(Closed) Are any of you waiting because society says it’s “too soon” ?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We waited because his family said it was too soon.  They wanted us to have graduated from college first.

Post # 4
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have friends that have been dating for less than a year and are engaged but anyone who knows them or sees them together knows that they are perfect together. When you know, you know. Who cares what others think?

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My fiance and I met in January of last year, moved in together in April and got engaged in July. My family was happy about our engagement but did say they thought it was too soon. We’re now getting married in three months and my parents are very excited and eagerly helping with the planning.

Even though we’ve only been together 15 months I know him better than I’ve ever known anybody and I know he’s the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.

I think you should just listen to and follow your instinct. As long as you know he’s the one for you, that’s all that really matters.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

As far as “the norm”? No. As far as people who’s opinions i value? That’s a little different. If my mom sat my down and said, “EJS…i think you should wait a little to get married” i’d probably listen. Momma ain’t no fool and she’d have had a good reason. Like MissAsB, they wanted me to wait until I graduated college to. Or rather, “you better not…” lol

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you just need to follow your heart. Perhaps if you wait until the one year mark then those comments about rushing it will not be as numerous. Afterall, your not that far off right?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

“If you know you’re going to marry someone, why not wait another year?”
Well, if you know, why wait? The opposite question can be asked, too. If one of you were to become ill, or die in the next week, would you want to live with the regrets of not doing what you know is right?

Time is precious and only you two have a word to say on where you want your relationship to be.

We got engaged after 18 months and are happy newlyweds… When we did get engaged, I could not hold off any longer. I was with someone for 6 years before that and whenever we discussed marriage, the conclusion was “later”. So, whatever people say or think, the important thing is to cherish your relationship and do what’s right.

Post # 9
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Met December 27th, moved in together February 20th, engaged March 28th. We’re getting married this November. We got some flak, but for the most part, everyone was happy for us. Flash forward a year and everyone, even those that gave us flak, are very happy for us and completely approve. We are happier than we were a year ago!

Post # 10
Member
2821 posts
Sugar bee

We talked about it fairly soon after meeting (yes before we had even kissed and were both in LDR with other people, I know not ideal).  That being said, even though we both knew where it might go, time for us was a good thing between mourning the other long-term relationships we were in and we both needed to grow up a bit since we were fairly young.  We were kinda told right away not to move in together because we moved so fast and everyone else could see where it was going, and also that we were young and not ready.  So in our case I think it worked for the best to move a bit slower.

Post # 12
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4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Everyone said it is too soon for us too, but we said the hell with them! We moved in together within about a month, and were engaged within 4! We will only have been dating for 1 year and 1 month when we get married. When you know, you know and no one can tell you differently. Our families are so happy for us and we couldn’t be happier either.

Post # 13
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368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I heard a little bit of opposition from my mom because I am a little young (21 when we got engaged, 22 when we will be married). She wanted to make sure I knew he was the man I wanted to be with. We have known each other for 8 years and were friends long before we ever dated, so it wasn’t like we rushed into anything. I guess now adays people are getting married around 25-30 age so she was just concerned at first, but she got over it. You have to do what you want to do, and what you are ready for. I’m sure no matter when people will have something to say, but it’s your life to live and if you know that he is the one then why wait.

Post # 14
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I would say that if you feel like this is the right thing to do, and he does too, and there are no outstanding issues, then go for it.  I was dating my now husband 3 weeks after meeting him (we got married about 15 months later) and my parents were engaged in two weeks, and have been married for 22 years…. I am 21.

If you love him and know that this is right (I did too…) then Yay!

Post # 15
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

AND!  Welcome to the ‘Bee!

Post # 16
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

We’re waiting to graduate college, because our family thinks it’s too soon if at least one of us hasn’t graduated. But we probably would have waited anyways for financial reasons!

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