Post # 1
Now I know this technique may not appeal to everyone and some may even find it cruel, but I really want to hear from those who have used it. My DS has never been a good sleeper. Up until he was a month old, he would cry if you put him down and we would have to rock him endlessly to get him to sleep for a few hours in his Moses basket.
He is now 3 months old and too big for his basket, so we’ve moved him to his big cot. Last night was the first night. I put him to bed at 2000 in his baby sleeping bag after rocking him for a few minutes until he was drowsy. He began to cry and continued to do so until 2315. Now before you all jump on my back, with controlled crying, I would go back into him every 10 minutes and rub his head and belly and calm him for a minute, then leave again. At 2330 he finally fell asleep and woke up at 0500 for a feed. After eating I put him straight back down and he only cried for a few minutes before settling down to sleep until 0700.
I definitely want to continue with it, as sleep has been our only major issue, so tonight will be Night #2. It really is heartbreaking to hear him cry, but I’m at my wits end.
Anyone use this technique successfully? Any advice? Thought?
Post # 3
I have not used it with my LO, but I just wanted to ask if you’ve tried swaddling him? That was a life saver for us when our guy was in his first few months. It would stop him from waking up when we put him down because he wouldn’t feel the movement as much.
Post # 4
@LincsMama: we have been swaddling him since he was born and he really likes it, unfortunately now he manages to get out of it when he naps and you aren’t supposed to swaddle when using a baby sleeping bag.
Post # 5
@Monny: Ohhhh….I guess I don’t know what a baby sleeping bag is, haha. I hope that you can get some helpful insight from others who have used this technique before!
Post # 6
@Monny: personally I think 3 months is a little young but that’s the glory of parenting- you do what works for you.
Post # 7
We tried controlled crying with Dirty Delete when she was around 5 months for a week and in hindsight I wished we hadn’t. I THOUGHT it seemed kinder than full CIO, but she would just calm down and be pleased that I had come to comfort her and then I would go again. Her sleep became worse for us and we ended up starting from scratch with a lot of comfort and co-sleeping was the only thing to work for us in the end. Have you looked at maybe co-sleeping? Or if you’re not comfortable with that then maybe a side-car crib? Some kids will respond ‘well’ to CIO or controlled crying in terms of sleeping longer. I’m sure you’ve done research but you may find the following link interesting. I’m not jumping down your throat, I’ve been through the endless screaming and constant waking and you try everything you can to find solutions.
Sorry if this isn’t helpful, I hope you find something that works for you.
Post # 8
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I have a friend who did this… But her daughter was 18 months old. It was effective with her. I wouldn’t do this with a younger baby. Our pediatrician says we can’t spoil a baby under 6 months enough, and we shouldn’t let her cry more than 15 minutes without comforting her. I totally understand the desire to sleep train, though. Bedtime takes an hour to two hours in my household. we parents have to do what works for us, though.
Post # 9
Some babies will cry as a way of winding down before sleep, others (like mine) will wind up if left to cry. The fact that your LO took over three hours to go to sleep would indicate to me that he is not yet developmentally ready to be putting himself to sleep without assistance.
At this age sleep is still a work in progress (night wakings are normal!) and personally I would be trying some more gentle techniques before any form of CIO (controlled or not).