- Ms. Kitty
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Last night my FI and I were talking about how excited he is to see his brother and sister-in-law that are planning to visit from San Francisco for our wedding. FI has also asked his brother to read a poem during our ceremony. Well, somehow he also mentioned that his brother asked him if he (brother) needs to wear a suit and tie for our wedding and that FI told him NO! Except that we’re having a formal evening wedding in a hotel ballroom. GRRR! So, I asked FI “why would you tell him not to wear a suit to a formal event?” Apparently, FI thinks that his brother doesn’t own a suit and that it would be a financial burden to have to purchase one for our wedding. So, I’m at a loss Bees.
If somebody asked me what they should wear, I would tell them what I think is appropriate so that they wouldn’t feel awkward because they are dressed inappropriately. I think it’s unlikely that a 45 year old man that lives in a major metropolitan area doesn’t own a suit or tie. However, if dressing appropriately would truly be a financial burden, I would be willing to purchase a suit for FI’s brother. I’ve never met FI’s brother, so it’s not like we’ve ever talked and I could call him up and ask “hey, do you really not have a suit? And yes, you ought to wear it.”
What should I do here? If I were FI’s sister-in-law and got to the wedding where my husband and I were dramatically under-dressed, I’d wonder why nobody told me and feel uncomfortable about getting up in front of the crowd. Then again, if I were going to an evening wedding in a ballroom, I would know that indicates a degree of formality, so I guess the analogy doesn’t really apply.