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posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

lilchicana:  You sound much more positive by the end of that post already – congrats! 🙂  You will look back at all this initially worry in a year or so and smile!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

 

lilchicana:  Congratulations!! Having a little anxiety right now is understandable as you are still in shock. You have about nine months before baby comes and that’s plenty of time to sort out your move and jobs 🙂

Just look at how happy your hubby is to start a family! YAY!!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

lilchicana:  don’t worry. you’re not alone in your feelings. i wasn’t like most of the women on here who were all “OMG YAY! Here’s the stick I peed on! It’s still warm!” when i found out i was pregnant. lol i definitely needed to take some time to let it sink in.

DH and i said we wanted to get married and start a family right away but there’s nothing like saying something and then watching it flawlessly happen. i didn’t expect it to actually…work. lol but it did. i took a few days to just sulk, think, and just let it sink in. i still didn’t come out of those days with “i’m so happy to be a mommy!” feelings. i juuuuust started warming up to the thought of holding my baby and i’m 5 months along!!

it didn’t become real for me until i heard the baby’s heartbeat. it makes me smile and each day, i try to find something to enjoy about my pregnancy (now that i’m well away from the first trimester hell).

it’s ok to feel overwhelmed. and it’s true. there’s never a good time. if there were, DH and i would have paid off the little bit of home remodeling debt we have, saved up, bought a new house (there’s nothing really wrong with the one we’re in), and found 5 more things that we absolutely have to get done before having kids.

but in all honesty, we don’t HAVE to do anything else. we are established in our careers, been out of college for years, and we own our home. so the basics are covered. don’t worry too much about the future. you guys will figure it out. i know that sounds scary, but if you have a supportive husband and you guys work great as a team, you will. believe in each other and your marriage and you will be fine.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

lilchicana:  Congrats! The fear and anxiety ir completely normal. This more than likely won’t be the last time you have it either. I am 37 weeks pregnant, and I STILL get scared and say I’m not ready. Then I go back to my little happy place. It’s been that way since the beginning, and my pregnancy even came at a convenient time actually.

Everything will work out, and in the end you will have a beautiful pooping, crying bundle of joy to call your very own 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

TaurianDoll:  “OMG YAY! Here’s the stick I peed on! It’s still warm!”  – LOL

lilchicana:  Best wishes to you, your hubby, and new baby on the way! Time will ease this transition.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

First off, congratulations!

Second, it is completely normal to be nervous and afraid. I am due in less than 4 weeks and I still freak out sometimes. I will admit I have hated close to every second of being pregnant and I have all the normal fears about being a first time mom, but I still love this little girl and can’t wait to meet her! Wait until you feel them start to move or see them on an ultrasound- it is so cool. And in the meantime, don’t feel guily about any of your feelings. This is a big change and a huge responsibility- but it will also be incredibly rewarding.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

lilchicana:  LOL I LOVE that show by the way. I DVR it everyday and yes I’ve seen the entire season like 4 times. lol I totally get it.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

lilchicana:  i know some people who talked about how much they loved being pregnant. i like the perks (husband will give me whatever i want and i can take naps if i say i’m tired instead of finishing chores) but i can do without the size. i miss my old body.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

 

lilchicana:  I’m not pregnant nor trying, but I believe you have very valid reasons for feeling that way!  Some of my best friends after months, years of trying got pregnant and FLIPPED OUT.  It’s very common and makes perfect sense!  I freak out about my wedding.  Not so much the marriage, but I get mixed emotions all day when it comes to finances, what if it’s too cold, what if I have my period, what if I break out.  This is a baby!  Totally understandble!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

lilchicana:  Lol pregnancy is worse and better than what everyone tells you. The experience is different for everyone. Some women are sick all first trimester. I wasn’t sick at all. While other women were dealing aches and pains, the only pain in the ass I had was my MIL so mine was all emotional second and third trimester. Everyone says how miserable you’re going to feel, but then expects you to be this happy, glowy mom-to-be, and that isn’t always the case.

Whatever you feel, never feel bad about feeling it, even if it is the worst and most embarrassing thoughts. If you need help, get help. I myself got to that point and never thought I would. My MIL made my pregnacy from week 5 on so miserable emotionally that I couldn’t control my feelings, and it took me weeks to admit to myself that I needed to talk to someone. I am not ashamed nor do I regret it for a second. And hell, I may need help AFTER baby is here too, and that is ok.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

lilchicana:  Congratulations!  Having a baby is a HUGE life change, so it’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed and scared.  A lot of women who were TRYING to get pregnant still feel that way when they find out they actually are pregnant, so don’t feel bad for having such mixed feelings!  But as long as you both do want children (which it sounds like you do), everything will work out 🙂

Also, just FYI, if you’re over a week late, you’re actually likely at least 5 weeks along – the “weeks” of pregnancy are calculated from your last menstrual period, so by the time you conceive, you’re actually already “2 weeks pregnant” (isn’t that weird?).  Just wanted to point that out so you don’t go to the doctor, have them tell you how far along you are, and go “What the what?! How is that even possible?!!”

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

lilchicana:  I want to echo what others have said: what you’re feeling is extremely common.  I think as a society we’re conditioned to believe that if a child is wanted, there’s only excitement and the nerves are fleeting and are more common at the end of a pregnancy.  I think it makes a lot of women afraid to talk about anything other than that.  When I saw that second line show up, the very first thought that popped into my haed was holy shit, what have I done?  And we were 100%, absolutely, no question trying.  I expect that the next time will be just about the same (my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage).  I talked to a friend recently who just announced she’s pregnant and she alluded to nervousness.  I asked if she had had a bit of a panic when she realized the reality of it and she said “oh yeah – my oh shit moment”.  lol.  Give yourself some time to get used to the idea and you’ll catch yourself getting excited.  Good luck and congratulations!

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