Are 4 registries ok?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve never heard of having more than one registry, i think if i got a list of 4 places the bride and groom were registered at i personally would feel like it was a bit gift grabby? But thats just me as ive never heard of having more than one. Hope some others bee’s can shed light as to whats proper etiquette. Love the idea of using a home improvement sotre though if you just bought a house, as a guest i would find that really neat knowing i was helping you guys start your new lives off in a way that would really help! 🙂 ….. not that that crystal sugar bowl isn’t cool too…. lol

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I personally think it’s a bit much, but as long as you don’t have any doubles on your list, or there aren’t things say at Kohls that you could already get at Target, I guess you gotta do what you gotta do!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@Jen51287:  I’d think it was ridiculous if I came across 4 registries advertised on my friends wedding website. However, I’ve never been to a wedding with 200+ people and my area is a lot more conservative about gift giving. I’m interested to see what other bees have to say.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

I worried what people would think when I created 3 registries, but no one ever said anything to me. I hope it was obvious to them that we only chose the 3rd because we couldn’t find a dish set we liked at the other two. The third only had dinner sets, matching placemats, and matching cloth napkins on it.

 

Maybe you could make 2 sets of “this is where we’re registered” invitation inserts. Give your side of the guest list the ones that say Kohls/BBB, and his side the ones that say Target/Menards?

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Jen51287:  No nothing wrong with that.  I mean, oviously the more things you register for, the lower percentage of them you’ll get, but I think it gives people more likelihood of buying off the registry if they can go to a store they’re excited about. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I registered at four places and my thought behind it was not to be gift grabby, but to in fact make things easier for my guests with a variety of stores with the idea that one maybe more convenient than another for them to shop at. ? Embarassed

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think 4 is probably excessive, especially since Target/Kohl’s/BBB carry a lot of the same things. Menards is a great choice, though.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Jen51287:  In all honesty, if I were a guest…. I would think it was rude. Just too excessive in my book.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

Two is fine and three is pushing it, but four? Can’t you do a universal registry (like Amazon) and have many of the same items on there but all in one place?

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Is there not a web site that you can use to collate all your gift lists so that you can allow your guests to purchase online from one place?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m going to diverge a little from the consensus and say that four is fine…probably because I had four. 😉 We registered at BBB because they had the best selection of stuff in our area to go and actually look at (plus frequent 20% off coupons), Macy’s because they had pieces of our china there that weren’t offered through BBB, Amazon because they had stuff my husband wanted that wasn’t available anywhere else, and Target because everyone seemed to want us to (although we really didn’t have much on there).

I would never judge anyone for the number of registries they had — I like looking at people’s registries and seeing what kind of neat stuff they’ve chosen. I like getting people a “cool” gift, something I identify with, and I appreciate it when there are a lot of options. Quite frankly, if I’m going to judge anyone’s registry, it’s going to be if they have a ton of really expensive stuff on there and nothing affordable for guests of more modest income.

OP, I think your 4th registry is fine, especially since it’s so different than the other ones and since it’s so practical. Also, your male guests who feel iffy about housewares and your female guests who just love power tools may ENJOY buying you stuff at Menard’s much more than the BBB/Kohl’s stuff. We didn’t get any hassle from anyone about the number of registries, but we did get a couple notes from single male guests that boiled down to “Here, I got you money because kitchen stuff is dumb.”

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I go to weddings with 200+ people all the time and they’re only ever registered at exactly 2 places.  But who cares, you’re just giving your guests options.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

It wouldn’t even cross my mind to judge you for having more than one registry. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t see how multiple registries is any more gift grabby than one registry.  It’s not like you’re saying “GET ME SOMETHING FROM EACH ONE”.  In both cases (four and one) you’re saying “If you want to get me a gift, here are some things I am interested in”.  I don’t think it will occur to most non-wedding-obsessed people to judge.  But like a PP said, when people ask where you’re registered you can list a couple of the registries instead of all if you want- just be aware that they can probably find all of them if they happen to google your names and might wonder why they weren’t given all of them. 

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