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At first I thought you were talking about wedding to-do lists (which I cannot live without at this point) - and I was quite confused!!
I didn't even read the article. It is hard for us to step back out of our wedding planning world and realize that there are a lot of things about weddings that are weird/tacky/patriarchal/outdated/silly/materialistic - and thus weddings are very easy to attack (especially when it is a slow summer news day and they need to pull a stock general interst article). Weddings are what they are - but we get to determine what our marriage is. I of course think wedding registries (lists) are fine - and by looking at their popularity, most people agree. I will continue to judge (however) people who register for gifts for their housewarming/birthday/graduation etc. - and that is probably hypocritical of me, but I'll be out of my wedding planning haze in a few weeks and will be back to finding so many things (ribbons in butter or lemon yellow?) ridiculous!
Enmoore66, it's good you're stepping back. I'm finding all things wedding really ridiculous right now. After I go wedding dress shopping tomorrow, I'm taking a break for at least a few weeks to a month. I know in my heart that everything except the exchange of vows is superfluous to me.
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This actually made me angry: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/comment/columnists/melanie_reid/article4474090.ece
Firstly, as a guest at a few weddings, wedding lists, as they are called in the UK, but known gift registries in North America are so useful in getting the couple something that they want/need and honestly, I don't have the creative capacity to find them something "unique" or "original". I suck at gifts. I love registries and am only disappointed when I've waited too long and everything was bought up.
Secondly, I don't like the insinuation that it is ok NOT give a gift when you're invited to something, be it a dinner party, a baptism, or a wedding. I think I would die of shame if I showed up somewhere totally empty-handed. When I was a super poor student, I'd bake a cake, or at the very least, bring a card. C'mon, people usually have more than enough notice to save up some dough to bring a little something. Also, I think it's just nice to give the host(s) a gift to say that you appreciate being included in their special day and you love them.
Thirdly, while I agree that some people go overboard and are just plain greedy with their lists, if hosts want to point their guests in the right direction according to their needs and tastes, they shouldn't be crucified for it.
For the record, we're not having a wedding list because a lot of our guests are travelling to get to us and their present really is just their presence. But if (local) people really want to give, we're spreading the word that money would be great (we live in the UK now but will one day move back to Canada. It would be a shame to give away gifts that would otherwise be way too expensive to ship).
Whew - that really got my blood boiling, especially reading the comments! What are your thoughts?