Post # 1
Has anyone felt like just giving up when it comes to wedding planning? My wedding is almost a year away still and with all the family drama that comes with it is disheartening. I feel like the FMIL wants everything her way and we have to change things to work for her. Then my dad who I am not close with asks me if hes walking me down the aisle, which I wasnt planning on, and now I feel very guilty. I told him I wasnt sure yet. I just feel like my fiances side of the family hates me and Im just not comfortable in this situation. Really was excited to marry my fiance but can’t handle all the drama and will be fine just the way we are. Anyone else ever feel this way?
Post # 3
@nikkip84: Exactly why we decided to elope. We were planning a big wedding and cancelled it. It sucks when you feel shitty planning a wedding.
Post # 4
Ah I’m so sorry your family is making you feel that way- it’s astounding how much family crap can come to the surface during wedding planning. Honestly, if you both really feel that way and you’ve still got a year to go, I’d seriously consider eloping…
Post # 5
If it’s not working for you stop it…just because most people plan a big wedding does not mean its required in order to actually be married. Sit down with your FI, talk about how your feeling, both of you list the things that really matter to you both about your day and build something around that. Nothing else matters anyway!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I just stopped talking about the planning with anyone who was adding to my stress– if they brought it up I’d give them a vague response and change the subject.
You could also elope… We strongly considered this, but decided not to because I have a few elder relatives who wont be with us much longer, and it was important to me that they get to be a part of it (especially since my husband asked for their blessing).
Post # 7
I am. I’m already married, I eloped, but now I want the big wedding…and it’s just SUCH a production. It’s SOOOOO hard to plan a wedding hundreds of miles away, too. (I live in Richmond VA and I’m planning for a wedding in Williamsville NY which is over near Canada on the western side) I’m just…
I feel like I’m going crazy. There’s no drama, it’s all just like, the chasing around the venue, paying photographer, paperwork, doing everything by phone, oh and then the NY post office LOST HALF MY INVITES… Ugh.
So I hear ya, girl.