- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Here’s our photography story:
One of FI’s good friends who does lots of photography as a hobby- is going to do our wedding photography. Yes, he’s shot weddings before- no he’s not a professional. After he found out FI was getting married (I had yet to meet B)- he offered to do our photography. He wanted to do it (but wasn’t pushy in the least bit)
When we met with him, we asked what he would like to charge and insisted nothing. He also asked if it would be OK if he brought along an assistant shooter (of course!)– also @ no charge.
B (our photog) emailed us when he mailed in his RSVP. We will have B as our “main” photographer, his friend photographer as a back-up shooter, and her husband as an assistant to both of them.
He is the kindest guy- I have asked him to arrive earlier then we had previously talked about- and he wrote back telling us he’s there for us, to help us make it the greatest day- and available all day for us.
Either way you look it, we are saving a huge amount of money (which we are really thankful for- I wasn’t happy with my first wedding band with my new ring (not returnable), my dress was on the higher end of my dress budget, and alterations are going to cost quite a bit….the guest list rose significantly between my mom and FI’s mom’s adoptive family he forgot to incluse……you get the idea)–
BUT FI and I are both clueless on how to compensate B, his assistant shooter + her husband (as the assistant to them both)- of course we are going to- even though they insist they don’t want anything)–
We always knew we were going to get B a special gift, or a special gift and cash- we just had decided what. We also want to do something for the other people helping.
So here are my questions:
do we wait until after the wedding- at least for the assistants to see what they do/how it goes since we have never met them?
do we do cash?
do we do gifts?
Is it OK to wait until after the wedding- to meet, them, get an idea of who they are in order to figure out what’s appropriate? FI and I don’t have time to meet them before- but completely trust B (and his wife) for reccommending they come along.
We are totally cool with the couple we have never met eating and having a drink at the wedding, too, FYI.
Any help or suggestions would be most welcome!!