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Yes - as soon as the wedding is over we are gutting all the heating and air in the house along with the duct work and having all new stuff put in. Then we'll get new living room furniture....
Other projects in the works -
Adding an addition to the upstairs - Building a 3 car garage/workshop for FI - redoing the stucco in river rock
Gosh - it looks like we will always be poor! hahahaha
well, i am crazy and take pride in being frugal, so planning for the wedding didn't really change much, haha. i know what you mean, though and i empathize. it'll be worth it!! =D
Yes! I miss going to Starbucks and getting weekly mani/pedis and going out to movies and shows and all the other little splurges I gave up when we started planning for the wedding.
Yes, I was jsut thinking about this today...between saving for our portions of the wedding (which seems to grow with EVERY decision) and the fact that we will start looking for a house late next summer, I feel like there is not ONE spare penny for either of us to indulge.
It can be very frustrating, especially since I am working 6 days a week for extra money, yet still feel like we are living paycheck to paycheck!! Ugh. Thanks ladies, it felt good to vent!
omg me too! I have a good job and we could totally afford more, but we basically keep the budget like we did in college to save for the wedding! I can't wait to be able to get my hair done etc again!
YES YES! ME !!! But our wedding is 11 months out - I'll be poor by choice for a while longer... ugh.
There's a few videogames we've been eyeing that are just going to have to wait...and that new computer..and all the concerts...*sigh* Yeah, I miss it. But the wedding is worth it! (I hope..haha)
Saving was unpleasant and then we realized we didn't want to spend any money on those cranky people we were supposed to invite to our wedding. We eloped, spent our money on ourselves and our good friends and now we're saving money for big expenses (like a house) and it doesn't seem like a chore at all. It's amazing how much more pleasant it has been for us to spend and save for thing *we* want.
MEEEEE TOOOO!!
I want my highlights back! My friends think I'm a hermit - like I'm avoiding them. I've been telling everyone I'm "hibernating for winter". I'm sick of eating the same things cuz it's all we know how to cook & bringing lunch to work everyday (btw - I'm totally registering for tupperware I'm sick of using those plastic chinese containers LOL).
Most of all it's sad to look at some of these gorgeous pictures & ideas other brides have & think - Ooooh I want that. And know you can't have it.
FI is so sick of me saying we have to save "I know, I know we have no money".
Ok, venting over - thanks for posting this. 
I am totally with you!
We paid for most of our wedding ourselves, so needless to say there was alot less happy hours, dinners, and bars with friends :( I'm sad to say that although the wedding is over & we arn't in debt; we are starting to save for a house due to the tax credit being extended. So needless to say things are the same :( And my birthday, christmas, & his birthday are coming up & we already agreed to do something little, boo!
I feel you! I love going to bars and out to dinner with my girls, but I haven't been able to because money's so tight. They understand that I struggle to pay for school, rent, etc but I miss our girls' nights and so do they! It's sad always saying, "oh, remember when we did this? We should do that again soon," knowing full well that we can't.
We have gotten creative with nights in, but it's just not the same thing.
Totally feel this. I AM SO SICK OF IT!
Being a student... my job is now paying for gas and wedding. it is so frustrating! Glad others are sick of it too :)
I feel all of you. My FH is so sick of staying in that he worked over time last week so that we could go to a happy hour tonight with friends and relax a little. We are so close to the finish line that I can't wait till it's over and we can start living normally again!
Honestly, I have been SO terrible with our budget! I have that bad mindest where, "we're already spending so much money, what's $1,000 more?". It's terrible! I'm trying to be frugal, but it's really hard for me. The wedding is only 23 days away, though, so we've already spent most everything.
I completly agree with you! I had an 18 month engagement and I am sooo sick of being poor for the wedding, I always wonder if its worth it in the end but I am sure it will be! Plus your soooo close now!!
We are very lucky and haven't really had to save for the wedding at all, but the worst time of our relationship was probably our 2nd year, we'd just spent 6 weeks overseas and both went into debt for it. I was still studying and we were paying high rent. We didn't do *anything* that year and it really sucked, I felt exactly the way you do now. I hope to never have to do it again - life is too short!
We're paying for part of the wedding ourselves and we've been saving/paying as we go, which has meant a big cut in disposable income. On top of that, I recently had some medical isssues that resulted in some unpleasant bills.
I was totally despairing. Then I finally realized my life is always going to have bills in it. I'm always going to be paying someone for something every month and gosh, that's life.
We have now been ordering take out a bit more than we allowed ourselves before :)
did you just write out everything going on in my head??!!!!!!!
ugh. yes. we keep saying "after the wedding"...i AM excited about the wedding - but it's just so frustrating that we are so broke because we're constantly saving for the wedding.
ugh. YES! i am a big saver anyway, so trying to save even more sometimes feels like i'm cutting into bone. granted, there are things i wont give up - weekly manicures (im a nail biter, so it's sort of not optional) and going for drinks with friends (im usually too tired to go anyway, but when im not...!), but everything else is on the chopping block. shoes, hair appointments, takeout, vacations (all my friends are going to LA for new years and tahoe for MLK day. i. am. not. boo.).
BUT then i think about how much i want the wedding and how much i want a house and it seems less onerous.
Yes! And it hasn't even been that long since the real hard-core saving has started! (Probably around 2 months) I feel like I work all of the time and never have money for anything. It's so frustrating..
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Sorry to vent, but today I'm just TIRED of being frugal (aka poor). I know I will be so happy when I have disposable income again - kinda like when I first got a job after school.
Our wedding is approaching, and bills are coming due where we'll have to pay our vendors. We are paying for our wedding ourselves and planned not to go into debt so we were very disciplined starting in mid 2008 to save aggressively. Staying in for dinner, watching cable, taking public transportation, cutting back on many things we did while we were dating.
Being engaged for 18 months, I admit it has been a long grind to have to live like a pauper. I miss being able to go to the salon to get my hair cut and colored and having disposable income to go out to eat or even go out to movies.
It has been months and months of swallowing our pride and having to tell our friends "we just don't have the money" when we get offered tickets to events or asked to go out in general.
Does anyone else have these feelings having to scrimp and save for what seems like forever?
Thanks for letting me rant! I'm sure I'll be able to bounce back but today it seems overwhelming!