(Closed) Are ALL brides stressed in the days leading up to their wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Well, I was! I do tend to be a bit of a fretter and perfectionist, though. Even though my wedding was small and everything was more or less under control, I just couldn’t help fretting about the last silly little details.

The day of the wedding, however, I was very cool and serene and enjoyed every bit of it!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think so, I am anyway

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

About 10 days before my wedding, I was unbelievably calm. It was like I gained perspective, that I would soon be married to this wonderful man, and that no matter what happened on the wedding day, our marriage would finally start and we’d laugh at the oopsies in our old days.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was surprisingly calm. I figured I did everything I could and things are out of my control now. Also was happy that my family was in town and I finally didn’t have to do everything alone. The nerves hit me after the wedding. I was so “on” the day of the wedding mentally and physically if that makes sense…Still paying vendors, coordinating both families speaking different languages, posing for photos, making sure all guests are ok etc, once it was over I just couldn’t wind down. I lay awake till 7am like I was overdosing on caffeine, and the events of the day kept playing in my head like a movie. It was all good though, no regrets.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i really wasn’t that stressed. i think it really helped to have every single thing that i could get done, done weeks ahead of time. plus our venue told us that they would be doing everything for us day of, so no need to worry about setting up. we had a lot of events leading up to our day- an auf ruf (jewish thing) two nights before, mani/pedi day with the girls, rehearsal lunch, and then off to our venue to spend the night with my family. i didn’t have much time to stress out!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I honestly wasn’t.  By that point, it was all out of my hands.  All that was left for me to do was show up and marry my love!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

i was extremely stressed. I did not have a DOC or a wedding planner and i work 50 hours plus  a week so i had a lot to do and for some reason i waited for the last couple of days to do a lot of things. i waited to put together the flowers (which were silk), centerpieces, jewelry, reception outfit, seating chart, road signs…the list goes on and on. 

All of those things i could have done a head of time but waited…i am not sure why. for some reason i kept thinking…i should do that a couple of days before…its too early. but in reality it was not too early, i should have done them a head of time. 

I would suggest a DOC and/or a wedding planner. i know they are expensive but it would have been worth it. 

also there was a death in the family just a few short days before so that probably was the main reason for the stress/anxiety. 

my suggestion: do things a head of time…dont wait to do tomorrow what you can do today!!! 😉

good luck ladies

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wasn’t up until the day before and day of. Unexpected things started popping up and I had worked 46 hours in 4 days and wasn’t able to get ready as much as I would have liked. It’s hard when vendors cancel and things don’t go as planned but at the end of the day you’re married and that’s whats most important.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I was pretty good, I took 1.5 weeks off work beforehand which made a massive difference. But 4 or 5 days before the day I remember sobbing in bed with DH. What was I worried about? HOW I WAS GOING TO MAKE THE SALADS FOR THE REHEARSAL BBQ DINNER. Yes, that’s what stressed me out. Everything else was taken care of but we were self catering the rehearsal dinner and I got really anxious about it. Of course DH just said “baby we’ll buy the salads, don’t be silly” so I felt much better and that was my only meltdown 🙂 We got to the venue on the Thursday (wedding was on Saturday) and I felt pretty relaxed from then on!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m glad to hear so many of you managed to not be stressed!  this is something i’m very concerned about. I have chronic health problems that i have under control as long as i don’t get extremely stressed out.  My problem is that i get stressed easily…i always got really sick during finals week in college and i haven’t been doing too hot recently while trying to find a job.  I’m deliberately not doing any DIY that has to be done shortly before the wedding in order to avoid stress.  maybe i should take up yoga or something?  I feel like bruce banner. don’t make me stressed. you wouldn’t like me when i’m stressed. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, I’m 5 days away, so maybe I can speak to this.  I’m not necessarily stressed, per se.  But I am a lil nervous.  I’ve avoided it up until… well, today.  As of this morning, my heart is palpitating like crazy!  And my fuse is a lot shorter.  I find myself cursing people out in my head when they ask me questions that I probably wouldn’t of considered dumb until this week, whereas before I’d have patienct to answer their questions.  I don’t know how to really avoid this.  I know it will help if you get as much done as possible before the days leading to the wedding.  That’s what I did, I’m so glad I don’t have to scramble to get things done.  And that’s why I can’t say that I’m stressed… just jittery 🙂

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m 6 days out right now and yes, I’m pretty stressed, but like the others have said, it’s little things. Like I feel the need to have Mr and Mrs signs to use for photos and I’m freaking on how they are going to get made and I freak over whether the bm gifts are good enough or if i should add something else or other small things. I have to keep telling myself that all the important things are done and candy buffet signs won’r make or break my whole wedding…. i hope I can remember that in the days to come!

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