- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Hello fellow Bee’s,
So I am adding to all the other post of Future Mother-In-Law that fellow Bee’s have already posted.
Just to start off I want to say my Future Mother-In-Law is a lovely, nice lady, thus far. But something has kinda been coming to mind that is mind boggling to me.
My Fiance and I have been engaged for almost 2 years, and Future Mother-In-Law has known about it all along. She has NEVER asked, inquired or shown any interest in her only childs wedding at all. At first it kinda bugged me. I would bring it up wedding stuff to her and she would just stay quiet, not really say anything. She just really does not seem to care. After failed attempts at trying to have her involved in our wedding I just gave up. Not in a mean way, I just stop talking to her about it. Take in mind my partner would try talking to her about it too and she would not say much either, like thats your business attitude.
A few months ago I informed her about our wedding plans being set for a specific place, all the details, who in her family she really wants there, all that good stuff. Especially because I needed address of her family. So anyways she finally said something and it was kinda rude. She basically told me that a proper wedding is in a church and if I am inviting people to my wedding the more appropiate way is to invite them to a church wedding. She also said she is not telling in her family about our wedding, that job is for Fiance to inform her sisters (his aunts) that he is getting married not hers. My Fiance has not spoken to half of these ppl for almost 5+ years. While she talks to her sisters on a daily basis. I just told her that I would let Fiance know she wants him to contact everyone personally and that we will not get married in church because we never attend mass and are not willing to pretend to be church goers for one.
Anyways, our whole conversation was calm but it really irked me. I have just decided to let it go. Some people just don’t care about these things, especially if they are not happening the way they want it to happen. All I really care about is the love between my partner and I, and how now we will be married and will continue our futures together. I’m just wondering if anyone else has apathetic FMIL? If so, how did you handle it? Is this normal? Any thoughts?
Oh and I don’t really bother my Fiance about this, he can’t help how his mother acts. Plus he has tried to talk to her about it and doesn’t think its a big deal she doesn’t care about our wedding.