Are all ceremonies boring?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

I feel your panic – we’re basically 10 days out, being married by our dads (and moms have a part of the ceremony, too). It’s been such a stressor, trying to write the ceremony! I finally got a draft done tonight, but it don’t feel great about it – and I’m trying not to be upset about it. I’m not succeeding, though. The ceremony is the reason for the day! Arghhhhhh . . . Have you looked at http://www.apracticalwedding.com ? They’ve got a lot of great advice for writing your ceremony, and I’ve depended heavily on them through the process.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

PandM628:  Hi there and welcome to the hive!

DH and I wrote our own script and opted to write our own vows. I agree, many cermony scripts are long and boring. Ours wasn’t super long, but I am sure some guests found it somewhat boring…but the reality is, I don’t remember half ot it. I was so focused on my husand, that all I remember is the vows that I personally wrote and shared with my DH, and what he personally wrote and shared with me. The rest of the ceremony was a blur. But for us, the personal vows were important, so that’s where we put our energy and effort.

I would say, focus on what you think is important and best represents the two of you. Perhaps there are a few funny stories that the officiant could tell about you two. Do you two share personal hobbies or life long passions that could be worked into the ceremony script? Are you doing some form of a unity ceremony? 

I would say, focus on what you want in the ceremony and not just adding or doing things for the sake of doing it. I would highly discourage anything that rhymes, is too “funny” or quirky though. While it doesn’t need to be super serious, it should still be genuine and focus on your marriage. Don’t feel obligated to entertain your guests either. It’s about the two of you and what you guys want. 

Best of luck!

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