(Closed) Anyone TTC right away?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, when DH and I were engaged, we went the “not trying, not preventing” route a little too early and I got pregnant 9 months before our wedding date.

Needless to say I moved the wedding date until after we had our little one. hehe

I had been with DH for 7 years when I got pregnant, so most people didn’t say much about having our baby before the wedding. There were a few mumbles about us not being married, but no one was concerned we should spend time as newlyweds first.

Good luck when you do start TTC!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We will be TTC starting next month.  We get married next month, but we have lived together for over 2 years, I own my home, and we both have good jobs.  So, we feel like we’ve already spent a lot of time on us, traveling, taking vacations, and just enjoying being together.  I’m also 31, so I’ve had more than my fair share of fun, and feel ready to settle down a little.  Honestly though, I don’t think having kids means the end of fun and shenanigans forever and ever either, we’ll still be able to go out, travel, and enjoy our marriage & our lives.

We decided not to tell our parents we will be TTC, mainly because if we have fertility issues we don’t want to get everyone’s hopes up or have people ask us every 5 seconds if we’re having a baby.  That, and also it’s not anyone’s business.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@DaneLady:  I could’ve practically written your entire post.  Except that I’m 34 and TTCing now after our wedding in May :).

OP, I would say though that if you’re not totally baby crazy, since you guys are so young you might want to give it a few years before having a baby.  You guys aren’t sleeping together, so I’m guessing you’re probably not living together either.  A lot of people find moving in together to be a HUGE adjustment.  Add in the stress of a baby on top of that, and it could make for a very difficult first couple years of married life. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@DaneLady:  Super similar to our story too!

Been together 4 years, owned our home together for just over 2 of those. Both have great stable jobs and have lived the “just us” life for a while now. FI is 29 and starting to feel the biological clock, and I will be 26- always wanted kids around this age. Timing is perfect for us.

I started prenatals a while ago, as well as charting and we are going to give it a whirl the moment the papers are signed (okay, maybe later that night haha).

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@moose91:  Forgot to add.. if you’ve been waiting for marriage sleep with your FI, I would definitely wait a while before TTC. First off, sex isn’t the most comfortable thing right away with a new person, plus exploring eachothers likes and dislikes etc… takes time and second, I think it’s important to build a strong sexual relationship before you bring a baby in to the mix. Mainly because sex will go out the window for a while when you have a baby (due to healing, then lack of sleep). You’ve spent the time forming a strong emotional relationship with your husband to be, now spend some time perfecting the physical one (trust me, it’s important).

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Future MrsB:  I’m seeing around the boards that there are a lot of Bees in our similar position- ready for kids, having already lived together & enjoyed the benefits of just being together 🙂  I was a little worried at first about TTC right around the wedding, but knowing I’m not alone has helped a lot!  If I weren’t worried about looking bloated in my wedding dress & enjoying a few cocktails at the bach party, I’d already be actively TTC 😛

OP- if you guys are ready for the sort of responsibility & financial/emotional obligations that come along with parenthood, I say go for it.  If you’re interested in settling in together, finding your groove, & maybe enjoying the time the two of you get to share privately, well there are some non-hormonal BC options.  I’d suggest getting a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility (it is geared toward TTC, not necessarily TTA, but you guys seem to know what you’re getting into!)

Post # 10
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5111 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m the same age as you and we are TTC!! =) If you know, you know. If you have a good house and job, then why not! Good luck!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are going to start NTNC or TTC, which ever comes first. lol 

We have been together for 4 years, married for almost 3 months.  We own our house and have great jobs.  In a couple of months we are throwing out all methods of BC and lettings things happen.  We want to get pregnant but dont want loose the fun out of sex, so if it ihappens it happens. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

We started almost right away. We got married in September quit using birth control in November. No one gave us any slack. We were ready. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@moose91:  Yes, exactly.  We figure if its meant to be we will get pregnant. We are both 35, I have two daughters from my previous marriage and he has non. We figure if we do, it will be great and we both agreed that if we dont get pregnant the natural way, we are also ok with not having any. 

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