Post # 1
So back in the day (9 years ago) when I was first TTC, everytime I went to buy a baby shower gift, I picked up something for myself. I eventually got tired of going to the countless showers (40+) and quit buying myself stuff. I did manage to get rid of all of it by giving it as shower gifts.
Then over 3 years ago, ex-H and I were in the process of an open adoption. She was due in 3.5 months so I decided to purchase some clothes for him since I was taking him overseas. I even registered at Target and Babies R Us for an adoption shower. The birth father changed his mind 3 weeks before her due date. This led to the downward spiral of my divorce.
Anyways, I came across a box of “his” clothes this weekend. They are adorable and I don’t want to give them up but am finding it hard to justify keeping the clothes. BTW, I have NOT bought anything since then.
So have any of you been TTC for awhile and are buying baby stuff? If so, when is the “right time” to get rid of stuff?
Post # 3
@texasbee: First off, I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through. I can’t imagine the pain of having an adoption fall through! 🙁
I don’t have any experience with this issue (I’m too superstitious to buy anything for myself, or something), but since you are TTC now, maybe hold on to them if you feel like they don’t hold too many bad memories for you. If they’re bringing you pain, you should definitely let them go.
I hope you get your LO soon! <3
Post # 4
I am so sorry about your situation. You sounds like you have been through a significant amount of pain.
I did not purchase anything while TTC. Darling Husband wanted to put I didn’t want a constant reminder that we weren’t pregnant. Now that we are pregnant I still have not bought anything as I was nervous about a miscarriage and now I am just waiting a few more weeks until the gender reveal to start shopping. My cousin even gave me maternity clothes over a year ago and my mother kept them in her basement so I didn’t have to have them in my house.
Are there any local shelter or organizations that you are aware of. Maybe helping a mother in need by donating some of those items would be much more helpful than throwing away those items. I can’t imagine what you are going through I just think that maybe if the items you bought went to someone that really needed them, that might bring a little joy.
Post # 5
I think that the donation idea is a wonderful one and *hugs* for what you are going through.
Post # 6
@bunny: I honestly didn’t think it was gonna happen. I couldn’t bring myself to set up a nursery (which I’m glad I didn’t.) The mom was on board since she was 17 and it was her second. She was furious the dad was “forcing” her to keep a baby she didn’t want. Sad part is she called my mom 2 years ago b/c she was pregnant with her 3rd.
@roxy821: I would be afraid too to buy anything if I did get pregnant. Since we are overseas, I don’t know of any groups that take donations. I do know of 1 person having a boy and the clothes would fit him…but she only shops at Nordstrom’s and didn’t want the clothes.
@luckyduckinlove: Thanks so much!
Thanks bees….it’s taken me a long time to come to terms with everything over the past 9 years. I hate not having anyone to talk to about TTC since everyone we know here hasn’t had a problem getting pregnant. WB makes me feel normal again!
Post # 7
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my heart goes out to you…i second the idea of donation. knowing these items would brighten the spirits of someone less fortunate would give a new life to those pieces that hold sad memories. 🙂