Post # 1
(This is my first post, so apologies if it’s a bit awkward)
I did a google search of posts and didn’t find anything about this, but is anyone planning to wear (or considering wearing) their mother’s wedding dress? I’ve seen several people incorporating parts of it or wearing it for the rehearsal, but anyone wearing it for the ceremony/reception?
I’m considering wearing my mother’s dress for a number of reasons: I’ve loved it since I was a kid, it would actually fit me with very minimal alterations, it’s got a super-cute late 1960s charm, fits in with my own personal style, is a very budget-friendly option, would honor my mother, would allow me the excuse to wear a pillbox hat… I’m curious, though, to hear from other brides who have done this–whether they ever regretted not choosing their ‘own’ dress, how their mothers reacted to their choice, whether they felt they missed out on the whole dress shopping experience.
I really love this dress and the idea of getting married in it, but I’d love to hear others’ thoughts and experiences since I don’t know anyone else who has actually done this.
Post # 3
You could wear it for the ceremony and then wear your own for the rehearsal. One of the bees was an LDS bride and wore her mom’s dress for the temple and a post-photo shoot. As long as you like it, i think that’s wonderful! My ma got married in the 80’s and it was hideous. Also rented. And i’m 6" taller than my mom, lol.
Could you use pieces of your mom’s dress and have a custom designed one? This works great if the dress is lace. Post a pic! I really wanna see this charming dress =]. You could go with a total vintage theme for your wedding too
I think it’s LOVELY. I wish my mom hadn’t rented her entire outfit so I could have used her veil or SOMETHING from her wedding in my own. I’m sad about it but I would never bring it up t her.
Post # 4
I think it’s a great idea. My friend wore her mother’s dress with no alterations. It was kind of funky late 60’s…but it fit her like a glove and it looked so beautiful. I actually think her sister might have worn it also. They also put up pictures from their parents’ and grandparents’ weddings at their reception which was a nice continuity.
I *really* wanted to wear my mother’s dress for my Indian event. But she’d had it altered once for my sister to wear for part of hers, and it didn’t fit me that well and couldn’t be altered again without destroying the embroidery. It made me really sad actually, b/c I wanted to wear it for the whole thing and my sister only wore it for like 20 minutes (the bride does a dance performance and she wore it for that). I was willing to wear it ill-fitting, but both my parents said it looked really funny…and I actually think they are right in retrospect. I think my mom was pretty flattered, though, that I wanted to wear hers more than anything else. She said it was kind of unusual when she had it made…some of my Dad’s cousins actually copied it a little bit after seeing her in it. I can tell she loves it soooooo much, and so I know that she really appreciated my enthusiasm for wearing it even though she also knew it wouldn’t be right for me.
If I were like you and could wear my Mom’s dress without many alterations, I think I’d do it for the entire night and not worry about a second reception dress. It sounds like you love the vintage feel of her dress…that’s kind of how I felt about my mom’s, they really don’t make anything like that anymore, the materials are much higher quality but it’s a lot less elaborate. I think vintage materials are often much nicer…so go for it! And post some photos 🙂
Post # 5
i think its a great and beautiful idea! if you love your mother’s gown then i say go for it! its definitely not uncommon
Post # 6
It sounds lovely, if it fits you and you truly love the dress then by all means wear it! And you get to wear a pillbox hat, that’s just darling! Perhaps you could get another dress for the reception if you wanted one of your own? I believe Mrs. Cupcake (I’m not sure who, sorry) had a dress for her Rehearsal Dinner that her mom, aunt and two cousins wore for the RDs too.
Post # 7
that would be so great! i love the idea of wearing a family member’s dress. unfortunately my own mom wore orange velour and then made a quilt from the fabric after the wedding…
Post # 8
I would love to wear my mom’s wedding dress, but unfortunately my mom was like a size 0 when she got married and my size 8 booty cannot fit in it! I even tried it on when I was home last and both of us were like … ummm…. how did anyone ever fit in this dress?!
Post # 9
I’m wearing my mom’s veil because there’s no way all of this is gonna fit into her dress. I wish I could though!
Post # 10
Aw, thanks for all the thoughtful responses, guys. I think I definitely leaning toward wearing the dress the whole time and if I do, will definitely post some pictures. It’s just an adorable little dress. 🙂
Post # 11
I can’t wait to see!
My mom has a traditional korean dress I tried to wear to prom 5 years ago. I’d LOVE to be able to wear it but I never could. However, Ma was a 00 and I’m an 8 bottom and 12 top! I look like a sad, stuffed sausage in that dress, and the slit goes all the way up to the point it’s like, stripperwear! We had a good laugh over it though.
Have you ladies considered using pieces of the dresses? If your mom’s ok with it being taken apart a little bit?
@fizicsgirl–I know indian wear is really intricate, but maybe you could make a pretty scart out of it or wrap your bouquet in a piece of it? I know it’s not the same, but then you could still incorporate it
I’m so bummed my mom rented her entire outfit!
Post # 12
I’ve actually considered wearing my mom’s dress but she unfortunately didn’t take the best care of it and it would need a lot of repairs. I’m still thinking about it.
Post # 13
I would love to…but it’s been lost many many years ago…she had a very simple boat neck, 3/4 sleeve, sheath dress (but long)…always thought it was so pretty…..
Post # 14
i am! only alteration is changing the bustle from one button at the waist to pick up the train to a french bustle – five ribbons that pull the train up at the back of the knee. i am redoing her veil, putting it on a comb and wearing it behind a headpiece she bought for me. we shopped for the headpiece instead of the mother-daughter wedding dress shopping trip.
Post # 15
I think it is awesome when a bride wears her mother’s dress (or aunt or sister or whatever)!
I’m planning on wearing my mom’s dress (it was originally my grandmother’s wedding dress in 1949). It is all chantilly lace but was never preserved and needs to be "bleached" to get out a few yellow areas and brighten the overall color. Hopefully when my mom and grandmom go to bleach the dress, it won’t all fall apart. We can’t find a drycleaner who will touch it, either.
I also want to display pictures of my grandmother and mom from their wedding days wearing the dress but my grandfather passed away at a young age so my grandmother is remarried and my parents are divorced and remarried so I’m not sure it is appropriate.
As far as missing out on the dress shopping experience, I might try on a few dresses just for the heck of it when my Maid/Matron of Honor and I go to look for bridesmaid dresses. I was worried about feeling like I missed out on finding a dress but I think maybe just trying on a few will be enough.
Post # 16
I think it would be cool to either wear it or just wear a part of it. I’d probably opt for wearing her veil or sewing a little piece of her’s into mine. Unfortunately… she didn’t really wear a dress and it ended in a nasty divorce anyway. So yeah, I wish I had the opportunity!