(Closed) Appropriate name for Boyfriend?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Before we got engaged I wasn’t ever into calling FH a boyfriend either. I referred to him as my ‘manfriend’ or my ‘partner’ Wink

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Pre-hubby!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i think every girl goes through a period like this….where they know they are going to get married to their boyfriend and they feel engaged but aren’t, and bf doesn’t seem to do the relationship justice. personally, i actually really dislike the word fiance and always feel pretentious when i say it, even though we are engaged. FI feels the same way…when it’s just us we practice using husband and wife. even though it kind of sucks, sometimes you just have to be patient and accept that YOU know you will get married, and that has to be enough. you could maybe use the term “committed” in some way, or wear a promise ring. in the end though, it’s just a waiting game that i think all girls go through.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think Significant Other is a pretty commonly acceptated term to use. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I never figured this out either.  I definitely felt like “partner” made people wonder if I was in a same-sex relationship, but would use it occassionally.

I hated fiance too.  So happy to have finally settled into husband/wife territory.  Feels totally right.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I stick to “partner” personally, but it fits my personality and politics pretty well!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I totally understand, and really felt like that too.  When referring to eachother, we’d often use “my guy”/”my girl”.  I feel like there’s no real “status” attached to that title (or lack-thereof, which is the problem!).  When talking to ‘authority’ (the doctor, school administration, etc.) we would usually just ‘white lie’ and call eachother FI.  It made life SOO much easier, because people DO respect that a lot more than ‘bf’. 

Congrats on finding ‘The One’ by the way!! It’s a WONDERFUL feeling (I remember I always just “knew”), and I hope the waiting phase doens’t last too long for you!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

special friend.. 😛

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

after about 6-8 months, i felt odd saying boyfriend (he had just turned 30..it was weird), so i just stopped refering to him as anything other than his first name. sometimes people would ask, ‘oh is this your bf/fiance/husband?” and i would say boyfriend at that point. but for the most part i just stopped using any “category” until we were engaged.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I used “partner,” but I’m in academia, and everyone uses that term, gay or straight.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I hate ‘fiance’ as does my SO – so we like to invent things based on who we are talking to – my current fav is ‘man-lover’ (can’t wait till he is my hubby!)

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

my roomie calls them “man-beasts” 😛 I liked it!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Personally, I would stick with boyfriend. I’m in my late 20s and my guy is in his early 30s and we used the boyfriend/girlfriend terms up until we were engaged. No one seemed to think it was odd or think we weren’t serious about each other.

I understand the desire to have a more serious (and adult) sounding term, so if I were to suggest one it would probably be significant other.

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