Appropriate dress for Black Tie Invited wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

xylo_sweet:  Whoa! I think you should post pics of the dress instead of links… that did not work out well.

I looked at the ebay dress, the other dress I got ‘page not found’… so not sure what that looks like.

I do like the blue dress, and agree with nice heels and statement jewlery it would look really nice!

Post # 4
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


xylo_sweet:  yes, please post pics instead of links. The Nordstrom link doesn’t work anyways. Other than that, I don’t really like the blue dress.

Post # 6
2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

“Black tie invited” is a stupid, made-up designation.  A party is either black-tie or it’s not.  So based on the fact that the hosts can’t make up their minds, you should wear whatever you want.

Post # 7
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

I like the second dress better out of those two because it feels more formal and like a special  occasion dress. 

Post # 9
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Usually it means long dresses for women. You might feel underdresses if it is really fancy with guys in tuxes and women in long dresses. Those dresses look to me as a more casual affair even day time wedding. why don’t you try David’s bridals? They have some affordable long dresses that might help you not worry about not wearing it again 🙂

Post # 10
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

xylo_sweet:  The blue dress is lovely and wearable again.  If, however, you decide to go full length, check out for some inexpensive options.

Post # 11
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Black Tie means long gowns. I honestly don’t feel either of those dresses are black tie. 

Post # 12
141 posts
Blushing bee

Rent the Runway! That way you can wear a formal gown for just a small rental fee! If many of the men there are renting their tuxes, why not rent your dress? 🙂

Post # 13
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t consider either of those black tie, more cocktail dresses in my mind. I would find a long dress.

Post # 14
2918 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

The first dress you posted would work.  I don’t think you need to go full length. I went to a VERY formal black tie NYE wedding in downtown Chicago and only a couple people were in long dresses and even fewer in actual tuxes (just very nice dresses and dark suits).  Here is what I wore for reference.  I think it’s now necessarily what you wear but how you put it together. I wore my hair in a high bun with classic makeup and nude heels and nylons (only because it was a crazy blizzard that night and freeeeeezing)

EDIT: I just read that you don’t know the bride and groom very well and that is it black tie INVITED… PLEASE don’t wear a long gown in this case. I think you will be overdressed and feel awkard. I know I would have and I knew the couple very well!

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