(Closed) Anything wrong with Groom wearing Elevator Lifts in shoes?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Would you ask your FI or Dad to wear lifts in their shoes?
    No way, that is just ridiculous : (28 votes)
    37 %
    Yeah I dont see why not, it isnt going to hurt anybody : (17 votes)
    23 %
    I wouldnt press the issue if they feel uncomfortable with it : (30 votes)
    40 %
    Other (plz explain) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wouldn’t push it, you don’t want to make Fiance uncomfortable for the big day. How about you just get a more moderate heel for the wedding day? Since you have a 4″ difference in height, just get shoes lower than that and they will still be taller than you. If you were going to be taller than him in heels I would think it’s more of an issue, but it’s just going to be less of a height difference, so doesn’t seem fair to push it. It’s your choice to wear heels, so he shouldn’t really have to wear them because you want the same height difference.

    Post # 4
    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    If they’re uncomfortable with it, I would just drop it.  People will probably assume you’re wearing heels, and no one else is going to look as closely at the photos anyway.

    I’m wearing some sky-high heels (there’s over a foot of difference between me and FI), so that’s going to make things look funny when I walk down the aisle with my short dad…  He’s normally a good three or four inches taller than me, but I’m going to be an inch or two taller than him at the wedding.  It happens.  People understand.

    Post # 5
    5165 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If he thinks youre vain about it and doesnt want to wear it.. then listen to him. Just wear flats or deal with the height difference. 

    Post # 6
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    No one who is 6’2″ should be wearing lifts in their shoes. I briefly brought this up with my Darling Husband (we are the same height) and he shot it down. I wouldn’t press the issue if he is uncomfortable. Dress shoes will give him 1 – 1.5 extra inches anyway.

    Post # 7
    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yeah, can you just wear shorter heels?  I mean you’d have to wear 4 inch heels to be the same height as him…maybe 2.5-3 inch heels?

    I think it is pretty silly to ask someone who is 6’2 to wear lifts.

    Post # 8
    2589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Insinuating to a guy that he’s too short is pretty much equivalent of telling him his penis is too small. Plus his guy friends would tease him FOREVER about being whipped enough to wear lifts to look tall for pictures…   unless his height with you in heels was an insecurity that HE brought up, I’d say back off and let it go. 

    Post # 9
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have no problem with a guy wearing lifts if he wants to, but I wouldn’t press it since sounds like he doesn’t want to. Maybe wear flats for the formal pictures, but then wear heels the rest of the night. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. 

    Post # 11
    2589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012


    I got these (fiance is 5’9′ and Im almost 5’7 – so no big heels for me either) and Im obsesssssssed with them:

    Post # 12
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I share your love of heels! But I ultimately bought shorter heels for my wedding. I love the height difference we have and I know what you mean about wanting to see it in picutres. 

    What about being a two-shoe bride? Take your shoes pics and pics with BMs with the tall heels, and wear the shorter ones for the rest of the time? I bet your feet will thank you at the end of the night too!

    Post # 13
    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    i agree that it’s kind of silly to ask someone so tall to wear lifts.  i think you got the right idea thinking that it would be a bit like him asking you to pad your bra, especially since the whole reason you want him to do it is because you’re unwilling to give up your super-high heels.  (4-5 inches, girl you’re crazy!  lol)

    there are some cute kitten heels out there that could work!  @mandypop‘s silver heels are gorgeous, and i got these little kitten/wedgy things (they actually categorize them as flats in most places, although the heel is about an inch) and i think they’re really pretty too.  (i needed something i could wear on grass and dirt if need be, since we’re planning on an outdoor ceremony.)

    Post # 14
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m 5’10 and my husband is 6’2″ also. I wore 4″ heels at our wedding and our pictures look great. I don’t really think its an issue.

    Post # 15
    2742 posts
    Sugar bee

    My sister, how far? I agree with the others. I wouldn’t push it. I’ll just wear the shoes I want to wear. Sometimes we obsess so much about pictures. I don’t think the difference would even shine through that much. Let him wear what he wants to wear. How’s wedding planning?

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