(Closed) Are Any Colors Innapropriate To Wear To A Wedding These Days?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I wouldn’t wear any shades of white to a wedding, just to be respectful to the bride. But I think any other colors would be fine.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would never wear white, but that’s it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think the “not wearing white” rule is still floating around. Personally, I’d probably notice it but would be to distracted with how awesome I’d look to care! haha.

Black is now welcome at weddings. Little black dress!! Lots of brides are even doing black BM dresses.

Red was a no-no color?? Snap…that’s news to me.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The only thing i think that is still a no-no is wearing white! 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have never heard the red thing. I was told a long time ago not to wear black or white. I have an invite for an upcoming wedding where we’ve all been encouraged to ONLY wear black and white, though, so… *shrug* different strokes, you know?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I have only heard of white

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Like the pp I’ve mainly only heard of not wearing white or any shades of white, and I have heard from time to time that you shouldn’t wear black — the reasoning people have given me for that is that it reminds too many people of a funeral. IMO black and red are ok! As long as the black dress doesn’t really look like you should be wearing it to a funeral.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

White is the only inappropriate color as a guest. Anything else goes.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think that the rules against black and red are pretty much dead.  As for white, I wouldn’t have cared if anyone wore it to our wedding.  (Actually, at least one person did, but he was a guy.)  My view is that if we are inviting people who can’t identify the brides on sight, regardless of how many people are wearing white dresses, then we should probably trim our guest list.  However, I would avoid white as a guest at someone else’s wedding, unless I was sure the bride was ok with it.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i’ve never heard of the no-red rule!

I think no white is still appropriate. 

I would personally never wear black to a wedding as I consider weddings to be more colourful, however I don’t think it’s bad to wear it though. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’ve worn black and red to weddings before, so I think that rule is dead. I even think white is okay, as long as it can’t be mistaken for any type of wedding dress.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Funny, I went to a black tie evening wedding last weekend and was told by my older sister that black is a huge NO for a wedding. Shot down every black, grey or silver dress as those resemble black. Its a formal event she says, black is not ok. Fast forward, I wore an emerald green and besides the bride and MOB and MOG, everyone else was in black!!! I just laughed and said its 2010, the only color I would not wear is white.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Men wear black to everything since that is one of the few colors that tuxes and suits are available in. Yet women are shunned, ostracized, etc when they wear black to weddings, which is a double standard. At the same time, they are expected to wear black dresses to other formal events and it’s perfectly ok since that’s the “only” acceptable color. They are both formal occasions except that someone is getting married at one and not the other, which should not make one bit of difference. People who get bent out of shape due to the color, have either forgotten or don’t care that times change and with that is fashion. The white dress for the bride is very new (at the time, black/dark wedding dresses were quite common for non-royalty and white was for royalty only when it was introduced in the Victorian era) and it went through the same social issues from being forbidden to mandatory that black dresses for women at weddings are doing today. In 10 or 20 yrs, a different color will go through the same thing. It’s a never=ending cycle.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

This kind of topic always makes me think of another question. If the bride is wearing a color other than white–for example, I’m wearing green–does that mean that white is okay and green is off-limits, in etiquette terms? Where does that line get drawn? I’ve also heard that guests are not supposed to wear something more formal than the bride’s gown. If this is the case, do I automatically get veto power over anyone wearing a longer dress than mine, which is knee-length?

I’d never dream of dictating what guests can and cannot wear, because they are adults and can dress themselves–and also because I just don’t care. But it’s interesting to think about.

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