Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
My apartment manager has given me a 3 day notice two times. Both times, she later admitted there was no reason for it. Once, was because she wanted me to fill out some paperwork for my dog. She is a legal companion animal. I don’t mind filling out paperwork, but my manager gave me the paperwork along with the 3 day notice! It’s not like she had asked for it and i hadn’t filled it out. She later apologized.
Yesterday, I received another 3 day notice on my door. It was for dog poop in my neighbor’s yard. But it wasn’t my dog’s. I told the manager that it wasn’t hers, and she didn’t believe me. So I asked her to please just ask my neighbors (who also have a dog) and they admitted that it belonged to their dog. So again, the 3 day notice was completely out of line. My manager even said that I should go over into my neighbor’s yard and clean up their dog’s poop just to be “neighborly!”
Anyway, my question is, should I get a written apology from her? I’m just scared that when DH and I move, she will give us a bad reference, or they will see that we received two 3 day notices and think that we aren’t good renters. I feel like if we have a written apology, we can prove that neither of these accusations was our fault.
Post # 3
@MrsSparkle10: I’d definitely ask for it. That woman sounds completely ridiculous.
Post # 4
I am not sure if I would ask for a written apology, because I am pretty certain based upon her erratic behavior she would a) not do it, and/or b) issue another 3-day notice because you requested it!
What I would do instead is perhaps call her or shoot out an email (whichever way she communicates) thanking her for her apologies, as they were misunderstandings, and ‘verifying that if/when you guyes do move, she would be happy and willing to give you a good recommendation’!!
Post # 5
I would at least ask that the erroneous 3-day notices be removed from your file.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@MrsSparkle10: I wouldn’t worry about it, when DH and I moved from our similarily ridiculous apartment complex I let the knew complex know that we had a perfect record of paying our rent but despite that had some issues with our complex, the agent I spoke with for the new complex said she wasn’t surprised and that they heard that a lot about our previous apartment complex!
Maybe just let the apartment manager (or higher ups) know that you don’t appreciate the 3 day notices that repeatedly threaten your tenancy.
Post # 7
@MrsSparkle10: in my opinion, you’re focusing on the wrong thing here. While an apology is owed and would be nice, what’s really important is that she stop her absurd behavior. You need to go over her head. If she’s a manager, she has a boss. Talk to him or her. It sounds like the 3 day notice is her go to hammer to bully tenants into compliance. It’s ridiculous and unprofessional.
Ask around and see if other neighbors are having similar experiences, then call or write a letter of complaint.
If you are good tenants who pay on time, abide by your lease terms, don’t cause problems and take care of your place, how can you possibly get a bad reference?
Don’t let this lunatic push you around And don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself.
Post # 8
@MrsSparkle10: Ugh this sounds so much like our apartment management at the moment. They only allowed dogs on the first two floors for the first year we lived there (until last month, thankfully we’re leaving in May) and we were one of three dog owning apartments in the building. We pick up after ours and are responsible with him, but the others weren’t at all, and to make it worse one of theirs looked similar to ours (small white dog) so they got confused a lot and assumed the dog attacking kids was ours.
They’re also freaked out over walking him through the lobby (the only way to get back into the building without taking the elevators up from the basement – but dogs aren’t allowed in the elevators either!) and my FI walking him in the “manicured” area (mulch with mushrooms growing in it in the winter).
There’s no pet policy at this building besides “dogs under 25 lbs allowed”. We don’t have anything written to go off of, but we’re pretty sure at this point that we’re never seeing our security deposit again and we won’t be getting good references from them.
Post # 9
I would write out what you want her to appear to have said and email it to her. Ask her to confirm the following, just to set the record straight.
This email is to confirm, that the tenants _____________ were given notice x 2 in error. In both instances, it was discovered that the tenant in question wasnot responsibe for any breach of the lease or rules of the complex.
Post # 10
@julies1949: +1! I doubt she is going to apologize to you, and I suspect that asking her to do so will get you another 3-day notice since she seems to completely mis-understand the purpose/importance of that document…
Post # 11
@MrsSparkle10: I would keep a ‘you said’ book, with dates and times of your conversations with her – especially in regards to the letters. You could ask her for a written apology, but I doubt she will be agreeable – she sounds like a bitch! Is there some kind of rental tribunal higher up you can talk to?