Post # 1
Hello Bees! I was wondering if there’s an appropriate dollar amount to cap for your registries. I’m worried about putting something that’s worth $500 and have someone think that I’m being greedy. I realize that I should have items for all price ranges…but I don’t want to go overboard. What did you all do?
Post # 3
I only have one HIGH-dollar item on mine (a $600 Hunter Trunk Coffee Table from Crate & Barrel!) but it’s on there mainly because I love it and will buy it with the completion discount and any gift cards afterward even if no one gets it for us.
Getting the big-ticket items is highly unlikely in most cases, but most people now know about completion discounts I think. I’ll save $75 on that trunk! And when people see you’re working toward a bigger purchase (say you register for a mattress at Macy’s or something) they might give you a gift card to that store.
I don’t think it’s over-the-top to do one or two big items. A Dyson, a mattress, a Hunter trunk, a media console AND a china cabinet – well, that might be overload :o)
Post # 4
Also keep in mind that sometimes people like to go in on a big gift together. I know my aunts and uncles on one side went in and bought all my flatware.
Post # 5
I have no idea what a cap would be, but I know I totally shut down when I see multiple high-priced items on a registry. If there’s a balance, then it’s fine, but my last friend who got married had all high-priced items – the cheapest thing on there was $159.00. That’s in poor taste, I think.
Personally, we won’t be putting anything more than $100.00 on our list. By the time we’re married, we’ll be living together for almost three years and have everything we’ll need. So, I don’t feel it’s right to ask for high-ticket items under those circumstances.
Post # 6
Yeah, I think the most important thing is to have a variety of price points. Our most expensive item is a $500 dyson vacuum. I don’t expect anyone to actually buy it. We also have tons of $5 and $10 kitchen stuff, so I don’t htink it’s greedy to ask for one or 2 big things.
Post # 7
We have one $200 comforter and one $350 vacuum that I don’t actually expect anyone to buy. The rest is well below that. I think you can get away with one $500 item, as long as the rest are pretty reasonable (and reasonable for the item itself too).
Post # 8
@BetterSherm: Totally agree, especially in todays economic situation, I regualrly go in on gifts with my sisters or cousins to purchase one high ticket item together, but for people who do that and still are going to attend a shower you need to make sure to have quite a few lower budget items as well.
I think if you want a $500 item on there that should be fine as long as there is only one item that high and there are plenty of little things to balence it out. Also make sure it is something you actually need (which I am sure it is) I get a little ticked when I see couples registering for some huge extravegance that isn’t even necessary. I will gladdly support your lives together by purchasing something you will use and love, not a $500 over the top ice maker though… (just an example)
Post # 9
@missgolf: the price of the most expensive item is not important so much as having a lot of variety in prices so that people don’t feel like they HAVE to spend more money than they feel comfortable with. The only time I’ve ever felt “judgy” over someone’s registry is when there was literally nothing under 200 bucks to choose… not because they had a handful of high priced items. 🙂
(mine ranges from 4.99 to 400 with most items falling in the 50-150 range)
Post # 10
I agree with what’s been said – people may talk amongst themselves and decide to go in for a gift (2-3 couples spending $500 together is not a big deal), completion discounts are well-known inducements to adding high-end items, and I sometimes think it makes people feel better about buying gift cards. If you’re that concerned, I had a friend who had a tiny registry at BB&B or somehwere (they own their home and have a lot of standard registry stuff), but in addition noted that there were several very high-end pieces of furniture they liked at Ethan Allan and they would appreciate gift cards to help make those items attainable.
Post # 11
I think it depends on who your guests are. Candidly speaking, we have guests that are very good friends of ours and we are fairly certain they will spend $350+. We also have family members that will spend probably $500+. Conversely, we have some acquaintances and some that are not as well-off (which is fine) and we have items like wine glasses, platters and picture frames that are $5-50 each and they can choose the quantity they like. As such, our registry reflects this.
Post # 12
I think you have to know your guests. And you also have to think about some going in together on something. We put a $500 wine tower on our C&B registry not thinking that someone would actually buy it for us. Our 7 bridesmaids chipped in together and bought it for our shower. So, I don’t think having one or two high ticket items on there is a bad thing. It’s when the only things on your registry are over $100 that people start to get annoyed.
Post # 13
As long as there are lots of lower priced options I don’t think you need to have an upper limit. I often go in with friends to buy the bigger items. Put on what you want and people will buy what they want. Don’t stress!
Post # 14
Both my fiance and I were ridiculously careful not to put anything too crazy on our registry, because we didn’t want anyone to think bad of us. We probably went overboard in worrying about it, but we definitely made sure to cover a lot of price ranges…a lot of under $20 items, some in the $40-$70 range and a few closer or a little over $100 and one $200 steam-vac.
I gave my mom a disclaimer, letting her know that the higher priced items (specifically the $200 steam vac) were really only on there so that we could get the discount on it after the wedding when we “finalized” the registry.
Post # 15
Think it depends on the families you come from. Mine is dirt poor so I’ll be shocked if they get us anything. BUT our friends got married last year and they came from family money so things like a $500 cheese knife and someone buying it without blinking an eye wasn’t exactly out of the ordinary. Definitely keep a variety of price points.
Post # 16
I agree that a range of prices is best. I’ve had weddings (and baby showers!) where I’ve been really glad that I could get all the a la carte cooking utensils or just one item of a set.
But all the points about higher priced items are good – you may have a guest who can afford it, or a few guests who want to share the cost. I’ve been in a few weddings where the bridesmaids share the cost of a big ticket item, or in one case we purchased all the miscellaneous dishware. I’ve also been invited to weddings where I could barely afford anything on the registry, and that just made me feel bad (especially since I had a schedule conflict and wasn’t spending the time and money to attend the celebration to begin with).