Post # 1
I do. My FI and I both want a family, and I’m turning 35 right after our wedding. But sometimes I worry that I’ll just be too damn tired for kids! I already have way less energy than in my 20’s, and I want kids, but I worry about my energy level, how my body will handle it, and so on.
Post # 3
I totally worry about that.. I am 38 and my son is 8 months old. He already has way more energy than I do. I can’t wait til he starts crawling but also worry that I won’t be able to keep up!
Post # 4
Yeah! But I already have 2, so it’s too late to do anything about it. Haha! They keep me on my toes for sure.
Post # 5
I feel like you just read my mind and wrote it down. I got married a little over a month ago, turned 35 and we will start trying soon. I worry about my energy level as well amoung other things.
Post # 6
I’m already worried about, I have so little energy all the time.
Post # 7
Yes and i am 26 and not planning on having kids yet. I work as a nanny part time and i am tired after those days. I think it will always be tough on parents so don;t worry about it.
Post # 8
I am in my 20s, but DH and I have a few “couple friends” in their late 30s who have small children. They have all told us that while they do feel like they have less energy and enthusiasm than they may have had in their 20s, they feel so much more prepared to be parents.
Not only are they more financially and emotionally stable, they had the opportunities to travel, move around, and experience things individually and as a couple before adding kids into the mix. Being friends with these people has made DH and I want to wait until our early 30s to have kids because we haven’t experienced nearly as much as they have and want to do so before having children. 🙂
Just an encouragement to those of you who may be concerned about having kids at a bit older of an age than some!
Post # 9
This is my worst fear. I’m 30 now and will be 31 at the wedding. FI does not want to have and perhaps try for kids until 2014 when I’m 32 and he’ll be 28 going on 29. I feel like you that I have a lot less energy now than I did ten years ago however I’m also hoping that the weight is partly to blame for that. I’ve lost 10.6 lbs so far and I’m hoping to lose just under 50lbs so I will be a smaller, fit bride and healthy enough to get preggo w/o any complications due to my weight. I want to be a healthy mom so I do have energy and to set an example for my kids.
But what if the weight is gone and I’m still too tired? I don’t know what to do at that point. A lot of my friends say it’s going to be heard being a parent at such an older age but at the same time I won’t know the difference sine I had zero kids in my 20s.
Post # 10
@Sunshine09: My mom had me when she was 33, and my brother when she was 36. My parents were older, but they were great with us, and always had just enough energy to play with us. Of course, my parents are also both teachers, so our schedules were very similar…and we had to be in bed really early because my parents were going to bed, too!
I wouldn’t worry too much. Also Madonna had her first child when she was in her 40s.
Post # 11
Not now. I teach so I’m out for the summer, doing that and taking care of her was tiring. Now, that I’m out for 2 months, I’m not so tred from trying to cram everything into one day!
She still tires me out from crawling so much now, but she’s into everything all the time!LOL
Post # 12
Hell I’m only 25 and I fear this. DH and I are going to give it a shot this month and I’m in absolute terror over how much sleep I will lose.
Post # 13
Me and FI ABSOLUTELY worry about that! I will be turning 35 at the end of this year too and I just keep thinking if I don’t get pregnant now I never will because I just seem to be getting more tired with each passing bday.
Post # 14
Yes. I’m 30, but we’re not ready to try yet…so I could be 32 or 33 before we have any. I work with preschoolers now, and they’re exhausting! I guess it’s just one of those things you can’t think about or you’ll talk yourself out of it.
Post # 15
I’m 31 and I have a four year old. We will be trying for our own immediately after the wedding. I’ll be 32 by then. Trust me, you just find the strength. I think it’s because moslty you just don’t have a choice. Plus, you want to do everything possibe for/with your kids. So, you just do. I wouldn’t worry about this too much. Once you get past the baby stage it’s so much easier, at least for me.
My advice, especially during the week, is to stick to a schedule. Most nights my son looks at me and says he’s ready to go to bed. He sleeps from 8:30pm to 6:00am when we have to wake him up. Just find a schedule that suits you, get the baby on it as soon as possibe, and it will continue like that for years. This was the advice I got from my baby whisperer of a cousin, and it was the best thing anyone ever told me. Literally.
Post # 16
YES! Huge worry of mine. I’m 30 and the breadwinner, with a job that demands long and unpredictable hours. I feel exhausted most of the time already. Honestly, I probably wouldn’t mind if we decided not to have any children, but in the next few years we’ll have to shit or get off the pot.