Post # 1
I’ve always been overweight. Like, I haven’t been average sized since 3rd grade probably. I’m kind of terrified to lose weight. I don’t know what I’ll look like! It’s taken me years to learn how to dress myself and present myself to be happy with my appearance and I’m worried I won’t recognize or like my smaller self. Shoot, FIs never seen me smaller than an 18. What if he doesn’t like a small me? I’m also worried about going broke in the process. I make $100 a week, have to live with my parents. I can’t afford a gym membership or to buy my own groceries. I can’t afford a bra with enough support to keep the girls in place during high level activity. I can’t afford clothes for a smaller me. Everyone says that losing weight is so beneficial and how great it will be, but I’ve been an 18-20 since at least freshman year of high school. I don’t know how to be anything but a big girl. I don’t know where to start or if I even want to. This is mostly a vent, but if anyone has any advice or I’ve been there stories, I’d really appreciate it.
Post # 3
Focus on being healthy rather than specifically losing weight – it eases the stress/pressure
you don’t need a gym – walk around your neighborhood/park/school track. Walk/run up and down a flight of stairs.
I’m assuming your parents do the grocery shopping and pay for it? Chat with them about some healthy options – fruit, smaller portions of meat, etc.
FWIW – I was a 10 or so in high school and have been a 12/14 since I was about 25 (I’m 38 now). I will never be a size 6 or an 8 or a 10 🙂 I just have too many hips! So I focus on being healthy and moving, moving, moving
Post # 4
It’s 80% diet, 20% exercise. Many people find that they go hand in hand.. like if you just spent an hour exercising, you’ll have the will power not to indulge in a fatty dessert that evening, for example. Exercise is great for boosting your mood and being good for the heart… it’s not the magic key to losing a lot of weight unless you do a LOT of it, which isn’t advisable right away or you’ll burn out.
It doesn’t happen overnight. It’s not like you’re going to go from overweight to a stick figure magically. Of course your SO will love you, and you will look great. Since it happens so gradually, you will get used to your new self. Fitter/slimmer people are generally healthier, so for me at least, that’s a huge incentive to start a healthy lifestyle change. Try not to do anything drastic, or to get too discouraged when you fall off the wagon. Just get back up and try again. You can do it!
Post # 5
@HonoraryNerd: Just start nice and slow. I started with using sparkpeople first and then myfitnesspal to track calories and activity. You don’t need to spend a lot just to be aware of what your eating and portions, both are free apps. I am trying hard to lose weight because I once did go from being a heavier girl to being actually thin for a short period of time back in HS. Now I miss the thin me because I felt SO good about myself. Just taking care of yourself can feel amazing! I am a size 16 now, but I am about 30 lbs lighter now than I have been over the past couple of years and am hoping to work my way down to a 13/14 by the wedding. If you need a fitness buddy on myfitnesspal, just PM me and I will send you my screen. It’s not easy but it’s not too hard either…I just fit in walks when I can, take the stairs, park further back when I go shopping, etc. No extra gear needed. You can do it!
Post # 6
Aww *hugs* you will still be you, whether you’re your size now or smaller.
If you want to lose weight for YOU, then start small, as PP suggested, take walks around the block, or walk with intervals of jogging. I have big boobs, but its still possible to get sports bras cheap at Target or a plus-size store. As PP said, you may not be doing the grocery shopping, but you can still talk to whoever does the shopping about getting some healthier options.
I was always around a size 8-10 in high school, but in college I grew to a size 14, then really struggled with eating/weight and dropped to a size 6, and now I’m up to a size 16+. I’m the biggest I’ve ever been, but I’m also much happier than I was when I was thinner. Even when I was at my smallest, I still felt fat. So just know that a lot of it is mental more than physical. Just focus on making healthy choices and see where your weight ends up 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks so much, ladies. It means a lot.
Post # 8
Maybe you can find a consignment or second hand store that has clothing to get you by as you lose weight?
Post # 9
@HonoraryNerd: As someone with comically large boobs: wear one of your regular underwire bras underneath a cheapie compression sports bra (the kind without cups) from Old Navy or Target. You’ll have more laundry at the end of the day, but it provides amazing support. Like, support on par with a $50-60 sports bra.
As for everything else: Your weight is a physical attribute and doesn’t dictate who you are as a person, whether you lose or gain or stay exactly the same. You’ve given us a few barriers that might make weight loss more challenging, but I’m wondering, what are your reasons for wanting to lose?
Post # 10
i’m going to go to the other end of the spectrum.
why do you feel like you need to lose weight? is it because you want to get healthier? or is it because people are telling you to lose weight?
if it’s because you want to be healthy, start small. walk. i know that the malls we have around where i live, they open up early in the morning for “mall walkers”. none of the stores open, but the building opens up. a lot of people walk the mall, because it’s climate controlled, and there’s even walking surfaces. i’ve done it in the winter, it’s nice actually. then, try cutting out the bad things- carbs, sugar, etc. however, i think you need a bit of everything in moderation. do you know of anyone who’s done weight watchers? i’ve done ww by paying for it, and also just by following the plan on my own (my mother has been on and off the plan for years, she keeps all of her stuff from it). i wonder if you can find the points plan online somewhere. weight watchers is the only “diet” plan that i think actually works. because you have to teach yourself to eat properly.
if you feel like you need to lose weight because everyone is telling you to? maybe it’s best if you don’t.
yes, being overweight isn’t healthy (i’m a lot bigger than you, and i’ve given up the dieting cause i have other health issues that contribute to my weight, and diets make me miserable). but if YOU don’t want to do it, then why put yourself through it?
Post # 11
Get on to websites like MyFitnessPal or Loseit! They are great communities to help with weight loss. I am on loseit myself and have lost 20lbs since June. The people there are super supportive and encouraging.
Post # 12
@loving_life: “I was always around a size 8-10 in high school, but in college I grew to a size 14, then really struggled with eating/weight and dropped to a size 6, and now I’m up to a size 16+. I’m the biggest I’ve ever been, but I’m also much happier than I was when I was thinner. Even when I was at my smallest, I still felt fat. So just know that a lot of it is mental more than physical. Just focus on making healthy choices and see where your weight ends up :)” – ALL OF THIS!
I could have written all of this, but I’ve never really dropped down to a smaller size after making the weight/size climb. I’ve decided that it’s better for me (mentally/emotionally) to eat healthier than to necessarily go to the gym as I’d probably end up going a bit nuts with it.
Post # 13
@peopleskills: @colorofmyheart: I don’t know. It’s one of those things I’ve always wanted, but failed miserably at. I know I’ll never be tiny, my hips don’t lie, but I’d be happy with just a flatter tummy. FI runs marathons and works out all the time. He never pressures me to lose weight, but still. It always feels so lopsided. Not to mention the parents being on my case about it all the time. They’ve already had me tested for thyroid problems and diabetes. In general, I feel healthy. I’ve got my random medical quirks, but nothing associated with weight. I don’t know why I want it, I just know I do.
Post # 14
Good luck on your journey! Start slow and take it one day at a time. Focus on changing to a healthier lifestyle, not just on dieting to lose weight. The cost of being unhealthy is a lot more expensive in the long run then a gym membership and some new clothes. Though, you definitely don’t need a gym membership to exercise.
Post # 15
@HonoraryNerd: well that’s a good reason. as long as YOU want it? then YOU can do it.
i’ll look around, and see what i can find, weight watchers wise. it’s not a diet, it’s a complete lifestyle/eating style change.
if you’re interested, of course.
Post # 16
@colorofmyheart: Anything would be helpful, thanks.