Post # 1
I’ve been wishing and hoping and praying (and pouting a bit on WB) for a while that FI would come around and be ready to start TTC eventually. He had pretty unreasonable financial requirements for feeling comfortable with it and I got discouraged because we could never be in that position unless we won a large lottery. To add further pressure, I have PCOS and endometriosis so I’m extra worried despite being just 26!
So FI comes home and says he’s been thinking and if I’m sure about it, we can start TTC like…now! I was so happy and then….scared! So scared in fact that now I don’t want to yet! I’ve dreamt of that moment and now I’m freakin’ out!
Anyone else experience this and did you get over it, face your fear, or wait it out a bit longer? Do I just want what I can’t have?
Post # 3
YEP! my hubby sounds pretty much the same….he wanted us to have lots of money in the bank first before TTC, with his timeline being 3-5 years. I’ve had baby fever for the past year and wanted a baby like now!
However, since the wedding he has done a 180 and wants to TTC, asking how long it would take. Meanwhile, I’m freaking out now that it’s a reality! It’s hard to beleive that we are actually going to be DOING this now. I feel exactly the same way as you, so take comfort that you aren’t alone! Right now we are NTNP, and if nothing happens by summer we plan to start actively TTC.
Post # 4
Totally felt that way for a moment, though I was the same way about marriage too. It’s like, you get these ideas in your head, but they’re all hypothetical because you’re waiting on someone else to say okay. Then he pops the question or says let’s have a baby, and suddenly it’s real and no longer hypothetical. And then you’re like, “wait, am I sure I’m really ready for this?”
Marrying him was definitely the right move, and I’m currently 32 weeks pregnant, so it’s a little late to turn back on that either. I think you never feel 100% ready, and the wave of excitement-immediately-followed-by-terror I got when the pregnancy test was positive was totally normal I thnk. Just talk to your FI about it, because for me, knowing we were both scared helped me feel much better about it. And GL on whatever you decide!
Post # 5
Thanks ladies 🙂
We are both beyond scared haha. Right when he said he was ready I sat in silence for a little while and then said “uhmmmm maybe let’s not yet” and we laughed.
I think I will just sit on it for a little while until I get more comfortable. I say this while I sit here trying to hold my pee for a few hours so I can rule out pregnancy as a reason for some strange “symptoms” I’ve been feeling leading up to my period! (I’m symptom spotting already?!)
Post # 6
@turnanewleaf: Aww, I totally feel you, though DH and I almost had the opposite happen. Believe it or not, he has been waiting for me to be ready for starting our own little family. When he finally caught wind that I was starting to feel ready, it totally freaked him out! He was like OMG OMG Can we really do this? Can we be parents?
All this being said, 6 months later, we still really aren’t trying super hard and we qualify under telling people “we’re not realllllly trying but we’re not preventing”, and I’m still kind of freaked out! So I totally hear you.
Post # 8
@turnanewleaf: It wasn’t exactly that I was waiting for DH to be ready, we were both waiting to get past the window of time where I couldn’t get pregnant or it would really mess up some travel plans for next summer. Now that we’re in the “relatively safe” window, I’m kind of getting anxious!! I’m just having a tough time wrapping my brain around the fact that if we BD in the next week or so, there’s a shot that I might get pregnant! We haven’t BD since I went off of BC last week, so I think once we get the first time ‘out of the way,’ then I won’t be such a head case! 🙂