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People are nuts. Its amazing how people come out of the woodwork to come to the wedding when you rarely speak to them or havent in quite some time
weddings are contagious. take it as a compliment. during the planning stages of my wedding i got all types of randoms demanding to be invited. they are just so excited for you that they want to come. i had several - SEVERAL - people crash the actual affair. Who has that kind of time to spend and entire day and give a pricey gift for someone you barely know? I swear weddings are intoxicating...the dress, the speeches, the cake...
Shortly after I got engaged, I told my semi-distant friend and her sister about the proposal through email. My friend immediately wrote back and asked for the date so she could make sure to block it off! I was like, well.. I haven't gotten to the guest list yet.. I just thought it was kind of presumptuous I never said how big of a wedding I was having!
THIS is seriously one of the reasons why we're eloping...our coworkers expect to be invited, friends that we haven't spoken to in years suddenly tell me on facebook that they can't wait till our wedding and one girl has even told me she wants to invite someone...I'm convinced people just want to go to a party and eat a free meal.
I've had people I haven't talked to in YEARS write on my facebook saying "I better get an invite"! ahh
Oh goodness, don't even get me started about the people who came out of the woodwork to get invited to my wedding. I was raised in a small town and went home one christmas with my fiance and now everyone in the TOWN thinks they are invited (but than again, I think they think I would have it there...but it's in Florida) So I am obligated now from my evil (just kidding, but totally now) mom to throw a recpetion in my home town for the people who aren't able to travle to FL to attend my actual bash...grrness! It makes me so mad..
I have tried to keep my wedding off facebook because I think I have like four ACTUAL friends that I talk to on there...everyone is I grew up with in high school and haven't talked to them since graduation.
I feel your pain! Two of my aunts and my first cousin all stated that if they cannot bring their significant others (none of which I have even met!), then they'd rather not attend the wedding! It initially bothered me that they would choose not to be at my wedding, but I quickly got over it. It's their loss!!
It's sooooo weird. Yes. Ok, the hardest experience regarding this subject is, that fiances sisters friends alllllll expect to be invited. She actually told most of them that they are invited.
In fact, we told my parents, his parents and all of our family that we want a small wedding- which to us is 150 ppl max, and she still is fighting with me <span style="text-decoration: underline;">TO THIS DAY for her friends to be invited- like 14 people (the ladies plus their dates/husbands). I am standing firm though and I told her that I'm so sorry but we are having a small wedding - not a free for all. She could have one table, which she insists on- all to herself. Which will be 8 people total.
I could seriously go on and on about this.
How about, a wife of one of their aunts sisters husbands asked "So am I invited?" To the sister when we got engaged. I don't even know this person. Actually ... I don't know like a third of the people we're inviting.
Wow. I had no idea it was like this for everyone. We're eloping because nobody was really interested in going to our wedding, FI's family included! I guess we've got opposite reasons, redbullfanatic :-).
I have customers who come into work and expect to be invited because I make their morning cup of coffee. WTH? lol. So yes. They are crazy!
yes i seriously don't get ppl nowadays, if your not invited, your not invited but my FMIL her friends are like im coming anyways even if there is no room and im not invited... its like really? she also had friends buy tickets from out of the country that were never invited... weird
I had a sorority sister who I was close with for a year or two in college (haven't talked to her since) write on my facebook wall that wow, can't believe I'm engaged since she was the one who had a boyfriend throughout college, and that she better be invited!
Also I am a member of a group of pug owners that get together once a month, and a bunch of us have blogs. I like them, but they're way older (in their late 30s and 40s) and FH and I are early-mid 20s and still party and stuff. Well some of them are kind of socially awkward and think we're all their BEST FRIENDS and flat out ASKED ME TO MY FACE if they were invited to the wedding! Worst of all I was like ummmm yes? Then we looked at our guest list and couldn't afford it- OR fit them in the venue! I shared with them that we were over budget and worried about our venue being overfull and decided to keep it mostly family and they totally understood... but I HATED that they put me in that most awkward situation!!!! Who DOES that?!?!?!??!??!!
Wow, I knew there would be some bizarra stories for this topic. LOL
Something I forgot to mention is I also have a cousin who is obsessed with dating. he had a bad marriage and since his wife left him and he moved to Houston he has hounded me for single friends yada yada. He keeps telling me he is working on having a date by my wedding. I don't care if you have a date! Who said I was asking you to bring a date? I understand if people are already dating, but dont' purposely look for a date. My brother and one of our groomsmen were single when we first started planning and are now seeing people so I've pretty much added two more people to the guest list and that is fine with us. We are happy for them! What irks me is that my cousin feels like he HAS to bring a date to my wedding. I guess partly to show off since he did try to go out with my friend who is in the bridal party.
I worked in retail, and had a co-worker say "we should ask if we can close down the store that day so that we can ALL come to your wedding!" HA! Thats like 50 people even without their dates! UM, NO!
Haha that's so funny, someone actually friended me on facebook again last night because she heard I was getting married--never mind that three years ago, she told me she never wanted to talk to me again! "God is great, beer is good and people are crazy," I guess!
i've started to completely avoid all friends as to not run into this situation. i'm kidding. but it is kind of funny when people ask about your wedding plans in a way that they assume they're invited and i'm like "eek, you're not." luckily i can tell them that we're having something on the small side, like 40 people, and super low-key. i think they get the hint.
It is bizarre. FI was doing a little facebook networking and some chick he went on one date with before he met me was telling him she would love to come to the wedding... weird! Also, I was staying overnight for a weekend event with a college friend I had not talked to in 6 years, and she kicked us out when she found out that only one girl from our sorority (not her) was invited. So I don't talk to you for 6 years, and we were never close anyway, and now one night on your pull-out couch earns you a wedding invite?
Haha! That's so funny that the woman actually gave you her number at the restaurant! Wowzers, thats really odd and rude but, funny for us to read about. Heehee!
Mrsmike- your friend kicking you out is absolutly nuts! Not if's and or but's about it- she is a crazy person....had another word in mind. 
What a freaking nutcase!
I've had old, old aquaintances pop up out of the blue and say "I'll try make it to your wedding if I'm not busy then" and I never even mentioned a single thing about inviting them or saying something that could have been misinterpreted. I've had folk just say "I'd like to come to the wedding too!" which is a compliment but, still rude in a way- people know we are having a small intimate affair and I think they should be more considerate and not put my Fiance and I in an awkward situation- didn't these peoples parents teach them to wait for an invite and not just expect to be invited or hint. This bothers me, especially as this is people we haven't known for very long.
I have a little private Facebook group for our wedding party and small guest so they can all ask questions etc... It's an out of town wedding for us and our guests and we plan on spending the whole weekend with most people so I thought this would be perfect for everyone to get to know each other a little before the big day and to share info or whatever, I've had so many people that I barely know send a request to join the group. It's just downright rude to expect to be invited like that. I just click deny and move on.
Guess who I get to see tonight? The crazy lady from shuffleboard who has threatened to crash my wedding!LOL
We know a guy who constantly texts me and my husband and is always telling us how we are his favorite couple and we make him "believe in love again" (how cheesy is that!). He even got us a bottle of Johnny Walker Blue Lable for Christmas one year! Hello, that's over $200 a bottle! Granted, we do hook him up with tickets for things but he still pays for them!
Well, we get engaged and decide on the guest list for our "close friends and family destination wedding." This guy wasn't on the list cause we are not really good friends with him (despite the bottle of JW). He kept telling us how he really wanted to come and was buying a plane ticket and was just going to come out for the dancing part of the reception. We honestly thought he was going to show up! (He didn't, thank god!)
I've had people say, "I'm coming, right?" Um, who asks that?! I reply with, "I'm sorry, but we are doing a small family thing. Like 60 people kind of small. Sorry." ::sigh::
ahh yeah, I had a friend give me a hard time for not being in the wedding party. My MOH (who is my best friend AND my FSIL) and another bridesmaid (who is one of my closest friends and a constant support) and I were hanging out with a mutual friend. When the wedding and the fact that the other two were bridesmaids came up she stopped and said "Wait, SHE'S a bridesmaid, and SHE'S a bridesmaid, but I'm NOT a bridesmaid??" True, she was in the same core group of friends as us in high school, but in the four years since she's lived out of town and is hard to stay in touch with. Later, another time when the wedding came up, she said "I'm not even invited" - an untrue statement - just to give me a hard time! Although I was sure to promise her an invitation when the bridesmaid thing came up, I'm not even sure I want to invite her anymore.
Oh, and I have some friends who I'm afraid to even talk to anymore because I talk about the wedding a lot and I'm afraid of coming to an awkward point where they assume they're invited when they're not.
I work for a very small company- 6 people total, including the husband-wife team that own it. Obviously at a company of that size, you invite everyone, or no one. Let's just say that I don't exactly love my job and REALLY don't want to see my bosses on my wedding day. Voila, invite no one from work- problem solved. THEN the wife-boss (I call them husband boss and wife boss) tells me she has rearranged her ENTIRE travel/board meeting/conference schedule, "because obviously I can't be gone the weekend of the 10th! (wink wink, nudge nudge)" AHHHHH! Can I put them in a dark corner behind a screen?
Oh My Goodness - This is my new favourite post!!!!!
@CurlySue have fun with shuffleboard stalker LOL
@teamzeewagen your hilarious! I say still don't invite them (it's your boss not your friend)
I am also having a small wedding (54 people MAX) and so the guest list is limited and we are only having close friends and family. I have a friend who is a fairly good friend but not one of my super close girl friends and when making the preliminary list she did make it on (As a B lister - not that we are waiting for NO replies but we are waiting to hear about Mr M's overseas family members before sending out any invitations so there is a possibility of her being bumped off depending on how much family can come)
When I first brought up the wedding with her she said "I better be invited!"
I was so taken off guard and offended that she was so abrupt and rude about it - she doesn't even know how many guests were having or whichever - but I just let it pass!
Next time I saw her she said it again and I was really really put off because it wasn't even like she was asking me about planning or anything just basically that she HAD to be invited! So now I am not sure if I want her there because she has really put me off and I feel like close friends understand your situation so the next time I saw her she brought it up AGAIN and this time I explained to her that she is on the list but depending on Mr. M's family we would have to decrease the amount of friends we were inviting etc. etc. hoping that she would understand and leave me alone! But then she said "I BETTER NOT GET BUMPED FOR FAMILY!!!!" So now I am just fake smiling and being all awkward - how can she think that she is more important than Mr. M's family???????
Arg! People can be so rude!
i had a few people assume invitations or tell me they wished they could come. SOme of my mom's friends from church told my mom they were planning to come and she was like...I don't think you're invited! They came to the ceremony anyway (and I have no idea how they found out where and when it was)
But I had a lot more friends and family askwardly ask about the wedding not wanted to assume they were invite.
For example, one lady asked me about my invtations and i described them and she said "I can't wait to see them! I mean, if I get one in the mail, if I'm invited. Or you could show me another time...otherwise..." AWKWARD!
I feel bad for others now that have to go through this. guest list was the abosolute worst, worst, worst part of the wedding planning!
Very. My fiance flew out to Vegas for a friend's wedding a couple years ago and when things went bad between the couple a few months later he ended up being closer to the girl than his old friend. (He had never met her before the wedding.)
When we first got engaged she was so excited and asking if she could come to the wedding and all that. My fiance never really said anything hoping she would drop it but 7 MONTHS later she's still texting him every few weeks asking about it! I can't even fathom. On the other end of the spectrum MY AUNT didn't assume they were invited and we're a very close family!
@teamzeewagen OH, I feel your pain!! haha I've kind of started working on the guest list, but nothing set in stone yet. But I have heard some comments at work about people wanting to come. There are about 7 ladies in the dept. and only two of which I would like to invite. I'm either going to have to suck it up and invite everyone or invite none! I wish you could really just do what you wanted without having to worry about anything!! I've already asked at least 2 girls to be BMs that I totally didn't want to, just to avoid any drama.... 
It's nuts! After it was up on facebook, friends left & right were all "I want to come! Am I invited?" One is this guy who annoys the crap out of me! I see him at school & he's always-oh-I wanna go to the wedding! & we're on a budget! I'm already trying to cut back the reception from 200! I want closer to 150. It gets annoying!
Our guestlist is so crazy as it is, I'm one of the only people on the planet not on Facebook, and I kinda want to join now, but won't because of those people wanting to come to our wedding!!
This is why my relationship status is not listed on Facebook! Also one of the perks to being married abroad!
A highschool friend of my FI and I, who we haven't talked to in oh, about 4 years, thought he would be a groomsman. Seriously....and that's just one example.
yeah i had someone email me asking about how wedding planning was going - i was busy at the time and was answering in short answers and she had the gaul to write back and say "so are you being vague with your answers because im not invited?" seriously who asks that!? not to mention that shes probably NOT invited LOL
It is kind of funny in some ways when it happens after you look at it, but at the time it is extremely ackward.
There is a few of my fiances friends who probably won't be invited because we have super large families and our venue comfortable holds 210 and our list is almost at 285, but came up to us after we got engaged and talked about how they were excited to go to the wedding.
and then there is a couple of my girlfriends that I am not all that close to that seem to think they are going to be bridesmaids. I am not sure if they are going to even be invited to the wedding! and one of them is super jealous of the engagement and never wants to talk about the wedding. which makes it worse.
I have people I don't even know come up to me and ask if they are invited! It is kind of ackward. Why do people think it is okay?! LOL.
And do any of you have people you barely know or are kind of friends offer to do like a ton of stuff for the wedding and that they are so excited yet you weren't even really planning on inviting them to the wedding??
lol.. that is the worst.
Yes! OMG. This girl that I barely know and talked to, who lived down the hall from me at university TWO YEARS AGO, expects to be a BRIDESMAID!!!!!!! I'm not freaking kidding. I'm considering a restraining order. It's creepy. Not to mention, it's a destination wedding and she's willing to pay her way to be there. Help!!!!
This post may be two years old, but hot damn, it's still funny. I've had people openly say they can't wait to get an invitation in the mail or people try to get some details out of me so they know what to wear. It's a wedding for crying outloud. I never knew people were so determined to be invited to a really initimate, special occasion. Oh and to spend money.
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I was just thinking of this and how funny people are. My fiance and I play on a shuffleboard team. One of the ladies on another team is very nice and I think she has a little thing for FI. She is one of those very loud and vocal people. Now we invited this one lady who we've known for years because FI has kept in touch with her. That is how he gets all his juicy gossip about shuffleboard. Haha Anyway, she is a good friend to us and has been for years. Of course, my oldest friend who plays on another team is invited, she is in the bridal party! Her husband is invited purely out of obligation on our part. This lady keeps telling us we have to invite her to the wedding and if she doesn't get an invite she will find out where it is and go anyway! Seriously? Our other friend says she will totally do it too. I just think it is funny that people who barely know you think it is just that easy to invite them to your wedding.
Another example is there is this restaurant FI and love to go to. Its a Japanese steakhouse but we know the bartenders so we like to go on Fridays bc they have a Jazz band play and we'll sit at the bar. One night we met this couple there. Honestly, we always meet someone there. It is a very open atmosphere and the owner knows us so she gets us involved in shots and stuff like that. The girl noticed my ring and asked when we were getting married. She got all excited and said we HAD to invite them to the wedding. She gave me her phone number and everything!
Am I the only one that thinks people are crazy? LOL