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Good Morning! 
I was curious to see others opinions. So there is a trend i notice, after people get married...within the first year of marriage or so the couple has already gotten pregnant or is trying! I dont know about you but I want to enjoy some marriage time with JUST my husband...no baby. whats the rush? Why not wait a couple of years? My husband and I want to wait at least another 3-5 years before we have children.
Just curious ;)
PS-- If your one of those couples that DO choose to have children right away I am in NO way bashing that! Just curious about your decision making :)
stephinPA- what i am interested in is why you chose to have children in that time frame?
When Mr. Honeybun and I get married, we will have been together for almost 7 years, living together for 5 of them. We will be 29 and 30, and have had plenty of time to spend together alone already. I had always thought I would be DONE having kids by the time I was 29, not just starting. So we definitely won't be waiting much longer than a year or so after getting married.
were thinking of getting married in the next three years but wouldnt want kids for like 5 years after that. were a young couple and dont feel ready for kids yet.
We will wait a few years before we start. I want to have time for "just us" before we start having kids... Besides, it would be nice for me to have my license and (maybe) my own practice before the kids come bc then I will have more flexibility with my schedule.
My husband and I have been married for a little over 2 years, and we'll probably start trying within the next year or two. For us, it's mainly that we're getting older (he's 30 and I'll be 30 in September), and we both would like 3 kids if we're so blessed to have that many. I'm a little afraid of how long it will take us to get pregnant. My mom had issues, and though so far, there are no apparent signs that we will have issues, I still get a little worried about that. We did want to enjoy ourselves for a bit, plus, my husband will finally be finished with school in March. We just bought a great big house, and we're ready to fill it soon!
If we have kids, we are going to wait 5 years at least. We aren't ready for them right now for sure and I want us to both be settled in our careers.
We've been married a year and we'll probably start trying when we've been married 2-3 years. For us it's just biology. I'd like more time to be carefree, but the fact is that a woman's fertility starts declining at 27, and the risk of birth defects increases as the woman (and man) age. So we'd like to get going and be done by the time I'm in my early 30s.
My husband and I have always wanted to wait a while before we grow our family. We want to be able to travel and enjoy each other for a few years. There is no rush for us, however, most of our couple friends are starting to get pregnant so the pressure is on. But we are going to try to hold out a little while longer.
we have been married 10 mos and just started trying....I'm 30 and he's about to turn 32...we both have at least a bachelors and make good $ and have a nice house...we feel ready and don't want to wait mostly due to our age, but we feel it is right...Not that I wouldn't want to travel more, but I have traveled and I've accomplished a ton before getting married, so I'm at peace w/ the chance of becoming pregnant by our 1 yr anniv. So, why not? ; )
We're waiting at least a year, but probably not much more. Our only reason for not waiting more than a year or so is my FH's age (he's 44 now). If he was younger, we would definately wait a few years.
Two ends of the spectrum - my parents were married for 10 years before I (the oldest) was born, because they wanted time with just the two of them to travel and do things as a married couple. A year turned into 2, turned into 5...until 10 years later they finally decided to think about having a baby.
Other end of the spectrum - my bff got pregnant the WEEK after she got married! Can't really say they "tried" for a baby, as it didn't take much trying at all! :-)
@Osakagrl - We're both older. So if we're going to start a family I'd prefer it to be sooner than later. I'll be 38 when married next year so I'm also concerned with any issues I might run into being a little older.
I think the main issue with most people is age. Pregnancy risks increase in your mid-30s and so if you get married at 30 and want 2-3 kids, you are more likely to get started right away.
I got married at 26 and want to have my first kid around 29-30.
FI and I will both be 30 when we get married. We will definitely wait at least one year before trying to get pregnant due to my starting residency a few weeks after our wedding. Being pregnant and starting a family during my internship year is just not a good idea! 
we want to wait about 4-5 years. mostly this is a financial decision for us. we want to be solidly able to support ourselves and our family and have a nice reserve in savings before we have kids.
There are lots of newlyweds waiting to have children!
we plan to wait 4-5 years because of financial/practical reasons and us still being fairly young.
In another world though, I wouldn't mind having a baby next year or so, we're just trying to be responsible financially (we would literally have to move in with his parents if I got pregnant right now). But we can't wait until it's 'time'!
I figure we'll be trying by the end of our first year together. Mostly because of our ages. I'll be 31 and he'll be nearly 33 when we get married. By the time we get married we will have been dating 3.5 years and living together 2.5 of those years, so it'll be similar to the couples taht wait 3 or 4 years after marriage to start trying. Probably if we were younger we'd wait longer even though we've been together for a while. Mostly our desicion comes down to age.
We'll be waiting a couple of years at least - we didn't live together before the wedding and want to really enjoy a couple of years "just us." The timeline would be different if we were older, though - I'm 24 now, so we can have a few years and still have children before we're 30.
Wow more people then i thought are waiting!!
I understand women who talk about the age issue, thats just being smart.
But i guess even the young couples in my area are having babies so quickly. ive been married a little over 3 months and people are already saying WHEN ARE YOU GUYS GOING TO HAVE A BABY!? Um....not for a loooong time haha
We'll be waiting at least 3 years after marriage before we start trying. I would wait even longer but at that point it'll be a matter of the biological clock ticking. I'm in my mid twenties and FI is in his late twenties so while the pressure is not on quiet yet we know it will be. However, we really want to just enjoy each other and doing things for ourselves, (traveling), before we have kids. Also both of us have either a graduate degree or phd so since we had more school and started our careers later we both want to be very firmly settled in our careers before starting to have kids.
We'll be waiting about 2-2.5 years now before having a kid, so we'll probably start trying around, oh, February 2011ish...I'll be 25, so probably 26 when we have our first.
We are waiting a year at least that's the plan since we didn't live together both marriage. However we can't wait to long due to age.
We're planning to wait about 2 years. I say 1-2 and he says 2-3, so we'll see. It's so hard, though! I see everyone around me having babies and my body says "want one nooooooow!"
We're waiting another five years. I'm 22 and DH is 24 right now. We've already been together for five years, just married last month. For us, we want plenty of time to enjoy each other and to get financially ready for a family. Just because we found each other earlier in life, it doesn't mean we want to rush everything. We're very happy enjoying our early 20s and being newlyweds without the added stress of kids.
Our labrador is our child right now, lol.
we said probably in 2 years or so..we want to have a year to ourselves first and then we'll see from there, but then again, who knows what'll happen!
Right now our plan is 4-5 years from now, which is 2-3 years after we get married!! Everyone thinks we'll do it earlier, but we don't feel the rush, I'm 24 (25 in January) and just want to have our first before 30.
We're waiting 5-7 years, we both want to finish up our Grad degrees (possibly a doctorate for me) and be able to travel/live like college students for a while before we have an added responsibility (even though it's a huge blessing and I can't wait!)
We'll be waiting at least 2 years. I'll be enrolling in grad school right after we get married, and he wants us to have more money saved up before we have kids. Plus we'd like to savor living in an impractical loft and taking long vacations before we have kids to think about :)
We were planning on waiting 3 or so years before trying for a baby, but honestly, one day a few months after the wedding we woke up and thought, "Why wait?" Most of the things we wanted to accomplish before having children we had already done (savings, debt paid off, new house, and travel). The rest of the stuff we planned on doing (like going to Peru and my husband finishing his grad degree) can be completed with children. In fact, my husband is still on track to graduate with his Master's right before the baby's first birthday, and now we're planning to wait to go to Peru until all our kids are old enough to enjoy it. In the meantime, we're planning lots of other baby-friendly trips.
Really, we knew we wanted to have kids, and everything we've done up to this point has kinda been preparation for starting a family. We just realized there was no point in waiting for some "perfect time" to start trying when we're in an awesome place right now. For us, at least, there wasn't really a purpose to waiting any longer, so we just altered our plans to something we were happier with. :)
We want to wait until I'm 24 to start trying and ill be settled into my career. Which should be 3ish years from now, but FI will be 29. But, both of us coming from INCREDIBLY fertile families ( i'm talking there more accidents than planned kids) we will probably have kids before that and although we are using birth control and stuff if we get pregnant oh well.
I want to be married for at least 2 years before getting pregnant - not before having kids, but actually being pregnant. I want to have at least 2 years to focus on just our marriage, because I know as soon as I get pregnant, it's all about the kids for the next 20-something years.
Mr. M and I will have been living together for 3.5 years and together for 4.5 when we get married. We have discussed having children, I would like to start ASAP, he would like to wait...so I guess we will be waiting at least 6 months-1 year before we start trying.
im 26. he's 28.
after our wedding in September 2010, i will be 27. he will be 29 (in October).
BUT, we just bought our first home this past August.
I’m starting law school (at night-still working a full time job) in May 2010.
We are well adjusted and can’t wait to have children… but we want to be more prepared financially and enjoy a few years together as well.
We know it’s a HUGE commitment when you decide to try and become parents… we’re trying to cautious about what we can provide our children and also be mindful of my age as well…
I, ideally, want to start trying at 31-32… since I will hopefully have had worked as a lawyer for a couple of years by then. The FI, on the other hand, would like to start trying when I’m 29-30… cuz he heard that it’s harder for a woman after that… I don’t believe it though… I’m healthy and I think having children in your thirties is a privilege that I hope to have in my future J
We're waiting. I've got another year left before I'm done with my grad program and ideally, we'd like to have a house first.
oh, and for you young brides that say a couple of years...my SIL says that every year they say "maybe in 3 more years" hahaha So, just know you might change your minds either way! She hasn't mentioned it lately, and she just turned 29, so I don't know if they are trying but assume they will wait until she graduates (career change).
we'll be waiting at least a year or two before trying for kids. since we've been apart for the entire length of our relationship, i want to get some good old fashioned us time before we go adding little ones to the mix!
We'll be waiting, but not too too long. Probably about 2 years since my fiance will be 35 by our 2nd anniversary, and he'd like to be "done" having kids by 40. I guess you can't always plan these things, but that's the timeframe we'll be trying to work with...
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