Post # 1
My grandma died three years ago from a combination of illnesses related to her smoking for over 40 years. She was only 63. My whole family took it really hard and many fell into depression over her death.
It’s honestly harder for me now that it was back then. I know she would have loved, more than anything, to see me get married. She would have loved every second, helping and supporting me. She wasn’t here for my sister’s wedding either. I miss her so much.
I’m going to do a memorial candle for her at the ceremony, and then at the reception I’m including a wedding and family related crossword puzzle at each guests’ place setting in her honor, because she loved crosswords so much. I know it will be so special.
I hope she gets to watch my wedding from Heaven.
Post # 3
aaaw I almost cried 🙁 My grandma died about ten years ago and my family took it really hard too, its like the whole family fell apart. I wanted to do a memorial candle too but I dont know how my family will take it.
Post # 4
I wished my dad was at my wedding- he died 6 years ago- 🙁 but I didn’t do any candles, mention, anything in the ceremony. Just a mention in the program. I knew I needed to focus on happiness and that I’d break down if it became a part of the ceremony.
Post # 5
Awww, the crossword is such a sweet touch. I am sure she’ll be watching and smiling at how happy you are on that day!
Post # 6
I’m so sorry to hear that. I know how hard that is – my grandma died when I was 14 from pancreatic cancer due to smoking. She wouldn’t give up cigarettes no matter what.
My dad’s parents also died young, so I’ve felt a void there. I never knew them (my grandpa was killed my a drunk driver in ’65, my grandma died of breast cancer in ’88.)
It makes me really sad sometimes to think about them not being here, but I have come to terms with it. They may not be here, but there are many people who love me and have memories of them, and they will live on that way.
Post # 7
my grandma is dying right now and it’s hard. I had my wedding already, but my grandma couldn’t be at it because she was too ill.
Post # 8
@jennychicago, some of my family fell apart, but for the most part it’s really bonded everyone closer. Only my step-grandfather fell apart, I haven’t seen him since my grandma died.
@jkpugs, oh my goodness. I cannot imagine not having my dad at my wedding. I am so sorry. It must have been so hard.
Thank you @amaryllis, I really love the idea too. I wanted something really personalized, so I think it’s special too 🙂
Post # 9
I am so sorry for your lost. What a great way to remember her at your wedding!
you just gave me a great idea for doing something like that for my cousin that passed away on my birthday 4/15/2010. our famiy all took it really hard she was only 9 yrs old. i love the candle idea.
may god continue to bless you and your family =)
Post # 10
Both of my grandmothers have passed so I will be putting a small picture of them in a locket and attaching it to the part of my bouquet i will be holding. I think it’s great to remember family members that have passed at a wedding!
Post # 11
i TOTALLY feel you. my paternal grandmother passed on when I was 13 – and my maternal grandmother 6 years ago…while we’re not doing any “rememberance candles” or anything – i am going to do my hardest to figure out a way to place THEIR wedding pictures in MY wedding…
it is hard – but just remember how proud she would be / is of you and that she IS watching over you all the time.
Post # 12
My grandma died almost 6 years ago. She was at my cousin’s wedding so I just know she would have loved to have been at mine! I miss her tons!!!
Post # 13
My father died two years ago from lung cancer, even though he quit smoking over 18 years prior. I am having a really hard time dealing with the fact that he won’t be able to walk me down the aisle, or share the father-daughter dance. I had the song we would dance to picked out for some time :*(
Just last night I sat on a park bench looking at a magnolia in bloom (his favorite tree) and started to cry.
I will have a tiny memorial photo frame tied to my bouquet so that he can be with me as I walk down the aisle.
Post # 14
Oh I did the bouquet frame thing too, I really liked it and felt like it was a personal touch. That might be a great idea for you!
Post # 15
I love the photo idea, I’ve heard of many brides doing that, and it’s very special.
I’m having a VERY small bouquet though, only 3-5 calla lilies so it wouldn’t work well with my bouquet, but I think it’s beautiful..
Post # 16
I know I really love that picture idea it a great way to have a love one that pass on to have them in away there. it very sweet