(Closed) Appropriate notice timeline for a destination wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I booked 14 months in advance and got invites out 11 months in advance.X

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We booked ours 2 years in advance so everyone had plenty of time to save ect. We only have immidiate family going so everyone knew at the same time.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I understand why she hasn’t sent STD’s if she hasn’t booked a venue yet. You can’t really tell people to plan for a date if it that date may change.

BUT, i do agree that you give people as much notice as possible so that they can plan vacation time/save up money. With her not giving as much notice, I think a lot of people won’t be able ot make the trip.

Bottom line, don’t feel bad for not being able to go. It’s the best choice for you

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

yes it would be proper to give more notice but are you sure she’s not making this a more private affair? I ask only because if she’s getting married in 5 months, she should have already sent out the invitations.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I sent out the STD six months in advance and the invites 2 month in advance.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We got 11months notice of the DW I went to.  If she hasn’t booked the venue is this really going to go off?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yikes, yeah that is little notice. We let our families know as soon as we were engaged (14 months before the wedding) that we were planning a destination wedding and sent out save the dates a year in advance. We still have guests who can’t save up in time (or so they say Wink).

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Thats WAY to short of a notice if she expects a good turnout. We booked our wedding a year in advance and sent everyone the information once it was decided so everyone had fair warning.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes that’s very short notice…but sort of did the same thing (but worse actually).  I got engaged in December of 2012, we wanted a destination wedding and when we looked at family shceudled the only time that would work was May 2013.  At Christmas we started talkign with our VIPs to see if May would work, and by the time we were able to get all the pieces in order (confirmation on prices for guests, place booked) and send out an email STD with website (all of which I completed in 1 night – booyah) it was Jan 25 for a May 30 wedding.  I would have wanted to do a year to 9 months notice, but it wasn’t feesible for us.

NOT ideal for guests.  But you know what? It’s ok.  Those who have to be there were involved in the decision making.  Those who weren’t I would LOVE to have there, but they don’t have to come.  

So if I were you I’d think of it that way – you don’t have to go.  While I’m sure your cousin would LOVE it if you could come, she’ll totally understand that you can’t.  That’s how I feel.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Ours is in the town we’re living in now but our families & friends are all traveling from across the country so I’d consider it a destination wedding. We gave people the heads up, generally speaking, about a year and a half out. Once we settled on a date & venue we sent STD’s at just under a year out. The only reason we didn’t send STD’s sooner was because of scheduling issues with the family- alot of business owners & self-empoyed people in both our families so scheduling can be an issue sometimes. 

The timeline you are talking about is crazy talk. I’d feel no obligation to attend if I were in your position, hopefully the bride will realize it’s a little too late for July 2013 if she wants more than immediate/obligatory family there. 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

but how can you book so far in advance when flights aren’t scheduled that far?

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