Post # 1
We are but I’m a bit worried it’s not going to work so looking for any advice.
My husband’s first language is french but I don’t speak french (though can follow conversations pretty well). So I only speak english to baby and my husband tries to speak french to her and speak it around the house a bit. But for longer conversations with me he switches back to english or else I just wouldn’t understand him well enough.
But I’m worried that as she grows since it’ll mainly be english she’s exposed to she won’t really pay attention to daddy’s language as much. Anyone have any experience with this?
Post # 3
you really shouldnt worry about this, if he speaks french to her she will understand and speak french too.
Post # 4
I don’t have any experience in this just yet, but I will be in the same boat. I speak Chinese and hope that our kids will be able to pick it up from me speaking to them in it and have my parents around a lot to speak it. My husband doesnt understand it at all, so it will be impossible to try to converse to him in it. I watched an interesting video about childrens language development that said they key months are 6-8 months where the child will learn to distinguish and hear the different sounds that languages make, and this is the basis for learning the different languages. And children were able to learn this simply by being immersed and spoken to by someone, but not through television. I’ll see if I can find the video later, it was very interesting.
Post # 5
My sister’s husband is Chinese and he speeks Mandarin (but my sister does not). When their oldest turned 2, they put her in a Chinese speaking day care. She primarily speaks Chinese there (and speaks some at home too). She has picked it up very quickly!
Post # 6
Well thats good to know. I started to get worried because our friends just gave up at 2-1/2 and switched to only speaking their son in english, though its neither of their first languages (though both are completely fluent in english). It probably was a lot more complicated for them though since they were trying to introduce 3 languages at once (they didnt share a native tongue).
Post # 7
I’m not a parents but a lot of my family and friends have been in this situation. They have always put their child in a day care where the non english language is primary. That way they are completely immersed in that language there. They’ll have plenty of time and opportunity to pick up English everywhere else.
Post # 8
My family is bi-lingual except for my mother. My nephew was talked to in english by everyone except my mom. Who would watch him a few hours a day for some time. My nephew went to school in english. Kids are so smart they just pick up second languages quickly. He can speak both spanish and english now and he even writes and reads in spanish, without even going to school for it. Its not perfect but he is bilingual 🙂
Post # 9
My niece is bilingual. Her mom and her mom’s family speak spanish and english, and my BIL speaks only english. She seems to have picked up the spanish pretty well.
Post # 10
My friend’s children speak French (nanny), English (mother)and Arabic (father). They were always pretty disciplined about who speaks what. The kids picked it up fine. I do think that you also need to read in both languages so they aren’t illiterate in one of them:)
Post # 11
Speak almost all french at home, and then when they enter school , they will focus in heavy on english. Kids are like sponges , that its no problem for them. They may however, be underdeveloped in the writing part of it and be verbally very well versed.
My Fiance is bi-lingual and his mom followed that plan.
Post # 12
Oh, please do it! I am so sad that I don’t speak or understand French-my dad’s first language. 🙁 My mom didn’t speak it. I have wonderful memories of my grandparents speaking in French, but I never picked it up-because they very seldom spoke it-only when they had distant relatives visit. 🙁
Post # 13
Just my 2 cents. I was raised with ASL and speaking english, and I loved it. I also stayed in a home where the mom spoke Finnish, and the dad spoke English, and the boy would be having a conversation with mom, turn say something to dad, in English, and go back to speaking to mom in Finnish. And mom was the only one that he spoke Finnish to, he had like, grandma and stuff in Finnish.
Might be a good way for you to pick up a bit of French.
Post # 14
I wish my family had taught me Italian. 🙁
Post # 15
I know its not the same but we’ll be introducing sign language as well as english to our daughter. You may want to consider introducing a few basic signs so that if your child gets confused between languages or if words come out half english half french for a little bit you’ll still understand her needs.
Post # 16
We plan to do it with our future kiddies but with 3 languages. I’m Filipino-American so I want them to know a little Tagalog and Darling Husband is Swedish. We talk primarily in English at home but since we live in Sweden, Swedish will be the main language. They start teaching English in grade school here so our children would have a head start, plus we plan on taking regular vacations back in California, where my Mom and grandma will surely want to teach their native language.