMA! I really don’t get along with my sister, so I wanted my cousin to stand with me. But, that in itself would cause drama, so I decided to not have any…. well until my fiance said that he wanted his brother to stand with him. So now, my sister will be standing so that it doesn’t look awkward for him to have someone on his side, and none on mine. Oh well…
Post # 12
I have no bridesmaids and I am very happy! I don’t have to worry about which friend or FSIL I’ve excluded. I chose to do it this way after watching several friends get married and seeing the drama that having bridesmaids caused. There was always someone bitching about another bridesmaid acting a certain way, someone not including someone else…you know, DRAMA!! My wedding will be a no-drama event!
Post # 13
Just a few weeks before we were engaged, I was the MOH in a friend’s wedding, and OMG at the cost and insanity of it all. After spending a little over $600 on hers I vowed to myself that I could never put a woman through all that. Therefore, on our day, it’ll be just he and I with immediate family watching. Then…the next day we’re getting back in our wedding getup to have a reception with 100 or so friends and family.
Post # 14
I’m not having bridesmaids – not because there were any problems with them; I just couldn’t get fewer than 9 and that seemed ridiculous. Plus, my FI has way fewer close friends, so it would have looked super-unbalanced. Not that there’s anything necessarily wrong with that, but it would have made us both uncomfortable.
So far it’s worked out GREAT! One good friend is throwing me a bachelorette weekend anyway. I think I will invite any of those ladies who want to to get ready with me in the morning; if they don’t want to, that’s fine too. So I get all the perks, without A) asking my friends to spend a lot of money, B) paying for gifts, bouquets, hair/makeup, or extra meals.
Post # 15
I did not have any (we had a smal wedding). If I was having a larger wedding, I still wouldn’t want any! I think the less other people to worry about the better.
Post # 16
i’m not having any! it’s keeping costs low for me (no bm gifts or bouquets to buy) and them (no dresses they’ll only wear once), so everyone appreciates it! plus, NO drama.