Post # 1
my husband-to-be is taking my name! is it that unheard of?
i have a great last name, while his is a little….. well, blah. i didn’t want to change, because i hate my first name, and i use a nickname, but love my last name. he wanted us to have the same last name, so he said he would change his….
are we crazy???
Post # 3
My FI is about 70% sure he wants to take my last name as our new family’s name. 🙂
If he decides not to, we will come up with a new last name together and both change to it.
Post # 4
My name was Smith so I was happy to take his. 🙂
But my assistant and her husband are both hyphenating Hername-Hisname.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
that’s very sweet of him! It’s certainly unconventional but not unheard of
Post # 6
We are both hyphenating Mylastname-hislastname 🙂 🙂
Post # 7
Definitely not unheard of, but rare. Although it’s not something that interested my DH or me, I’ve seen several bees post about wanting their FHs to do this.
I am curious about something though: I would imagine the answer to this would vary from state-to-state, but I wonder if a man is able to take a woman’s last name as a result of marriage using the exact same process as a woman can use to take a man’s name, or if he would need to follow a different legal process to do so.
Post # 8
We plan to exchange last names for our new middle names. So he will take my current last name as his new middle name, and I’ll take his last name as my middle name. I also plan to go professionally by my full name, like Hillary Rodham Clinton.
Post # 9
@Brielle: i was wondering that too….. i saw a name change service on groupon, for around 20$, but there was no info on whether a man could use the service….. interesting!
Post # 10
@azure: That’s something I’ve not seen before. So, if we use an example of Jane Ann Smith marrying John Phillip Doe, you would become “Jane Doe Smith,” and your FH would become “John Smith Doe?”
Post # 12
We hyphenated hisname-myname and we were both able to do it by way of the marriage license. He didn’t have to go to court or anything. He filled in the marriage license with his pre-wedding name and his post-wedding name, same as me.
Post # 13
@Brielle: In California both parties can change their name to whatever they want when they get married. Not sure about other states.
I was iffy about changing my last name and I felt like our last names were both too long to hyphenate. Our compromise was that my husband took my maiden name as his middle name (he didn’t have one before) and all of our children (we only have one so far) will have my maiden name as a middle name. I also kept my maiden name as a middle name.
Post # 14
FH is taking my last name. 😀
Post # 15
my fiance suggested he take my last name -he comes from a HUGE family, all his extended cousins have the name, most of them are males. i’m an only child, zero cousins with my last name, so i’m literally the last one with my name right now (besides my parents).
i was sort of excited about getting HIS last name. not sure what to decide! fiance said its up to me and he’s totally ready to take my name. i feel sort of weird about it, so i dont know!
Post # 16
@virgomasala80: that is so kind of him! Takes a real man to be up for that :-). I think it shows he really cares about you and I’d it’s important for you to carry on your name he will be happy to help.