Post # 1
Im a new bee and I’ve been engaged for about 5 months now. I get all sorts of looks when people notice my e-ring and it gets annoying after a while. My ring isn’t small by any means, it’s a 5 1/2 carat aqua surrounded by diamonds. The stone used to belong to my grandmother and I love it. But I just want to know what people really think about bigger e-rings.
Post # 2
there will be all kinds of people! Some will admire, some will judge, and some won’t notice.
Post # 3
Personally, I love larger stones. Who cares what anyone else thinks. If you love it, rock it with confidence! 🙂 That’s all that matters. I’m a sucker for colored gemstones and plan to have a large one for my own e-ring.
Post # 4
Big rings aren’t inherently good or bad. They may or may not be any one person’s style, but all that really matters is your style. That’s size, color, halos, metal, etc. If you love it, then who cares if other don’t! 5.5 carat is certainly what I would consider large, and I’m not a fan of halos, but I love aqua marine! I wouldn’t stress about it!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
Some people will like it, some people will not. It doesn’t really matters, as you are the one that has to love your ring.
Post # 6
Honestly, I’m not a fan of large rings. I wouldn’t purchase one because it’s not my style. However, I don’t think they are bad at all. All that really matters is that you love it! I think it’s awesome that you have a stone that was handed down from your grandma!
Post # 7
General concensus regarding large rings (outside of WB) are that the person wearing them is showing off and has too much money to know what’s good for them. I’m not saying I personally believe that, I just know I’ve heard it a thousand times from different people.
Post # 8
BlushingBride22: People will have an opinion about what evr you choose to have for an ering. If you’re happy with it that’s all that should matter. Please yourself as it relates to your choice of ering.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone! All of you had great things to say about big e-rings and I love that some of you expressed your honest opinions. I’ll prob feel less self conscious when I’m outside with it on now.
Post # 10
Also, if you already feel self-conscious about it you may think they are looking at your ring and judging you when maybe they just want to get a glance at that beautiful stone on your finger, or they may be actually thinking about the peice of spinach they are sure is still caught in their teeth from lunchtime!
And if someone makes any sort of comment about its size, I am sure a smile and a comment about the stone being a family heirloom will end any budding thoughts of snobbery or the like.
Post # 11
BlushingBride22: I think that rings of that size can look great, but they can also look over the top. Assuming you aren’t flashing yours around all the time (and it doesn’t sound like you are) I wouldn’t worry about it too much. People judge all ring sizes, regardless of how large or how small they are. As long as you’re happy with it don’t worry what people think. (:
Post # 12
You just can’t win trying to please folks.
If your ring is too small, you may get pity looks (no matter if it is a flawless Tiffany.) If it is large, you may get passive-aggressiveness and/ or jealousy. I saw a post somewhere going even further: people will also complain that diamonds are unethical, while stressing that colored gems are not traditional.
The morale of the story, again: who cares?
You love your ring and you are not hurting anybody. Unhappy/ judgemental people can kick rocks.