Post # 1
So I am a FTM and my Darling Husband is a FTD. We are also about to have the first grandchild for 3 out of 4 grandparents. Admittedly, I feel like I know very little about the delivery process and how to care for a newborn.
The hospital we are delivering at offers so many classes. The two we are most interested in are called “infant care”, which teaches you all about how to care for a newborn, and “preparation for childbirth”, which teaches you all about labor and delivery. I really want to take both classes but my Darling Husband thinks we only really need the infant care class. His reasoning is that during delivery we will have a team of people walking us through everything, but when we are at home we will be on our own.
So, to all the moms out there, did you take any of these classes? Did you find them helpful? Do you highly recommend them or think it is ok to skip them? Also, our hospital offers other classes that we did not list here, so if you took a completely different one that you would recommend, tell me about it.
Post # 3
@odynsmom: Sorry for being off topic, what do the acronyms stand for?
Post # 4
@sheepandbear: FTM = first time mom
FTD = first time dad
Darling Husband = dear husband
Post # 5
@odynsmom: omg lol. I even googled it to see what they meant. I figured you werent “Female To Male” transgender so I then googled “FTD and pregnancy” and was even more baffled when I got “Fast Track Delivery,” “Fit To Deliver” and “Full-Term Delivery.” I figured your husband was none of those things so I just decided to ask lol.
Post # 6
@odynsmom: congratulations to you. Such an exciting time:)))
i think these classes would be a great idea. The more you know the better IMO. I wasn’t offered any of these classes but I would have done both of them if available.
Post # 7
@odynsmom: I think both classes sound like a good idea. If you don’t take a class about L&D or do some reading / research on your own, then you won’t be very informed to make decisions that are about your own body and the baby. When you are in pain and exhausted it has to be hard to deal with new information and make decisions, even if your team does try to walk you through it. From what I’ve heard doctors (if you are using an OB) tend to steer you toward what they think is best during L&D, and sometimes it’s aimed at speeding things up when it’s really not necessary. Good luck and congrats!
Post # 8
@odynsmom: I am not a mom. So i have not been to those classes, but I heard from friends and family they are great. Its also a good way to meet other people who are FTMs. A lot of my friends have met some great people at those classes, and their babies (now 3) are also friends (and will be going to pre-k together- so cute).
Post # 9
We took prepared childbirth, prepared parenting (like infant care), safe baby 101 and I took a breastfeeding class. All were incredibly helpful and well worth what we paid for them. Darling Husband really enjoyed the childbirth class- it really helped him understand the process and his role as my support person.
Post # 10
@odynsmom: I’d like to equate giving birth without taking a class as being roughly like learning to drive during the Daytona 500.
You definitely could do it! But why would you want to?
Post # 11
i would take both – you’re only first time parents once so you might as well! the delivery class is more for you anyway. it’s nice to know a little more about what you’ll be heading into. and the infant care class – i took tons of notes and i feel like it helped in those first few weeks. good luck and congrats!
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
There is no such thing as being too prepared. Definitely take the childbirth classes because otherwise you will have no idea what your options are or what the consequences of each option can be (i.e. inducing labor using pitocin increases the likelihood of needing a C-section.) I have been in the delivery room with my mom and nurses don’t always have time to explain everything to you with as much detail as you would like, plus, you will actually be in labor so you probably won’t be able to focus or ask as many questions as you would like. Not to mention that childbirth classes help alleviate some of the fear of giving birth and fear equals pain so less fear equals less pain.
Post # 13
@beachbride1216: +1 I agree that being more prepared for labor and delivery and having more information will help the birth be an easier and more enjoyable experience.
I took several classes- Childbirth prep, newborn care, and breastfeeding. I found them all to be very informative.
If you aren’t looking to drop money then definitely read as much as you can. I really liked Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Childbirth- I felt prepared, confident, and empowered after reading that. I was able to plan ahead for what interventions I would be open to, and how my ideal birth would go (of course, things don’t always go how you want, but having the knowledge to make informed decisions is really important!)
Post # 14
I took prenatal classes and found nearly all of them to be beneficial. Even when I knew the info they were talking about, I still felt like Darling Husband and I were gaining a lot more by going to those classes, instead of me reading books and trying to tell Darling Husband what I read (he wasn’t always listening, lol).
I say go for it!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
@odynsmom: Just curious– which is your hospital? I’m in Alexandria, delivering at Fairfax.
On classes, I’m taking a prenata yoga class that spends the first half hour of class going over labor/birth/some newborn care. I love it! I’ve learned so much. Admittedly, I was pretty clueless going into this. My husband and I do plan on taking one class at the hospital– I would disagree that you don’t need the birthing class. You have so many options that you won’t know exist unless you learn them.
Also, not sure if you visit DC too often, but there’s a place that offers a bunch of free or low cost classes–http://breastfeedingcenter.org/. I’m going to go to the lunchtime breastfeeding class and maybe a couple others. I’m learning that knowledge is power.
Post # 16
It doesn’t hurt to take both classes, especially the infant care one. As a 1st time parent there is ust so much you dont know and want to be sure about. The labor one won’t necessarily prepare you for labor but it will help you have an idea of what goes on and things to look for.
I also recommend a breastfeeding class if possible. BF can be hard at first if you dont’t know what you’re doing. Best to be as prepared as you can be. Good luck.