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Hmm... I can see your mom's point, especially since you probably aren't very close with her friends! But if you don't have friends/family in the area, it might be a lonely shower... maybe you could let her know that most of your OOT guests won't be able to make it, since your BMs will be throwing you a shower in NYC as well, and then she can plan something more lowkey instead?
In this instance, I think you can forego the shower altogether. Maybe you can just have one big shower in NYC and let that be the only one.
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My FI and I live in NYC, but I am from TX - and my parents still live there. TX is also where the wedding will be. One of my BM's mothers in TX has generously offered to host a shower for me there. My mom mentioned tonight that she wasn't sure she wanted to invite her friends to a wedding shower because she felt it's like asking for gifts twice - once at the shower and then again at the wedding. Additionally, her friends have offered to do the out of town bags, so she feels like the shower would be an additional "burden" for them and she wouldn't want to put them in that awkward position.
I understand where my mom is coming from --- but I am curious --- what are your thoughts on the appropriateness of inviting my mother's friends (whom I know but am not "close" to) to a shower under these circumstances?
On a side/related note...I have 7 BMs, all of whom are spread out around the country. There has been talk of my BMs having a shower for me in NYC on the same weekend as my bachelorette party (which would be in NYC), so that they only have to make 1 flight for both. This would mean, though, that they wouldn't go to TX for the shower there.
Again, I completely understand where my mom is coming from. At the same time, if my BMs don't fly in to TX for the shower and my mom doesn't invite her friends, there will be like no one at the shower, since I only have a couple of family members and no other friends who live in the area and would come to the shower...so this doesn't leave really anyone to come to the TX shower!!! (my FI's family is all in MA, so they are also not close by.) Help!