Post # 1
I’m just interested in opinions on this one. Is anyone walking down the aisle alone?
I have an ok relationship with my dad, but we’re not super close. Throughout my 20’s i probably went for a couple of years without having any contact with him, and while things are better now, i may only have contact (a text message) with him every 6/8 weeks.
Its not that we’ve had a big argument or falling out, we just lost contact after my parent divorced. I don’t really know my dad and he doesn’t know me.
Now, I’m getting married and it doesn’t feel right to be “given away” by my dad. But on the other hand i don’t want to create an issue that could sour our potential relationship in the future.
As back ground, our wedding will be a small (approx 80 people) civil ceremony, with a bigger evening reception.
Post # 3
What about someone else that you are closer with? You’re not obligated to walk down with your dad and if your family knows the relationship you two have, I’m sure they won’t expect it.
Post # 4
My father died couple of years ago..and of course, I always wanted him to “give me away”..but it is impossible now 🙁
So, my brother is going to walk with me down the isle 🙂
Post # 5
@NYE_bride: I just walked myself down the aisle yesterday and im really glad i did. We had a small ceremony with 50 guests and a larger reception later. My step father would have been the one to walk me down the aisle as he was a father to me since I was 2 but unfortunetly he passed away 2 years ago. My bio father was there but we are also not very close and he wasnt in my life at all up until the last 8 years. My suggestion…. close your eyes and invision your groom awaiting you…. are you alone or is your dad walking you? Maybe picture both visions and you’ll know which one to chose!
Post # 6
@NYE_bride: I don’t have any relationship with my dad anymore … I am planning to walk alone b.c. i think to ask my uncle should walk his daugher 1st she is 23 and i feel like they should have that she should be the 1st at least and since she is not at that point yet i dont want to ask him
i thought of asking my moms best friends husband he is like a dad to me and he has 5 boys and one girl who is married with 4 of her own he jokes about walking me since i was 17 however i feel to ask him would offened my uncle
that kinda leaves me with walking my self so i will I think it will be nice alteritively i may ask my grandmother she took the role of my father money wise and living with me for years when i was lil
I think if youy dont feel close to him in that way dont have him walk you i am sure he wil understand just talk ti out b4 hand so its not a surprise
Post # 7
My father has passed away so I had my mother walk me down the aisle, it was awesome
Post # 8
My dad and I aren’t very close either. We have a pretty strained relationship, honestly. He expects to walk me down the aisle, but I want to walk alone. I don’t like the idea of being given away like property by a man who means next to nothing to me. It just doesn’t feel right. Not to mention he’d be in ALL my photos of me walking down the aisle and the idea of having those photos in my wedding album really bothers me. It would probably be the end of our tenuous relationship if I walked alone, though. So right now I’m stuck trying to decide if this relationship is worth salvaging or not. It’s a difficult decision.
Post # 9
I have a great relationship with my dad but I walked alone. I wanted our parents to walk in paired up – we had a line in the ceremony about our parents coming before us as examples of what two amazing marriages look like, so after our wedding party, we had his parents walk down together, then mine walk down together, then me.
It was especially meaningful to me because my parents never had a big wedding of their own so I thought it was a sweet moment.
Post # 10
I will be walking myself down the aisle 🙂 I don’t speak to my dad anymore and he is not coming to the wedding, my mum wants to walk me down but it just doesnt feel right , like someone said try to envision walking down the aisle, well when I do I see myself walking by myself. I have pretty much been living my life with no help since I met my FI and in all honesty I don’t believe in anyone giving me away to him, if there was anyone I would want to walk down the aisle with it would be him
Post # 11
My dad died when I was a kid….so I will be walking alone. Mother is not present in my life, and I’m not very close to my brothers. It didn’t feel right to be “given away” by anyone really, because I’ve been on my own for quite some time now
@HeyKaraoke: he should know that giving you away is a privelege, not a right! it doesn’t sound like he has earned it from what you say.
Post # 12
I don’t have a relationship with either of my fathers – the biological one or the adoptive one – so I will be walking myself down the aisle. I originally thought about doing the photos pre-wedding and then walking down the aisle with FH but then thought better of it so now, it’s just me 🙂
Post # 13
I am. My dad will be there and I love him but I don’t believe in the tradition because I think it comes from a bad place.
Post # 14
My dad isn’t in my life anymore, so I walked down the aisle alone. It didn’t feel strange or anything to me.
Post # 15
I walked alone because my dad didn’t come to my wedding and even if he did, I would have never walked down with him or be given away because that’s just not the kind of relationship I have with him.
This photo is a little bit fuzzy but I think I look happy!
We had 43 guest at our wedding at my in-law’s house. We had our wedding inside due to rain but it turned out perfectly!
Post # 16
@NYE_bride: I am going to have my mother and father walk my down the aisle. It’s 2013 and I just feel like moms get the shaft in weddings… Plus my mother did just as much raising me as my father if not more, so I feel like it won’t be fair to have only one of them walk me down. None of my friends have done with for their wedding, so I also think it will be unique to do this.