(Closed) Anyone think its funny how everyone wants to be “invited” to your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

People are nuts.  Its amazing how people come out of the woodwork to come to the wedding when you rarely speak to them or havent in quite some time

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

weddings are contagious. take it as a compliment. during the planning stages of my wedding i got all types of randoms demanding to be invited. they are just so excited for you that they want to come. i had several – SEVERAL – people crash the actual affair. Who has that kind of time to spend and entire day and give a pricey gift for someone you barely know? I swear weddings are intoxicating…the dress, the speeches, the cake…

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Shortly after I got engaged, I told my semi-distant friend and her sister about the proposal through email. My friend immediately wrote back and asked for the date so she could make sure to block it off! I was like, well.. I haven’t gotten to the guest list yet.. I just thought it was kind of presumptuous I never said how big of a wedding I was having!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

THIS is seriously one of the reasons why we’re eloping…our coworkers expect to be invited, friends that we haven’t spoken to in years suddenly tell me on facebook that they can’t wait till our wedding and one girl has even told me she wants to invite someone…I’m convinced people just want to go to a party and eat a free meal. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve had people I haven’t talked to in YEARS write on my facebook saying “I better get an invite”! ahh

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Oh goodness, don’t even get me started about the people who came out of the woodwork to get invited to my wedding. I was raised in a small town and went home one christmas with my fiance and now everyone in the TOWN thinks they are invited (but than again, I think they think I would have it there…but it’s in Florida) So I am obligated now from my evil (just kidding, but totally now) mom to throw a recpetion in my home town for the people who aren’t able to travle to FL to attend my actual bash…grrness! It makes me so mad..

I have tried to keep my wedding off facebook because I think I have like four ACTUAL friends that I talk to on there…everyone is I grew up with in high school and haven’t talked to them since graduation.

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I feel your pain! Two of my aunts and my first cousin all stated that if they cannot bring their significant others (none of which I have even met!), then they’d rather not attend the wedding! It initially bothered me that they would choose not to be at my wedding, but I quickly got over it. It’s their loss!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It’s sooooo weird. Yes. Ok, the hardest experience regarding this subject is, that fiances sisters friends alllllll expect to be invited. She actually told most of them that they are invited.

In fact, we told my parents, his parents and all of our family that we want a small wedding- which to us is 150 ppl max, and she still is fighting with me <span style=”text-decoration: underline;”>TO THIS DAY for her friends to be invited- like 14 people (the ladies plus their dates/husbands). I am standing firm though and I told her that I’m so sorry but we are having a small wedding – not a free for all. She could have one table, which she insists on- all to herself. Which will be 8 people total.

I could seriously go on and on about this.

How about, a wife of one of their aunts sisters husbands asked “So am I invited?” To the sister when we got engaged. I don’t even know this person. Actually … I don’t know like a third of the people we’re inviting.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow. I had no idea it was like this for everyone. We’re eloping because nobody was really interested in going to our wedding, FI’s family included! I guess we’ve got opposite reasons, redbullfanatic :-).

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have customers who come into work and expect to be invited because I make their morning cup of coffee. WTH? lol. So yes. They are crazy!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

yes i seriously don’t get ppl nowadays, if your not invited, your not invited but my FMIL her friends are like im coming anyways even if there is no room and im not invited… its like really? she also had friends buy tickets from out of the country that were never invited… weird

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I had a sorority sister who I was close with for a year or two in college (haven’t talked to her since) write on my facebook wall that wow, can’t believe I’m engaged since she was the one who had a boyfriend throughout college, and that she better be invited!

Also I am a member of a group of pug owners that get together once a month, and a bunch of us have blogs. I like them, but they’re way older (in their late 30s and 40s) and FH and I are early-mid 20s and still party and stuff. Well some of them are kind of socially awkward and think we’re all their BEST FRIENDS and flat out ASKED ME TO MY FACE if they were invited to the wedding! Worst of all I was like ummmm yes? Then we looked at our guest list and couldn’t afford it- OR fit them in the venue! I shared with them that we were over budget and worried about our venue being overfull and decided to keep it mostly family and they totally understood… but I HATED that they put me in that most awkward situation!!!! Who DOES that?!?!?!??!??!!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I worked in retail, and had a co-worker say “we should ask if we can close down the store that day so that we can ALL come to your wedding!”  HA!  Thats like 50 people even without their dates!  UM, NO!

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