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So I have read so many posts on here about bachelor parties! It just so happens that 5 of our friends recently got married and 3 had some wild bachelor party in Vegas, none of which my fiance chose to go to. However, the friends who did go told us how they ended up spending hundreds or even thousands of dollars! The others opted to have activities like :a deep sea guys fishing trip or an event at a nice lounge in by the beach.
My fiance and I don't believe in the whole traditional form of what a bachelor-bachelorette party usually is. We of course do not judge those who do-it's just not our personal style. What we found to be so touching is the fact that most of our friends DO want the traditional parties with strippers and all-both the brides-2-be and the grooms-2-be, however, because they know our feelings on it they immediately said, "We will plan something you both will love and appreciate!" It really showed that even though we all have differences, at the end of the day they appreciate our beliefs and want our parties to be something WE want and not something for them.
The planning is still in process, but my bridesmaids already told me they are thinking of a trip to the hot springs, then getting our nails done and a massage-end with a nice dinner and a night a nice lounge by the beach. The guys are going to be having a big get together at our new house-with lots of food and drinks-poker tables-sports and all that.
I have met many brides-2-be that have opted for this type of get together and actually quite a few men as well (Not really in our circle of friends though haha!) Anyone else doing something similar?
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Originally my husband wanted to go on a hunting trip with his guys for his bachelor party but due to time and money it didn't happen. They ended up just going to the casino to drink and do some gambling. My husband is against the whole stripper party since he is in law enforcement so that was something that wasn't an issue for us. My only stipulation was that it had to be at least a week before the wedding, none of that getting married while still wasted crap for us.
Mine won't. He's not a drinker and definitely not in to the bar scene, nor are his friends. I don't know what they WILL do though...
My fiance doesn't want a bachelor party at all! He doesn't do many typical "guy" things (drink, like sports, strip clubs, eat meat etc) and doesn't like the symbolism behind the idea of the party. I am perfectly ok with that.
My best friend really wants to throw me a bachelorette and I am not terribly enthused. I would like to go to an arcade or play laser tag or something, but I suspect that those sorts of things would not be options.
Neither of us are doing the traditional "Bachelor/ette" bar night/strip club thing. Just not our scene. I think he's going with his guys to a baseball game and my gals and I are just going to go out to dinner.
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He's not into the traditional bachelor party either. I think they are going to go do a surfing/fishing trip and just take the chance to do a guys weekend and catch up since they can't see each other too often now that everyone lives all over the place.
My husband had a Halo party with all his friends... they ate pizza and played video games all night.
I had a girl's night... we had a nice dinner and hung out.
Neither of us like the symbolism behind the bachelor/bachelorette parties that have strip clubs & drinking.
My husband and I weren't into the wild party either.
He went on a fishing/camping trip with the boys, and I just went out to dinner with the girls and they slept over and we had a nice breakfast the next day.
We both had great times, didn't ask our friends to spend a lot of money and really got to spend quality time with the people we love.
My future brother in law is really into making his own beer, so his bachelor party will be a day at the brewery with his best friends.
I'm with you loveletter and the symbolism behind it-we both feel very strongly about it as well.
All of you girls have awesome ideas-keep them coming!
My SIL had a great bachelorette party -- she really isn't a big drinker and really wanted her mom and my mom (yes her FMIL!) at the party -- so what we did was got Mani's and Pedi's and then went to Tea at the Four Seasons!! After tea we went to a really fancy bar on Newbury Street in Boston and had some lunch, champagne, and opened gifts. In the end it was the perfect day and no more expensive then any other bachelorette with limo's and drinks and strippers!
My husband's bachelor party was nont traditional. A few of the men from his family got together and had dinner together- it was pretty boring. His family is fairly religious so he wasn't allowed to cut loose. I myself visited a strip club :) Role reversal.
My FI thinks strippers are dirty.
My MOH and I will be doing a Spa Day. I have no idea what my FI will do, probably a day trip with his Best Man to Cabellas Outdoor World.
Boys are going into the wilderness to do some 4 wheeling and fishing. I'll let you know what I did on Monday ;)
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My husband had no bachelor party of any kind. I encouraged him, but he just wasn't into the idea. I actually think it's sad he didn't do anything -- I loved my bachelorette party! :-)
My FI had to wait until 2 nights before our wedding for his party (so his best man could be there). They didn't do anything wild- just go out for steaks and then hang out and play video games. I thought it sounded kind of lame, but I think his college buddies were just happy to be all together in one place again for the first time in years.
He was happy with it- it was more important who was there than what they actually did. But neither he nor his friends are wild bar-hopping, strip clubbing kind of guys. So I knew whatever they would do would be low key.
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The BM is planning a pretty traditional bachelor's party for my fiance, but he did ask for a few guidelines and was told no strippers or anything too crazy. I'm guessing they'll just have a night on the town (we're heading down to NYC). My bachelorette party will be the same night, and we're planning to do a murder mystery scavenger hunt at the Met, then go to one of my cousin's apartments to have a game night and get a little tired and emotional.
Definitely not having them the night before the wedding. As if that whole week won't be tiring enough!
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We are having a 'Jack & Jill' party. All of our friends and wedding party are going on a weekend trip and we will party together and then have some girls only/boys only time, ie. spa/golf time. Our friends (who are mostly married or in serious relationships) have told us they are very excited about the 'Jack & Jill' vs. the traditional bachelor/bachelorette parties. It may also be because they have all been to tons of those in the past few years, though.
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FI's best friend wants him to have a "traditional" (ie, skeezy) bachelor party. FI would be absolutely mortified with an affair like that, so we'll probably have a joint get together, something a bit more low key. We're thinking Dave & Busters and dinner or something.
You gals are so lucky. I am actually having a really hard time dealing with my FIs desire for a more traditional party. He wants some nontraditional elements, but I really don't understand the need for the strip club. I think he feels that is what he "should" do, because its what the rest of the guys have done, and want to do in the future. I don't think its appropriate to say you are going to marry me, but need some mostly naked girl giving you lap dances to make you ready to marry me. I have no desire for that kind of bachelorette party, but almost want to do it anyway to bother my FI. He already knows its not my thing, so he can say hes ok with it all he wants to, he doesnt really have to deal with those feelings.
We are still very far off from the wedding, but I can pretty much guarantee that my FI will not want a bachelor party. He went to his brother's bachelor party a few years ago (the only time in his life that he was ever in a strip club) and said it was one of the most disgusting experiences of his life. He's just not into that stuff. Aside from that, he doesn't really have "guy friends" that he hangs out with at all, so there's not really anyone with whom he would do some big pre-wedding ritual.
I don't really want a bachelorette party, either, and it's unlikely that I'll have one because all of the friends of mine who would care enough to throw one live far away.
And I'm sure we're both fine with that; neither of us likes to be the center of attention, except each other's attention. :-P
My fiance doesnt drink and isnt into the bar/club/stripper scene either. He IS however an avid skateboarder. His friends want to go on a mini roadtrip/skate adventure. I'm perfectly fine with it. They did that for another friend of his that got married this past summer and they had a great time camping and skating.
On the other hand my FSIL wants me to have a bachelorette party with strippers and craziness. I was thinking something a little more low key... but I cant plan my own bachelorette, so we'll see what happens.
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My FH has REFUSED to have a Stag Party. I know some of his buddies are a little let down , they are married and have families , I think it's more of an excuse for them to go out at this point. I on the other hand really wanted to do something special with my girls. In the end we ended up having a joint part with everyone going out to the club we met at. I think it will be the first time in my "adult" life that I'm going to a club with my sister and I'm excited about having fun with everyone , but by no means see a marriage as an "end of good times".
Mr. Puffy HATES strippers, so he is definitely not having a regular bachelor party. He's planning a guys trip with his friends to northern Michigan where they can hang out in a cabin, go boating, golf and drink. He is totally not into the hedonistic night out on the town thing.
Which makes me a very happy girl. :)
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My husband did not have a bachelor party. He is not the drinking/partying type and all his friends are girls anyway. We are swing dancers though and he did go to a swing dance weekend in San Francisco (all the way across the country for us) by himself two weeks before the wedding, and I joked that that was his bachelor weekend. Then the night before the wedding my father and my uncles had a few beers with him at their hotel.
My husband and his friends went for an upscale golf weekend. It was a little spendy, but not outrageous. His friends are all married, so there was no way that the "traditional" lap-dance-fest was going to happen. Luckily, he's not the kind of guy who goes for that anyway.
My girlfriends and I went out for dinner, drinks, and dancing - just a girls' night out thing, although complete with a sparkly tiara and some fairly risque gifts. Also for us no strippers. One of my friends wanted to do Vegas and the Thunder Down Under, but I'd just rather not have some strange guy shaking his junk in my face.
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My DH went ATV riding and had a steak dinner with his buddies. I was worried he'd get hurt, but all he got was really really dirty.
my fiance is planning on a camping weekend with his two best guys that live in the area (3/5 are out of state). None of them are super outdoorsy, but I think they'll probably have a good time trying it out ;-) Maybe it'll give fi the bug to go camping (its my favorite vacation!)
My FH is one of 13 kids, 9 of whom are married. Only two (1 brother, 1 sister) had a stripper at their bachelor/ette parties, and they were surprises not choices. The rest played poker in someones house, went to a sports game, had a joint bachelor/ette BBQ, went camping or fishing, or to the local karoke bar. FH always says he feels sorry for strippers and embarrased for them.
My FH is planning on a poker game in his brother's basement. I'm planning either a night at my MoH with a bunch of girls, or a girls night out with however many can fit in the limo, Either way, I've already said no strippers or strip clubs. I don't need to pay someone to pretend they're into me...the rock on my hand says enough! :)
My husband just wanted a weekend with his wedding party, 4 of whom are our brothers, plus two friends, and our fathers. They went on a fishing trip down in Florida (everyone had to travel anyways). I had a weekend in the Hamptons with my closest girl friends - we rented a house, cooked the first night, winery tour the next day, and then dinner/drinks/dancing the saturday night. I loved my weekend so much!!!
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Hmm if by 'traditional' you mean the crazy drinking, stripper watching type.........yes my soon to be hubby is not doing one of those....none of his friends have ever had one of those either.....if our group the guys usually go to the driving range...go gocarting....bbq....play cards....watch a game....guy stuff!! And I'm NOT complaining!!!!
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I think the boys will go play Paint Ball. Its something they've discussed before.
my whole bridal party is getting together in NYC (everyone is scattered up and down the east coast) and we are going out and celebrating together. most everyone is already friends with each other, plus we have a few bridesmaids in serious relationships with groomsmen, so it is going to be much more fun to be all together with everyone we love.
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My fiance has VERY strong feelings against having a *traditional* bachelor/bachelorette party. I couldn't care less one way or the other, but he just doesn't feel like seeing someone else naked or getting ridiculously drunk is a great way to start off a marriage.
However, he is hiking the Appalachian trail for the 6 months prior to our wedding, so that's about the longest "bachelor party" he could possibly get!
the BM and my guy are rooting for a weekend trip to disney for a bachelor party. my man is not into strippers, drinking heavily, or meat-eating. i dont know whats planned for my bachelorette party, but i asked for something low key like an afternoon tea or an upscale restaurant in nyc.
My husband went backpacking and climbed a mountain with his guys!
We all (girls & guys) started the weekend out together with some drinking at a local pub, then they went off into the wilderness to the Olympic Peninsula while us girls had a spa day, BBQ ribs, karaoke, and clubbing.
The next day, we all met at a brewpub in Olympia for dinner before heading our separate ways home.
And the best part was that all the girls and guys collaborated to have a contest to determine between us who the "Bigger Man" was. My DH is sometimes quite effeminate, and I can be really macho, so we competed by completing different pre-determined "manly" tasks to earn a set number of points (1, 5, or 10 depending on the task) or we could earn "freestyle" man points.
I won!!!
My fiance is not going out for a bachelor party-we are doing some other things to celebrate our marriage with our friends & yes, even with some of our family. The guys are playing golf (including his father) and probably ending up grilling out and having a couple of drinks at his folks house (they live in a golf club).
My husband ended up having a casual weekend at the casinos in Southern Mississippi with a handful of groomsmen and a few pilot training friends. They gambled, drank, ate steak. :) He had a great time. Our wedding party is so spread out across the country that a bachelor party with all of his friends was just not possible.
I had a surprise bachelorette party thrown the evening after my shower by my younger cousin/bridesmaid and her mom/my aunt. I always said I wanted a classy bachelorette party with just drinks and dancing, no tiaras, sashes or male parts on anything. However, my aunt and cousin didn't get that memo and went all out, but thank God there wasn't a stripper. My aunts and friends loved it though. Only a few of my bridesmaids were able to even come. Although I wasn't a huge fan of the decor, it was a really good time. The best part was after dinner and unwrapping presents, I was thrown for another loop and surprised with a second party: the rest of the family (guy cousins, uncles) was at my house to eat more good food and hang out all night long. It was wonderful! I moved away the year before so being able to hang out with all of my cousins was a blast!
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I'm so glad that my FI is not interested in doing a typical stripper-party. He'll be doing exactly what WE do every time we go to Boston...go to his best friend's house and play video games into the wee hours of the night. Fine by me!
I TOLD my guy to! He didn't want it. They went to Dave and Busters all night, lol.
I told him I wanted him to have the *expereince* and I'd take care of it PERSONALLY lol =]
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