Post # 1
My husband is in the Marines, we were married right before he deployed and Ive spent the entire deployment planning our actual wedding ceremony for when he gets home. Heres the thing. we weren’t planning on incorporating any military traditions, no dress blues, nothing because we felt like the MC controls enough of our lives and this day is actually about US not the MC. However, I really really love the idea of the arch of swords (think thats what its called) and I think its a beautiful detail to incorporate the military without our entire wedding being about it. That said, he didnt want to or doesnt plan to wear his blues. Can we have the arch of swords, (they would be in uniform of course) without him wearing his uniform? I know there are very specific rules about it but nothing specifies that he must wear his blues to have the aos but only that those performing the arch must wear their uniform. Please help!
Post # 3
I’m reasonably ceretain they’re technically supposed to, but the last military wedding I attended both the bride and groom were in the military but dressed in civilian clothes and still had an arch of swords. If your husband’s commanding officer isn’t present, and te arch is comprised of your friends, I don’t see why it wouldn’t be okay. A military bride almost never wears her uniform in her wedding, but still gets an arch. You might want someone more knowledgable than me to contribute, but I can tell you I’ve seen it done without a wedding party in uniform.
Post # 4
I don’t know off hand, but I’m sure I have it in my handy dandy guide to planning a military wedding–if no one’s answered this question by the time I get home, I’ll look for it in the book.
I feel like this topic has been covered before but I can’t find it. There are also a couple other people on boards that might know–so consider this a bump.
Post # 5
I remember addressing this topic awhile back because I, too, researched it when we got married. Technically, no, you are not supposed to have the saber arch without being in uniform, and the men holding the sabers are supposed to be in traditional servicewear and white gloves. Otherwise it’s considered disrespectful. A friend of mine had a military wedding and he wore his full uniform, including his own saber, which only officers of certain regiments can do. It was pretty neat!
But rules MAY be different for marines vs army (DH was Army and in the Army i know it’s only an officer thing, but marines, enlisted guys can get the swords).
Typically though, guests would only wear their uniforms if the groom is wearing a uniform, unless the person is a father of the bride or retired with high honors. I’d call up the base and get ahold of someone in those departments–or if you have a local JROTC or ROTC unit, sometimes they form sword details for weddings.
Post # 6
Pretty sure it would be necessary for him to wear his dress uniform to have a saber arch. And on a side note I think I would look at the situation funny if I attended a wedding with a saber arch but no uniform… I think it would just look weird.
Post # 7
@ejs4y8: Technically only NCO’s can carry them, not all enlisted Marines.
To the OP, I honestly have no idea if it’s allowed (after all, female officers can wear regular wedding dresses and are still entitled to one) but I do think it would look strange.
Post # 8
I have just sought a professional opinion… According to my darling FI, he should be in uniform. Protocol demands it… and aesthetically it would look “doggone weird” were he not in uniform.
I did point out that female Marines have arches and they’re very rarely in uniform, so he conceded that point with a “well i guess if his CO isn’t there…”
BTW, my FI has been a Marine for the last 22 years, so he’s seen a few of these, and is horrified that a Marine WOULDN’T want to wear his blues to his own wedding. He’s definitely of the opinion that if you want a little bit of military – ie, the sword arch – he should at least wear his uniform.
BUT you can take that with a pinch of salt. My FI is extremely moto, and lives and breathes the Corps. His wedding vision = full uniform, sword arch, MIA/POW table, etc. If you and yours aren’t keen on giving more than a nod to your man’s lifestyle, pick whichever bits you want!
PS big hugs for while he’s deployed 😉