Post # 1
It’s been bugging me that the fiance and I might have to buy fakey rings for the wedding.
Our budget has not been too kind to us, eventhough we were very careful about being smart spenders for this wedding.
Our wedding is a couple of weeks away, and we have decided that we would have to buy “stand-ins” for our wedding rings, and get the real one for when our savings account can actually allow it. We refuse to buy cheapie ones either because we intend on wearing them “for as long as we shall live” and we want to love to wear them…so…
Has anybody worn “ring stand-ins” or planning on doing the same thing due to budget constraints?
Post # 3
I’m sure if this works better for you budget-wise, then you can definitely wear affordable rings now and upgrade later. Lucky for us, neither of us wanted a particularly expensive ring (his 6 mm Tungsten ring was $60 online, and mine is just a white gold 3 mm flat which cost $150), so we didn’t have this problem.
Here’s another idea–you could buy less expensive rings for now and then when you upgrade your rings, you could use the gold (or whatever metal) for the new rings. I’ve heard of people having other gold melted down and used to create new jewlery. This way, you’d technically be still wearing your original rings, but you could upgrade with whatever bling you like.
Post # 4
I totally would if he couldn’t have afforded one! I’d rather have the look i want (fake style) than something that isn’t to my taste but is real. Plus i’d just tell everyone it was real! WHO CARES?!
Post # 5
I like jessie516 idea, or buy a band that you know may go with the engagement ring you want and then you can still wear it.
Post # 6
I don’t believe in superstitions or that rings hold any magical power. They’re a symbol of your commitment… they are not THE commitment. If what you can afford now is a twist-tie, wear that! The important thing is the marriage and your vows, not what you’re putting on each others’ fingers the day-of.
Post # 7
Funny you should say that corgitales, I told my fiance a twisty tie would do:) That is what he originally purposed with. But it was red and green twisty ties shaped to look like a rose while you were wearing it. SOOOO Cute:) But yes it is nice to have a nice ring and now I do, but that isn’t what makes a marriage for sure:)
Post # 8
@acountrycowgirl– that is such a cute story! I love it! I think you should post side-by-side pics of your original “ring” and “upgrade” haha
Post # 9
Sure! Why not? There’s no need to deal with a 28% fee on the credit card to get the ring you ultimately want a little bit sooner. I think it’s a great idea to have a cheaper ring anyway. I’ve been trying to get my FI to buy me a substitute, stand-in wedding ring for when I don’t want to wear the more expensive and flashy one.
Post # 10
I completely agree with CorgiTales. A ring is just an outward symbol and society today has placed more value on it than the marriage itself. If you can’t afford a ring, then either skip that part of the ceremony or use something else instead. For what it’s worth, people used to get married without rings all the time, and everyone has heard those stories at one point how the couple was so poor that they couldn’t afford a ring until their 50th anniversary or whatever but they were so in love that it didn’t matter. Do whatever works best for you. If that’s wearing a “fake” ring, then do that. But keep in mind that there will be at least a couple women if not more at any wedding that want to see your ring. So if you don’t want them to see it, then don’t wear it.
Post # 11
I think there is nothing wrong with having a stunt ring. And then it gives you something to look forward to after the wedding while you are having post wedding letdown!
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Not budget constraints, but religious reasons. For half a minute we considered doing a traditional Jewish wedding, and the rings would have to be gold with no stones. But I want the ring that matches my e-ring! 😉 So we were going to buy plain gold bands on the cheap for the ceremony, and then switch them out for our actual rings afterwards.
We ended up deciding against the religious wedding so it’s not a concern anymore, but I might still get the cheapy band (like, $50 for 10K gold) as a “stunt double” since I work in a pretty sketchy neighborhood…
Post # 13
Ha ha…I love DG’s new phrase for the fill-in ring…”The Stunt Ring”!!!