Anyone upgrade ering from diamond to moissy

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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851 posts
Busy bee

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  That ring would be so beautiful with a single centre stone. Moissy or diamond or white sapphire or some other gemstone. Just make sure it’s good quality.

The setting is lovely as is.

Post # 4
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3112 posts
Sugar bee

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  The first thing I did when we could afford it was take the small diamond off my ring and put on a moissanite! Love my moissy! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  gorgeous setting! It would look good with anything but have you thought about a gemstone? I c an just picture a round blue sapphire in that setting and it would be to die for! Regardless of what you choose, it’ll look lovely!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  have you told him you would prefer a moissy? I know it is a mans gift to his future wife but it is also nice to have a say in it, especially because it is an upgrade! What size were you thinking? Maybe some of us bees can find some good prices online for diamonds! That might help?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you really want a moissanite, don’t go for the price angle first to convince your FI.  “Look at how cheap this is!” will only make him feel like he’s getting you something that’s less quality.  Find some videos of moissanite shooting rainbows everywhere and try “LOOK HOW SHINY I WANT ONE.”

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Jabberwocky:  Agree.

OP, the first thing is, is he ok if you switch out the centre melee for one larger stone? The next question to ask is, if you remove price from the equation, which would YOU prefer (diamond or moissanite)?  If it’s a matter of prefering diamond but not wanting to wait so long, I’d still say to be patient and wait.  If you really want a diamond, a moissanite may not make you happy.

Versus if you’re in the “white sparkly stone” club and it doesn’t matter if it’s diamond or not, then sure, pitch it to your FI as a preference for moissanite based on it’s own merits, rather than it’s cheaper price tag.

The other option is to put an Asha (very high quality CZ) in the setting *for now* while he saves up for the diamond of his choice.  Asha is very affordable but not the best long term choice, so it’s the best of both worlds perhaps (in this situation).

Post # 11
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3112 posts
Sugar bee

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  Tell him you will not allow him to support the blood diamond industry! It was easy for me because DH agrees. Some people say they “know” that their diamond is conflict free, but there is truly no way to know. 

Post # 12
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414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I didn’t upgrade to a moissy but I did go from a teeny, round cluster of diamonds (which also had visible flaws) to a pear cut white sapphire and I do not regret it at all. Diamonds aren’t that important to me though, so that’s why I didn’t even blink at switching from diamond to sapphire. If you prefer diamonds to other stones you might want to wait and get your diamond. But if you like moissy just as much and having a diamond in your engagement ring isn’t that important to you then go for the moissy 🙂 

Post # 13
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6407 posts
Bee Keeper

@ceebree:  I don’t think pretending something is for moral concerns when it isn’t is the way to go about anything, ever.

The ship has also already sailed on that one…you may not have noticed, but her ring is covered in diamonds. Good thing estimates are that less than 3% of diamonds on the market currently are conflict diamonds (and this number is decreasing steadily). Where is the gold/platinum in your ring from? There are so many human rights abuses with precious metal mining, and no Kimberly process for that, at all. Did you hear about the recent murders of the South African platinum miners? Don’t let me get started on the rare earth metals in your computer (and mine), the story is no more cheerful.

OP, I would strongly recommend a natural colored gemstone. They are beautiful, and some can be quite affordable. Try to understand why he doesn’t want to replace the diamonds in the center of your engagement ring with a synthetic jewel in there… let him explain his thoughts and feelings about it more to you if you’re having difficulty seeing why it matters so much to him.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics:  Oh dear… I was in your shoes. SO was shopping for rings, I told him I wanted a moissy, because I fell in love with Moissy on the Bee. He went to a jeweler, and the jeweler bad mouthed moissanite, SO trusted the jeweler and he bought a diamond e-ring. I came to the Bee SOBBING upset about it. 

In the end, I came to the conclusion, that it was HIS money that was paying for it, so he could get me anything he pleases. And then, later in the marriage when it’s OUR money, I’m gonna get my damn moissanite.

In your case, I’d maybe wait till after the wedding before upgrading to anything. But honestly, it’s on YOUR finger, he should get an opinion, but you should have the final say (assuming you’re both paying for it.)

 

Side note: Some people are veeeeeery into the diamonds vs. moissanite debate. And veeeeery opinionated about their beliefs. Ignore them. It’s your ring, do whatever the hell you want. 

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