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I am getting married in 2 and a half weeks and don’t have a ceremony script!!!!!! Here is my problem, I am not good at being very serious, me and my FI both have short attention spans. (ADHD) We are getting married outside in my parents back yard. The ceremony is going to be in front of the old barn with hay Bale seating. It’s going to have a pig roast and bon fire. We will do the typical dances and wedding stuff with the Dj and s photo booth. I am having a good friend marry me so I have to write the script. Non religious, non traditional and short ceremony that won’t put anyone (myself included) to sleep.
Attempt 1 was a dr.sues style script I found online and pieced together. I though it was fun and cute. The problem was first I was getting told it’s making a mockery of the ceremony and second the officiant was having a hard time reading it without it sounding like a bad rap song.
I get bored reading all of these ceremonies online. If I can’t even read It without getting bored why would I want to use it?
The greetings have all sounded fake/old fashioned/and down right boring.
Then they all talk about what marriage is. Is this nessasary? We have all been to weddings and heard the same basic paragraph or 3 about what marriage is. Honestly I get bored and loose interest at this point.
We are not writing our own vows in fact the less the FI has to speak in front of everyone the better.
Does anyone have any good links or ideas or anything? I’m starting to really panic.
This topic was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by PandM628.
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- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
I feel your panic – we’re basically 10 days out, being married by our dads (and moms have a part of the ceremony, too). It’s been such a stressor, trying to write the ceremony! I finally got a draft done tonight, but it don’t feel great about it – and I’m trying not to be upset about it. I’m not succeeding, though. The ceremony is the reason for the day! Arghhhhhh . . . Have you looked at http://www.apracticalwedding.com ? They’ve got a lot of great advice for writing your ceremony, and I’ve depended heavily on them through the process.
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PandM628: Hi there and welcome to the hive!
DH and I wrote our own script and opted to write our own vows. I agree, many cermony scripts are long and boring. Ours wasn’t super long, but I am sure some guests found it somewhat boring…but the reality is, I don’t remember half ot it. I was so focused on my husand, that all I remember is the vows that I personally wrote and shared with my DH, and what he personally wrote and shared with me. The rest of the ceremony was a blur. But for us, the personal vows were important, so that’s where we put our energy and effort.
I would say, focus on what you think is important and best represents the two of you. Perhaps there are a few funny stories that the officiant could tell about you two. Do you two share personal hobbies or life long passions that could be worked into the ceremony script? Are you doing some form of a unity ceremony?
I would say, focus on what you want in the ceremony and not just adding or doing things for the sake of doing it. I would highly discourage anything that rhymes, is too “funny” or quirky though. While it doesn’t need to be super serious, it should still be genuine and focus on your marriage. Don’t feel obligated to entertain your guests either. It’s about the two of you and what you guys want.
Best of luck!