Anything you forgot or wish you did on your wedding day?

posted 3 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wish we did a receiving line after the ceremony.  I thought it would be easy to float around and talk to all of our 120 guests, but it became a huge source of stress for me during cocktail hour and dinner… DH and I basically ran to all the tables during dinner, but missed one at the very back, and of course a couple from that table had to leave right after dinner, and the first time we spoke to them was as they were leaving – I felt horrible!  I would have felt so much more at ease if I knew I had at least spoken to all of the guests before the reception.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wish we had reserved seats for our family in the first few rows. If I could do it over, I would have printed out placecards for the ceremony chairs and made sure that everyone knew were they were supposed to be.

 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wish, wish, WISH I would have splurged on a day-of coordinator.  The people who said they would help me, did not.  We had a lot of snafus because of people leaving me high and dry after adamant promises that they would take of things for me.  I guess the moral of my story is make sure you have someone you know you can count on for every single detail if you don’t have a day-of coordinator.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm

I wish we had gotten more one-on-one pictures of us with important people in our family. That was my mistake, because I told the photographer it wasn’t a big deal if we didn’t, but looking back now there are a few pictures I really wish we had taken the time to think about, like H with his dad, me with my grandpa, etc.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think everything turned out pretty great. Our ceremony was in a public indoor garden and the setup people didn’t do everything properly that they promised, but most of this I didn’t notice until after anyway. It will probably annoy me in pictures though. So I guess I wish I had assigned someone to check it out and make sure they did what they were supposed to. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MissusLane:  Amen.  We had a Day-of coordinator because my mom wanted one.   We only had a 60 person wedding so I thought it was stupid she was paying someone $1200 to do something I thought we could have handled on our own.  Oh how wrong I was.  I would have been up a creek without our DOC.  The vendors had so many questions on the day – questions that would have come to me or my mother on the day and it would have stressed us out so much.

I think my two regrets were my choice in wearing spanx (I didn’t need to wear them and they made me look boxy in my curvy dress – so pissed) and I wish I would have got one shot/pic of my uncle and I.   I never get to see him and i know it would have meant a lot to both of us.  I just didn’t think of it at the time.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Nikkimcq:  I forgot to have the photographer take pictures of me with each of my bridesmaids. I only have group photos.  The day goes by so quickly and I was jittery all day. I definitely wasn’t as detail oriented as I normally am.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wish I would have had a better plan for what I wanted for my hair. It’s not like it’s a major regret in my life or anything, but it does bother me a little when I see it in our wedding photos ;(

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wish I would have made sure my girls were out of the house on time. We were running late and we didn’t get pictures before the wedding like we were supposed to and that caused us to cut into the time for pictures of just my husband and I. I also wish I would have just stuck with pictures of parents and grandparents.

I wish I would have remembered to pause and give my mother a kiss before my father “gave me away”. I totally forgot and I’m really sad about that because that was something we were both looking forward to.

I wish I would have DIYed my hair and makeup. I could have done both better myself but I was convinced I wouldn’t want that burden the day of.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have made a plan to get people moving out of our ceremony space and to the cocktail hour more quickly.  People tended to linger and chat and our photographer wanted to use the space for family portraits, so they took longer than needed, and also the staff needed to reset the room.

I would have cut down the number of family portraits a little bit.  We didn’t really need every combo that I got.  It would have let us spend more time at our cocktail hour.

I would have had more photos done without holding my bouquet.  I loved my flowers, but it did hide some of my dress detail when I was holding them, and I got a little sick of just seeing them all the time and think it would have been nice to have done a bunch without the bouquet at all.

We forgot to do any “just girls” and “just guys” photos of the wedding party.  Not a huge deal, but I kind of wish I had done a couple.  Instead all our shots are group wedding party shots.

For our rehearsal dinner I think I would have invited the out-of-town guests (we went with immediate family and wedding party only).  I found that I really didn’t get a chance to get to know FI’s out-of-town family at all.  We met at the wedding in the receiving line, and the cocktails were short and busy and the reception was just so busy that I really didn’t get a chance to chat with them much.  And then they were gone.

I would have asked the photographer to do more pics of the guests at the ceremony and some closer table shots right at the beginning of dinner (before food but after people were seated).

I might have been a little more “late” to our wedding ceremony.  We told people 4pm and decided that we’d actually start at 4:05 to make sure people were in and seated, but of course a lot of people were late and so there were quite a few people not seated yet and coming in late.  Probably should have gone longer.  We’re people that hate to be late, though!  And I didn’t want our other things (cocktails, reception) to have to start later. 

I might have had a couple of FI’s friends try to usher.  We didn’t and of course the back of the room ended up full and there were quite a few empty seats toward the front.  Not a problem really but I notice the empty areas in the photos of the ceremony.  Also this might have helped to hustle people into the room a bit if they were lingering chatting, so maybe we wouldn’t have had as many “late” arrivals.

Those are all pretty minor.  Our wedding ran extremely smoothly and everything was great.

 

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