Post # 1
My FI and I went to the theatre last weekend and while there, my FI “checked us in” on facebook. Side note: Jenna (not real name) is a girl my FI met while in school and was part of the whole group of friends in their program. She no longer lives in the area and FI rarely communicates with her but if so, mostly through facebook comments/updates type you know?
Shortly after the check-in, I get a notification that Jenna has commented on it. Her comment is “I love that theatre. Thanks for devirginizing me FI’s name…(:” (I think that’s a backwards smiley face)
My FI had season tickets to this theatre when we met and would take whomever could go with him each time. Right before we met, he had put out a blanket invite for a show happening right after we met and she is the one who could go. I can’t remember if it was her or him that checked with me if it was ok if she still went but I had no problem with it of course.
My judgement is clouded because I don’t really like this girl. Was that comment a little inappropriate? I know they are friends but I feel there are lines that guy and girl friends still can’t cross no matter how non-sexual the relationship is. I won’t be saying anything because I think she just didn’t think which in-and-of-itself should say maybe it was ok. Your opinion? 🙂
Post # 3
I think it is beyond tacky to say. I would be pissed if someone said this to my FI, even if it was someone I liked.
Post # 4
I think it depends on how she used that phrase. About 5 years ago or so I feel like everyone was using virgin and de-virgin as slang. For example, “I am a SYTTD virgin.” I would assume that she is just saying that she is thankful that she went to that theater and the first time she went happened to be with your FI. If you think it really was inappropriate, or this girl uses inappropriate sayings around your FI, I would talk to him about it.
Post # 5
I’m one of those ‘go with the flow’ type of girls. Don’t care if my guy looks at other girls (I look, too) don’t care about gogo clubs, I play just as many video games as him…you know, ‘one of they guys’, type of girls.
Now, that being said, I would either:
1. Ask my guy to take it down since its a bit disrespectful if it means what it alludes to
2. Comment under that comment….Eeewwww…TMI anyone? or something like that.
Thinking about it now, I’d probably do the second because I could always laugh it off if he thought it was bitchy, lol
Post # 6
Poor choice of words, imo. A better resonse would’ve been “I love that theatre! Thanks for introducing me to it!”
Sounds like this girl is not very sophisticated. Or, she could be like one of my friends who still has, at 30 yo, a penchant for being trashy with her vernacular.
Post # 7
That’s a weird thing to say in general and inappropriate in this situation since your FI was clearly on a date with YOU according to the status. I would honestly just ignore it, you two can delete the comment to send her a message if you want.
Post # 8
I think she phrased herself badly and likely didn’t mean any offense by it. I would just blow it off. It seems clear to me what she was trying to say and that it just came out funny.
Post # 9
Even if “Jenna” did mean anything by the comment (which I think is doubtful) then her intention is was to piss you off. Don’t let her. You are obviously much better than her, and you “got the guy.” If anything, I would pity her that she has to drag up lame memories of a time when she basically filled in as a “well, I have no one better to go with, so I will go with you” theater date.
Post # 10
It was sort of an awkward/inappropriate thing to say, but I’d probably just laugh it off. Strange, yes. But not really a big deal.
Post # 11
@moderndaisy: agreed, I would leave it up though. Cause honestly it makes her look like an idiot lol
Post # 12
She meant “devirginizing” as in, he introduced her to that theatre right? I don’t think it’s a big deal.
That said, you shouldn’t do those “where we are” updates, I’ve read a lot of places have been getting burglarized because of it.
Post # 13
Not to stir the pot, but I think she was trying to be slightly inappropriate. Most of the girls I know don’t say things like that by accident– it’s on purpose. Especially with the little smiley face.
But would I say anything about it? No. I assume your FH is aware that you don’t like this girl, so I don’t think it warrants a reaction.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
“Um, that was weird” in response to her comment should do the trick. Shame is a great teacher of appropriate behavior. 😉
Post # 15
Ya a little off, but don’t let it get to you. Girls will be Girls. Be the bigger person. As long as you trust you man your fine.
Post # 16
I like spaniel’s response! Or saying “Um, awkward!”