Post # 1
I love my engagement ring. He spent 5 months finding the stones we wanted and making sure they were of the highest quality. Both of us wanted to avoid diamonds so he created a three stone ring with alexandrite and tanzanite. (our birthstones). The center is tanzanite which is a soft and brittle stone(6.5 on mohl scale). Although we were warned or possible scratching, we desided to go ahead and do what we wanted. Now 8 months later, he is trying to convince me to get an additional diamond engagement to wear in order to perserve the beauty of my original ring. I’m all for keeping my ring beautiful, but it feels odd to have an additional ring, especially since he is talking about getting a diamond one. What makes the situation more complex is we had a custom wedding band made out of alexandrite and canadian diamonds to fit the contor of my e-ring. So if we buy another one, we will have to have it custom too!!!!
I was wondering if anyone else with a non-traditional ring has run into the same problem. Anyone else with an dark, rare tanzanite
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
well, I don’t have a soft stone engagement ring but i think yours is beautiful and you should wear it! if for some reason the stone cracks or chips badly, you could always get it replaced, right? especially since you already had the band custom made….also, my name is Mara too! don’t meet too many of us 🙂
Post # 4
I personally love tanzanite. I mean, you can get it insured, right? So if it breaks or chips you can replace it. You can replace a tanzanite many times over for the cost of a diamond, too, since you obviously love it so much.
Why have good china if you’re afraid to use it, right? Why have something you love if you’re scared to wear it, so just wear it!
Post # 5
I agree with ejs4y8, just get it insured. Then you can wear it to your heart’s content…if something happens, it’s protected and you can get it repaired!
Post # 6
The problem with replacing the stone if finding the same quality. It is hard to see in a picture, my my particular stone is one of the rarest colors of tanzanite. We have tried to find another stone to match, but have been disapointed. Since purchase, the price has gone up 150%. To replace the same stone, it would cost almost as much as a diamond of the same size. The only problem with replacement is it will indeed scratch again so we will have to go through the mess again.
Tanzanite is an investment stone, a rare stone, so it also seems wrong to me to be damamging such a hard piece to find.
Thank you everyone for your comments, and my fiance and I have explored insurence, replacing the stone, he felt it would be better just to get something to wear so my ring wouldn’t be exposed to the elements.
Post # 7
Since you wanted to avoid diamonds and your ring is pretty delicate (it beautiful!) have you considered getting a white sapphire ring? They are just a pretty as a diamond, look like one and don’t have near the cost and you don’t have to worry about the people mining them being treated inhumanly. Just a thought!
Post # 8
I have several tanzanite rings, though not engagement rings. Get it insured, and I’ve cracked 2 of them in half just by normal wear and tear – and they arent everyday rings. Mine were a paler tanzanite though, not sure if that makes them softer
Post # 9
I like the white sapphire idea. My jeweler said they don’t look nice, but he’s going to want me to spend more money to begin with. I think my fiance is concerned also about what other people think. Often people assume he cheeped out since he didn’t buy a diamond. I had never considered getting another ring until he insisted. Part of me wonders if I should just let him buy one, since in a way it’s his ring too. I’m sure we will figure out something we both can live with. I was more so curious if anyone else had the same experience with a non-diamond ring.
Post # 10
I think it would be as easy as replacing it when the time comes. The diamonds in the end will cost more, so if you wanted to save a bunch and use only that ring, thats what I suggest
Post # 11
What do you mean by "tanzanite is an investment stone." I’ve never really understood the idea that your e-ring should be an investment. (Investment in your future, sure, but monetarily?) If you’re not planning on selling it, then I think you should wear and love it. If you’re not thrilled by that, maybe consider just wearing your wedding band alone.
(And you should definitely have it insured, even if you’re planning to put it in a drawer.)
Post # 12
I have a rare aquamarine stone that came from Tiffany’s. So you can see we paid good money for my stone. Since it isn’t a diamond you don’t get the lifetime warranty that they provide. So I decided to get the insurance on it just in case. Also, I’ve decided to get my wedding band and wear it as a separate piece. That way I can leave the aqua ring at home when I know that I’ll be doing something that will cause it harm but yet still have my wedding ring on to show I’m a taken girl! LOL
Also, the colored stones have grown in popularity and I would tell your FI that people don’t think he’s being cheap. This ring is special to the two of you. My FI and I both are March babies and the aqua stone is our birthstone which is why we choose it. I think that is just as special as a diamond.
Post # 13
Definitely got insurance on it. Mines has it – but mainly for the big stone although the entire ring is insured. One of my little side diamonds feel out the other day & I cant find it – so I have to get it replaced; however, its so small it’s not worth the insure claim – but for the big stones it is defintely worth getting. Look into it!
Post # 14
What about getting a color sapphire ring to wear? It’s a harder stone that wears better and you can still have some color on your finger.
Post # 15
If you’ve already made up your mind to not insure it or replace the stone, why are you asking?
I would say insure it, and get a synthetic replacement if you can’t find a stone of the same colour.