- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Hi everyone, I’m a newcomer that’s been lurking on these boards for the past few days. I just wanted to release a little steam and hopefully cool myself off!
My FI and I have shared a close male friend for the past few years. He lives all the way in Cali, while we live in AL and FL, and ever since finding out that he would be coming home early from a deployment and would be able to attend our wedding, we have been completely thrilled.
My FI has asked him to stay in his apartment (which will be our apartment as soon as the wedding is over) for about two weeks before the actual wedding day, which I have zero problems with — I suggested the idea to him. This will save our friend a ton of money on hotels as well as give the two of them some much needed time together. However, we were never sure what to do with him after the actual wedding — meaning the night of and the nights afterwards. I told our friend that my FI and I would give him a set departure date as soon as we could talk (FI put it off for later when I told our friend this).
Well, I found out today through our friend that he has already booked his ticket. I asked him how when he didn’t know what the return date was…and he said, “You guys told me the 19th! And I talked to Buck (FI) today about it.” Our wedding is on the 15th of May…meaning we’ll get three extra nights of our friend crashing at our apartment (the actual night of the 15th we’ll be staying in a hotel).
I’m pretty upset that my FI made this decision without talking to me about it, and I’m so uncomfortable at the thought of our friend not only being around the apartment but actually staying at our apartment the first few nights after the wedding. I figured this was supposed to a honeymoon period of sorts, even if we’re going on our actual honeymoon about a week after the wedding. My FI is very adamant about not making him stay in a hotel, but I’m thinking that might be the best option at this point in time if his plane ticket isn’t able to be changed.
FI and I have been discussing it and we’re working through it, but I guess I just needed to vent through another source haha. Have any of you ever dealt with or heard of anything like this? :