Post # 1
I’m a little irritated at my FI. We had a convo over the phone about wedding photography/ engagement session. He doesnt get why we need an engagement session. Well it comes with the package for wedding photography, so its a bonus so i dont have to spend the extra to get that done. But he still is confused what its for. I told him its pro photos of us. And he doesnt seem too interested in it. His response.. i dont really like taking pix. Keep in mind, in the last 4.5 years of being with him.. we barely have any photos together.. This irritates me. I have a big interest in photography in general. I’m usually the one behind the camera. So I don’t get photos taken of me too often. Wedding engagement photos are something i look forward to bc FINALLY i’ll have pro photos taken of myself and with my significant other. But he could care less. It’s just kinda put me in a sour mood at the moment. I guess I feel like he could care less about having documented photos/ moments with me. -___-“
Anyone else have this problem? :T
Post # 3
I am the person in our relationship who hates photos.
It’s not about you at all, try though you might to see it that way. 😉
He doesn’t want to, doesn’t like to or doesn’t get it but him committing his life to you is proof and paper trail!!!!!
Post # 4
@axeyourmakeupkit: Yeah I just starting typing what you said into three long paragraphs and then deleted because…long.
I hate taking pictures. I don’t even have half of the pro photos from our wedding in my iPhoto because I hate the way I look.
It honestly has nothing to do with you, why he doesn’t want to, so try not to get too bummed or hurt.
I would sit down and talk to him about it thought because there has to be a compromise somewhere in the middle.
Post # 5
Me! We decided not to enagement pics, but I finally convinced FI to take a few shots with me for the save the dates today. He hates all current photos of himself and I refused to use one from when I was 16 (when we started dating). We’ve been together for 5 years, and while some pictures exist, the ones that he likes are all before I was able to vote. I’m an adult now and I want to have pictures of us where I don’t look super young.
I think if you try to do a more simple engagement shoot your FI will enjoy it more. I know a lot of what turned my FI off was the idea of having to dress up and/or having to use props. I also think you don’t need 10 outfit changes. Just make it long enough that you have a few good photos and leave it at that. Tell your FI that you want to hang the pictures up around your home. Maybe he will think of that as a better end goal than having pictures for save the dates/invitations. I told FI we should have a picture of us on the save the date because a lot of my extended family hasn’t met him (spread out across the country and our vacations aren’t local therefore FI wasn’t really invited and he had no interest in going) and that way they would know what he looks like. And the same for his family with me (though I’ve met most of them). He warmed up to it a little more after that.
Post # 6
Yes, I had to have the same conversation/argument with my FI several months ago. I finally just had to say that engagement photos are part of the deal, put a smile on and be happy about it because We’re doing it!
Turns out he just didn’t want to do any poses that he thought were “silly” like foreheads or noses pressed together!?
He had the option during the shoot to veto poseshe didn’t like and he ended up being really happy with the photographer and the shoot and had a lot of fun!
Post # 7
My FI hates taking pictures as well. It is nothing against me, just his hangup that he has always had. My biggest worry is this….he closes his eyes too much in photos. He doesn’t mean to do it, but even during our engagement photoshoot(thankfully one of his friends did it for us for free) we had to retake several shots due to his eyes being closed.
Anyone have any tips so that half my wedding photos won’t be of him with his eyes closed?
Post # 8
My Fi doesn’t love pictures, but after a few years he just deals with it. If I were you I would just tell him to suck it up! LOL. Seriously though, he will come around!
Post # 9
Neither me or FI likes to have our photos taken. He’s definitely more comfortable than me. That’s why I’m the photographer and I take the pictures!
Post # 10
Ok well at least I’m not alone in this! Maybe I should make it a habit to take photos of him so he could feel more comfortable.. He’s always so critical on how he looks in pictures. Even though i think he always looks handsome.
Post # 11
@MsGosling510: We actually had to reschedule our engagement pic shoot and one of the reasons was because he was having a breakout(not the only reason…the weather was bad as well). He has battled acne since he was younger and he is sooooo self conscious about it(even though it is nothing like when he was younger).
Post # 12
Mine definitely does. I do as well, but there’s times where I would want to take pictures since we don’t really have many of us together. It’s why I made a decision not to take engagement photos because it doesn’t really suit us – more him than me.
Post # 13
My DH hates photos, but he shut up and did the e-pics and even admitted he had fun afterwards. Now, we’re about to do our third pro pic session in the last 2 years (e-pics, wedding pics, now family pics with our little one). He’s learned not to fight it.
Post # 14
He’s a camera whore.
I DO like playing in photobooths though. And he wants to do that this weekend, after we pick up my promise ring =)
Post # 15
If you are planning to have a child after you are married it may be an idea to swap the engagement pictures for a family picture session instead? Would your photographer allow you to do that?
I wouldnt put any more pressure on him to do engagement pictures, some guys just find the whole experience cheesy and to be honest so do I and I’m female. I don’t mind having my picture taken and neither does fi but it just isn’t us as I prefer spare of the moment pictures that tell the real story, not the posed one.
Post # 16
Yup. He’s a semi-pro photographer. But still there are only 3 or 4 pictures of us in over 2 years.