Post # 1
This has been fascinating for me. I haven’t lived with my dad in nearly 15 years, he lives across the country, but he is giving SO many opinions about the wedding! Now, to be fair, he is contributing about 70% of the wedding budget, and he does get some input, but he claimed when we started “Whatever you want!”And I am a very decisive person with good judgment, he’s not worried about me doing something crazy. He just apparently has more of a vision in his head than he thinks he does.
Most recent example – picked tuxedos today. All black tuxedos, with FI in a silver vest/tie, GMs in dark purple, dads in black. Will all have purple bouts. Looks really nice and classy.
I sent the info to my dad and he comes back “Can we have any other color except black? All black isn’t very festive.”
I wrote back to him very nicely though and asked what he was thinking and explained sort of my vision, sent him some ideas. I’d be willing to consider a dark blue, although I’d have to go look in person. I’m going for more of a bluey purple, so it could work, although the ceremony really was just purple, silver, and amber uplighting. But the reception will have some touches of blue in it.
Either way — Dad, who cares? Where did this fashion guy come from?
We’ll see what happens. I do prefer the black but it’s not the end of the world. I think black will look better in pics though. I tried to appeal to him on that level, he’s all about the photos.
Post # 3
that’s cute, is he serious about it? he cares about you 🙂 does he get upset if you dont listen or are these just suggestions?
my dad is being more help than all my BMs put together! but he’s got opinions and demands for the food, liquor, venue, photographer, etc though nothing about fashion yet.
Post # 4
Hi, you must be my long lost twin because my dad is the same! He and my mom are generously providing a quarter of the wedding budget and I know that if I’m using some of their money they are entitled to an opinion but they said the same thing to me as your dad did to you! He said, “We’ll give you this much, use it how you want, we don’t need any say.” But than I go and book a photographer I love and he’s like “Well, here’s what I really think you should’ve done” Ugh! Stick to your guns and just feel lucky enough that we have dads who care that much about us, even if it’s annoying
Post # 5
My dad is also really involved! Much more than my BMs. To be fair – both my parents are super involved and really excited – but dad literally sends me emails at work, “found this caterer – check him out and let me know what you think” “have you thought about an MC?” “here’s a nice b&b” “your uncle has a carriage – if you want to use it I’ll arrange horses?”
Its really cute. He and I are big planners though, we both enjoy obsessing over details and planning the just in case measures. Whereas my mum is involved differently – she’s doing a lot to source decorations and will happily step back until I make a choice and then she will run with it to make it happen. I’m so lucky to have them both!
Post # 6
@Mrs.Mods: That is so awesome!
Post # 7
@NAvery: It is great, particularly as we are planning from the other side of Australia! They are there, on the ground, in the town and can go view things and speak to vendors for me. Again – SO lucky!
Post # 8
Omg! My dad just told me he wants “BIG baskets of fruit on every table. They’re so colorful!” I was like…. uhhhh maybe. But yes, my dad is very opinionated and wants to be heard. I just take it one suggestion at a time.