Apartment Dwellers – Need Advice (neighbors)

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would definitely send her an email- or maybe, invite her over to your home for tea/coffee while other people are upstairs making noise? I’m not sure if this is a feasible option since you probably don’t want a crazy lady in your home- but I feel like if she sees the things you’ve done to your place and also hear the people upstairs walking, that would calm her down? 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@moderndaisy:  I would send her a polite email that gently expresses that you’re feeling harassed by her even though you are following all of the rules and that she kind of needs to get used to it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I worked in the apartment industry for MANY years. My advice is to document EVERYTHING and especially in writing. 
Do you rent from a complex with a leasing office? I would go in there with a written statement of what is going on and just ask them to put it in your file.
Then you need to let your office know about the situation.

You have complete right to move about your apartment and as long as there is no excessive noise going on during “Quiet Hours” – normally 9pm -9am then you are doing nothing wrong.

I would get the office involved b/c really what may need to happen is that this person should be transferred to an upstairs apartment to make her happy. 

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@moderndaisy:  You sound like really nice upstairs neighbors. I wish mine had been as kind as you. I would also just email that you have done your best to be accomidating but she cannot harrass you during the day and you will be reporting her to management if the banging continues.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Honestly, you’ve done more than I would have. Good for you, on that. I think simply as you stated, it’s just the price of living within an apartment. I would simply send her an email confronting the issue, in a resepectful manner. You both live in this building, and I imagine others as well. You resecpt the rules of the apartment, and even put money into fixing problems for her. It’s her turn to respect that you’ve done your part, and she’s being over bearing. If the email doesn’t come to a compromise, apartments will usual hold meetings with tendenants who can’t find common ground. I think maybe her hearing out that you do everything by the book, and having the apartment back you on that. Maybe then she will see that she’s over reacting. Good Luck!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@moderndaisy:  She’s the one that’s the problem, not you.  Bad terms?  That’s on her.  Not you.

“Hi X,

It seems that we still don’t see eye-to-eye on the noise level.  I sent you an email awhile back about things we have done to keep the noise down to a minimum.  We have reviewed the rules with the co-op board and without a doubt we have kept in-line with them.  Unfortunately we have heard noise coming from your apartment when you want to let us know that we’re being too loud.  We are not being loud intentionally, we’re just living within the parameters of our lives and that means, for you, you might hear some noise now and then.  If there is another issue that needs to be addressed please respond so we can take care of it.  Otherwise we need you to please stop with your warning noises (IE banging on your ceiling) everytime you hear us living our lives.  This is borderline harassment and we don’t appreciate it after all that we’ve done to our apartment to accomodate you”

It’s not very nice but if you sugarcoat then you’ll just be going around in circles for months.  Let this bitch know who is boss.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@moderndaisy:  I wouldn’t worry too much about being on bad terms with her. It seems like she is already furious because you are generating any noise. And as PP said, she is harassing you!

Post # 13
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857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@moderndaisy:  Honestly, it seems like you guys have all your bases covered. As long as your not breaking any rules, just carry on with your daily life/routine at home and ignore her banging. If she keeps doing it complain to the building manager (or whoever) that she is disturbing you.. If shes that irritated that you walk around your apt, too bad for her

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

@moderndaisy:  Is she complaining to you or complaining to management? I would complain myself to management about her harassment and the banging on the ceiling/floor. Stress that you have made every effort to keep the noise down for her, and that you aren’t breaking any rules by simply walking on the floor. She is clearly being unreasonable, but ultimately it should be managements problem to deal with her because she is their tenant and its not your fault their apartments have shitty thin floors.

I had a similar thing happen to me when I lived in my apartment, management sided with me and basically told her she could either deal with it or they would be willing to let her move to an upper unit so there wasn’t anyone above her. She opted for the upper unit and I seriously NEVER heard anything from the new people they moved in below me

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@FleeSircus:  If I ever need to write a direct, firm email, I am asking you what to write!

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