Post # 1
during wedding planning, did anyone reach the point of wanted to scream “I DON’T CARE! I JUST WANT TO MARRY MY FI & HAVE A FANTASTIC PARTY, HOW HARD DOES IT HAVE TO BE??!!” i wanna run away and elope, but i know i would look back and wish we’d had a ‘real’ wedding. i just didn’t know it would be this hard!
early on we decided on having the wedding at a non profit children’s summer camp for at risk youth. pretty rural location with a pond to act as a backdrop for the ceremony and a barn structure with full commercial kitchen and cabins for wedding party and close friends to crash in at the end of the night. we liked the idea of the venue $$ going to a good cause, and the non traditional location. but now i think, WE WERE CRAZY! everything has to be brought in- every table, chair, coat rack, everything! now i know why cookie cutter wedding locations are so popular=( the barn isn’t large enough to seat everyone and have room for a dance floor etc, so we’ve had to add a tent for dinner, and then have dancing, desert etc in the barn space. my parents are paying for the majority of the wedding, and i’m feeling guilty about how expensive this event is quickly becoming! a thousand dollars on chairs?? a thousand on table linens?? a few thousand on the tent?? tables… don’t get me started on all the tables!!
does everyone reach a point were they want to throw in the towel, scrap the whole thing and run off to get married? will it get easier? does this feeling pass?? what drove you to that point and what brought you back to loving your wedding day??
Post # 3
i suggest you take a complete break from your wedding for a week or so. don’t think about or talk about your wedding. it works wonders!
this feeling will pass. every once in awhile, you just need a break.
Post # 4
Hmmm. I occasionally want to throw in the towel, and my planning seems about 10x easier than yours. I second kitzy- take a break! You just need to regain a little perspective.
Post # 5
I’m already to that point and I haven’t made any solid decisions yet. I’m still playing with the idea of doing a destination wedding just to avoid all that I know is expected of me… but like you, I wonder if I will regret not having a “real wedding”.
Post # 6
thanks ladies, i think you’re all right- i need a break. maybe this week i will just focus on looking into honeymoon stuff, fun stuff=)
Post # 7
yeah im about there – one more month of craziness and it will all be over.
I also suggest a break , i had to do this early on in planning because i was getting way too overwhelmed with things. It really does help!
Post # 8
I was engaged for 14 months and I think I wanted to throw in the towel WEEKLY, if not daily. 🙂 The feeling never really did pass until the week of the wedding. But, I will tell you – it’s ALL WORTH IT. I really went back and forth on if we should just elope or not… so much family drama, beyond the frustration of costs, saving money, etc… at one point, we had to really think about WHY we wanted a wedding. For us, it boiled down to wanting to make the commitment in front of those that were part of our community of love and support. Perhaps spend some time and think about the WHY of what you are doing – and then go back to that place when things seem overwhelming. At the end of it all – it’s not about the little details that make a wedding – but about the love you have for your fiance and the step you are both making together. Hang in there!!!!
Post # 9
Yeah I’m there right now. I am having a very bad day today, and then a wedding bombshell was dropped onto my lap. Not my own wedding someone elses. It has made me so upset that I am ready to say “F it, lets just go to Vegas.” But I know that I would 100% regret it because I have always dreamed of a big wedding.
Post # 10
i feel better hearing that i’m not the only one feeling this way! everyone seems like they have so much energy and love for planning & DIYing things, i was beginning to think i was the only on burnout with it. the family mess is a whole other source of stress! but, this burnout is purely planning/logistical overload. i know we would regret it if we didn’t share this day with all of the special people in our lives, we threw around the idea of doing a DW early on, but decided it wasn’t for us. this too shall pass… this too shall pass! hugz to all of you for your support!