Post # 1
I just decided today, finally, what our wedding favors are going to be. We were on the verge of nixing the idea all together.
But we’re going to have little bags of lemonade mix with a “Love is Sweet” tag attached to the bags.
The tags will cost $140 for 200. The bags will cost $40 for 200. And the lemonade mix I’ll get in bulk for probably $20.
The website we’re ordering from I have connections with, so I can get the bag tags and the bags for 50% off. I did the math and figured it would come out to roughly $.55 per favor. Not bad, right?
When I explained this all to FI, he was confused about the idea and when I explained it to him, all he said was “whatever” and left. Haha.
Is this outrageous? Or just a man thing he won’t understand?
Post # 3
My fiance doesn’t get why we need favors either. He thinks a lot of things are more expensive than they should be. I think it varies more person to person in my experience than just being guys though and he’s never seen anyone spend more than a couple hundred on things like photography and hasn’t ever really seen favors. For two hundred people I don’t think that’s bad at all though.
Post # 4
I wonder if he didn’t really feel like he could give input since you have already done all the work and figured it out. He might have felt left out. I know that as brides, we come up with all these ideas, but I’ve been careful to not leave FI out of the creative process. I ask him about what ideas he has or gives him two of my ideas and ask which one he likes better, etc. Otherwise, you are just reporting to him and it might not feel like he can add anything.
Post # 5
@neontl: I was including him though, I swear. When I first came across the idea, it was for a hot cocoa favor. I asked him his opinion and showed him our options. When he left and said “whatever” was after I explained to him the number crunching involved to get at the .55/person favor. =]
He doesn’t understand the concept of favors. I gave him an example of the favor that was at the wedding we went to this summer so now he kinda gets it.
Post # 6
I think it is just a guy thing. As long as you have budgeted for it, he will come around. My guy is like “whatever” too. He just wants me to be happy. Sometimes, he is like, how are we going to pay for all this, but I just tell him not to worry, we have it covered. I can’t show him the budget though because he starts to freak out. When he asks how much something costs, I usually round it down a bit because of the shock factor. He knows that I am a bargain shopper and that I too, like you, have connections, so we are getting the best deals possible. If he squawks, I just tell him how much we would have to pay if we paid full price. He then just shakes his head and says “whatever”.
Post # 7
I have the opposite problem… you know when you first start wedding planning and don’t realize how much everything adds up to be? My FI will see something he likes and say “why can’t we do that?” – we’re doing cupcakes, and he wanted them all in the monogrammed Anthro mugs. I had to tell him how much that would add up to!
Post # 8
I’m a super bargain shopper too. The wedding is the first thing I’ve let myself splurge on, like, ever. Haha. I can definitely see how it can get out of hand. But I’m letting myself buy one or two big wedding things with every one of my pay cheques right now so it’s not like I’m blowing an entire pay cheque on wedding related things.
For example, I’m planning on making a big order on Weddingstar tonight. I get everything for 50% off. I’m getting:
200 clear cone bags for our favors
200 “love is sweet” tags for our favors
wooden love letter wine box ceremony kit
48 damask personalized water bottle stickers
What would this come out to without my discount? $300. So common sense says it’ll only be $150 with my discount. Not bad considering the wine box itself was $100 before my 50% off.
Deals & connections = <3
Next big purchase? My dress!
Unfortunately I don’t have any connections for that but it’ll be roughly $1100. Not bad. Under budget, actually. 🙂
Post # 9
My hubby was actually very encouraging about spending money. I’d complain that things were too expensive, and he’d say that we should get it if I want it, it’s our wedding!
Post # 10
My husband was pretty good, because both our parents just put a set amount into our bank accounts, and we’d decided what we were going to contribute, and reverse engineered from there. I was able to come in under budget in almost every category, except wedding party/shower hostess/honour guard gifts.
The only time things got a little sketchy was when DH decided his Vegas bachelor party flight and hotel was coming out of the wedding budget, so I had to squeeze a little.
Post # 11
Yes, FI is having sticker shock this week, now that I *finally* sat him down and showed him the line by line budget breakdown. It’s driving me a little nuts, because I’m finding bargains everywhere I can to keep our budget from blowing up. I booked a DOC on Friday for an awesome rate and he got all touchy about it. Grr….he’s not the one who everyone will be bugging during the wedding with questions and problems!
Post # 12
So far I’ve actually suprised my FI by finding everything for much less than usual… so he is happy at how low our budget is
Post # 13
@lilyfaith: um, at one point my fiance wanted an $800 custom suit. and a $3k videographer. and a $12,000 honeymoon to tahiti. he was out of control…which is how he earned the nickname “groomzilla”.
Post # 14
i know im a bit late in posting but saw the title and thought “that is so my situation!”
while FH doesnt make me feel guilty i dont think he understands what everything costs and that costs add up. i would like to think that i am pretty reasonable when it comes to buying stuff. i hardly ever get anything without a 50% off coupon and never buy anything that isnt absolutely needed.
then he’ll just look at the account balance and say “what have you been buying!?” and not really even care what i bought! lol
so, i think it’s a guy thing =)